I May Have Been Outed.

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They undoubtedly already thought you were unusual. The label is just trivia.

Maybe they have been talking about it between themselves and wanted to see what happened when they labelled it out loud. Just to see what you said.

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What DoubleRetired said. So you're outed. So what?

First off...its your own family you're talking about (not coworkers or like that). If you cant confide to your own family about something like this than -its your family thats messed up. Not you.

Second its probably like if Richard Simmons, were to "come out of the closet as being gay" (as if anyone ever thought that he was straight).

You haven’t told anyone in your family that you are on the spectrum?

I probably wouldn’t have told my family if it wasn’t for the fact that they were pushing me to get tested to begin with.

My mom actually got huffy when I said that I didn’t think having ASD was a bad thing.

Apparently, it’s bad if you aren’t like everyone else.

I didn't exactly send announcements to my family (aunts, uncles, cousins) and I don't have nieces or nephews.
My family is spread out in five (!) countries and I barely talk to any of them.
The only family I have here in this country are two kids, my mum, and my brother.

I told my brother about myself and my daughter being ASD about a year after being tested.
It wasn't a secret, but it wasn't a big deal either.
He's likely ASD too but not remotely interested in being assessed.

We didn't bother telling my mum then, since she's in her 80s and still thinks autistic = ret*d.
My daughter told her a few times but she says my daughter's not ret*d.
She doesn't comment on me.
Then she forgets again and my daughter has to explain it all over again next time.
Again - daughter is defended and I'm not.

I told MR on our first date, more than a month before he knew my surname or my address.
First things first.

I told a few friends straight away and got mixed results.
Some were like "everyone is a little autistic" .
Most were like "well that explains everything!"

I never told any friends. I don’t have any. My parents told all of their JW family, friends, and acquaintances. They tried to pass it off as an excuse for why I’m not religious. (Since I’m autistic, I’m “not all there.”) I just cannot win.

I feel like I should fulfill my destiny and be a hermit in a cave somewhere, preferably while learning the ways of the Force.

At least you're not an openly autistic whose 'model' for autistics is to mask and advices every autistics out there to 'mask' as a sign of 'improvement'.

The worst thing is normalizing what isn't actually normal -- which is the survivorship bias of the so called successful.


I understand the pain of having a choice not to disclose, but found out in ways not as intended regardless of the reason -- whether being tricked, being too stressed out or is under influence.



Personally, I'm all about choices.

I wouldn't mind being outed if I choose the outcome of that and the basis of how I intended.
But not when I got outed in ways not intended, on the basis not intended.
Why emotional dysregulation is my biggest threat.

I've recently been questioned and complained over as being rude and rough.
In my mind, I was just being jest, busy and multitasking on my way on the 10th hour of work.

But no -- it had to be another of those ninnies whose expecting this concept of respect because they have a fricking job that had nothing to do with me.
And it mattered because it's one of those quiet but opinionated types with a job that demands that level of honor.

Other than that, I have no illusions about 'fooling' people that I'm not on the spectrum.
Only that I hate, hate, hate my expressions being misinterpreted as rude or worse simply because of my trouble inner state.

But enough about me.

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