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01 Oct 2023, 3:16 pm

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This woman talked to me last night and said "For Halloween you should dress up as Jimmy Saville" 8O


I think it's safe to say that she doesn't fancy you then Jamesy. You need to stay away from these dickheads. Seriously. I'd rather have no friends at all than spend my time with people who are more than happy to disrespect me in that way.



Calling me a pedophile basically

The women who made the remark was 30 by the way


You can call someone a pedo at any age.

I actually don't think these people actually believe that you are a pedo or else you wouldn't be able to walk into that particular pub. I just think they're malicious people. You can do better than to associate with them Jamesy.




My brother once said at that particular pub/bar that I look really out of place there.



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01 Oct 2023, 3:20 pm

Well I've never seen you Jamesy but you strike me as the kind of person who may look a little bit lost.

Like you've been delivered by Evri.


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01 Oct 2023, 3:28 pm

That's not the case at all. And it works in reverse too. Men who talk to women or initiate contact with women don't necessarily 'fancy' them. Sometimes they may contact women simply to have a conversation with a female, in a platonic way.

If someone was comparing you to Jimmy Saville, Jamesy, I would quickly break ties with that person as obviously they are not very nice people to do that.



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01 Oct 2023, 3:30 pm

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That's not the case at all. And it works in reverse too. Men who talk to women or initiate contact with women don't necessarily 'fancy' them. Sometimes they may contact women simply to have a conversation with a female, in a platonic way.

If someone was comparing you to Jimmy Saville, Jamesy, I would quickly break ties with that person as obviously they are not very nice people to do that.



When I was younger I hardly ever went out on the weekends and I felt depressed because of it.



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01 Oct 2023, 3:33 pm

I am usually the opposite.

A nice attractive store associate lady struck up a conversation with me... when I was counting her dept store with inventory company I work for.

She said "i would get tired of that beeping sound your counting machine makes". There are things we get tired of but that is not one of them. So I tried to explain to her that the beeping sound is a "welcome thing" because it means data is successfully going into your machine so you can move forward and blah blah.

Like a day later it dawned on me that she was just making conversation and was probably flirting with me. That I shoudnt have been so dense.



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01 Oct 2023, 3:34 pm

Jamesy wrote:
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That's not the case at all. And it works in reverse too. Men who talk to women or initiate contact with women don't necessarily 'fancy' them. Sometimes they may contact women simply to have a conversation with a female, in a platonic way.

If someone was comparing you to Jimmy Saville, Jamesy, I would quickly break ties with that person as obviously they are not very nice people to do that.



When I was younger I hardly ever went out on the weekends and I felt depressed because of it.


Do you feel depressed now, Jamesy?



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01 Oct 2023, 3:42 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
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That's not the case at all. And it works in reverse too. Men who talk to women or initiate contact with women don't necessarily 'fancy' them. Sometimes they may contact women simply to have a conversation with a female, in a platonic way.

If someone was comparing you to Jimmy Saville, Jamesy, I would quickly break ties with that person as obviously they are not very nice people to do that.



When I was younger I hardly ever went out on the weekends and I felt depressed because of it.


Do you feel depressed now, Jamesy?



Not really although I wish when I do go out on that one day in the week (Saturday) that I could control my drinking better.



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01 Oct 2023, 3:44 pm

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
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That's not the case at all. And it works in reverse too. Men who talk to women or initiate contact with women don't necessarily 'fancy' them. Sometimes they may contact women simply to have a conversation with a female, in a platonic way.

If someone was comparing you to Jimmy Saville, Jamesy, I would quickly break ties with that person as obviously they are not very nice people to do that.



When I was younger I hardly ever went out on the weekends and I felt depressed because of it.


Do you feel depressed now, Jamesy?



Not really although I wish when I do go out on that one day in the week (Saturday) that I could control my drinking better.


There are plenty of British folk who excessively drink. You are not alone, at least. :skull:



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01 Oct 2023, 3:45 pm

I'm the same. I just knock em back. Especially if I've not had much to eat.

I know about it the next day though.


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01 Oct 2023, 3:48 pm

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I'm the same. I just knock em back. Especially if I've not had much to eat.

I know about it the next day though.



Yeah same here and what’s worse you regret embarrassing yourself the next day



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01 Oct 2023, 3:51 pm

How have you embarrassed yourself


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01 Oct 2023, 4:20 pm

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How have you embarrassed yourself



Yeah sure I have



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02 Oct 2023, 2:27 pm

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This woman talked to me last night and said "For Halloween you should dress up as Jimmy Saville"

You should have told her to piss off.

I block and report people on message boards and chat rooms for saying that.


Have to admit it's a pretty good line. Maybe Jamesy thought it up himself.



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05 Oct 2023, 10:09 pm

because 99 percent of women will never start an interaction with a guy first



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05 Oct 2023, 10:14 pm

Where did you get that number from?



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06 Oct 2023, 3:17 am

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because 99 percent of women will never start an interaction with a guy first
Some wonen don't initiate friendship with guys due to guys tending to assume the woman must be interested in more. Women don't want to get blamed for leading a guy on. However fewer women initiating friendship with guys will contribute to guys having that assumption.


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