Personal Issues and my WP involvement

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It is a holiday weekend so I will have some time to reply to different posts.

As part of the cleanup, we are finding family history. We found the baby book for my father who was born in 1928. My grandmother who died in 1964 was quite detailed. For instance, she was shopping for Japanese lanterns when her water broke. The book has places for different firsts, first smile, first crawl, etc. I was always under the impression that back then they were stoic and did not discuss these personal matters. I guess these baby books/diaries were their therapy before therapy was a known thing.

Also found were my high school and college diplomas from the ‘70s, my high school graduation program, and my cap and gown from one of the graduations.

Those are beautiful stories of a mother's love. I remember finding my birth footprint when I cleaned out my mother's home and a plastic toy skunk, that I loved when I was little when I cleaned out my father's stuff.

Take it one day at a time, you can do it. We are stronger than we know. My aunt liked to say "When God gives you bigger problems he also gives you bigger shoulders.

If the prices aren't too much, space in a storage unit near there might help you spread the work out and get some time to sift through things before you figure out whether to toss, give to someone appropriate, save, or sell.

Been there, done that. Start throwing things out now. Get some help if you need it.

You do you, AS. Take care, and we'll see you on the other side (and maybe in Autistic NYC chats).

Sorry to hear you have to move. Moving is indeed a huge and time-consuming pain.

Have you figured out where you'll be moving to? Will you still be on Long Island, or at least the NYC metro area?

It is certainly understandable that you'll need to take a break from WP (and possibly our chats). I look forward to seeing you again, whenever you are able to return.

You've provided a very valuable service here on WP.

Dear ASP Part ofMe, wish you all the best ..its a really tough one to let that stuff go..but when you "pass"someone
who will have no attachment and just toss it .Will have to do it.So a word,hopefully helpful , Anything you have not personally , pragmatically used within a year should be on the , leave behind or toss out table.
So be very pragmatic maybe if it does not serve you right now.. think about it going away. The thought process for me had to be unreasonably based on that process. No second guessing yourself. imho.
Family heirlooms can make you crazy. But imagine if all goes south..how are these things gonna help you if you have to live in a box. Cripes it was/ is can be / a painful process ..be kind to yourself while trying to get it done. Maybe ask for help just putting things in the dumpster or trash . ( Who is gonna care in a 100 years).
Save what you can in a small way that tugs the most at your heart strings, if you can
The whole thing was almost like its own greiving process .....Ration your Spoons during the process?

I have updates on a couple of matters all good.

The first and most important thing was that the stress test came out well. Since I had to use a chemical that dilates the blood vessels instead of the treadmill to exercise there were as expected uncomfortable and a bit scary side effects that lasted less than an hour. I did feel weird and tired the rest of the day. Due to a reading of a previous blood test my cardiologist doubled yet again my dosage of Lipitor. I hope I can tolerate that dosage.



We made an offer for a place that was that was accepted. It is not a done deal yet. Contracts have to be drawn up and accepted and so on. I can keep what furniture I want which will save a lot of time and effort.

Because of my family history of congestive heart failure, I was worried about some sort of heart operation messing up the move, or some heart-related disabilities making the new place unlivable. Not having to worry about that is a big deal.

Best wishes to you.

I don't know if this could be helpful, but this is how I handled moving out of my house a few years ago. I have chronic fatigue and was pretty much on my own to do the work, so I knew that cleaning out the house bit by bit would take me literally years. So I set up one empty room where I collected all the things I wanted to keep, which were only a few things, and almost no furniture. Then I gave away as much as I could. My late boyfriend's son came over and I had set aside some things I thought he might want and told him he could take anything he wanted. I found a charity that picked up donations so I could leave them on the porch after making a pick-up appointment. I did this several times. A local used furniture store came to the house with a truck and I let them pick up whatever they wanted. I arranged for the city to pick up (at the curb) old electronic equipment for recycling.

Once I had saved the things I wanted and had given away as much as I could, I hired a clean-up company to come and take everything else. That way I didn't have to do any work that involved removing unwanted things or removing trash. They were just what was left, and the clean-up company cleared them all out.

I was in the wilderness when you posted, so just reading this now.

I’m very glad to hear the health situation seems to be okay. Great news.

Good luck on the sorting. I am not good at that, so can commiserate.