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15 Oct 2023, 10:33 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Don't follow women around whether you like them or not next time.

Sometimes it's not easy for me to control myself. But yeah your right I do need to learn to control my urges.

The girl I like has been with her boyfriend since the late 2000s.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:35 am

babybird wrote:

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Jamesy.

Do not associate yourself with women at bars. Only a fool would do that! Stay away from such places.

Go to men only places instead where you can be safe.

You being sarcastic?

No he's not. He's exaggerating a bit though but I think you need to try and understand that pubs and nightclubs aren't like the school disco. They're not necessarily places where you're gonna find a girlfriend. Not these days anyway.

Why would it be hard to find a girlfriend when there is so many women who frequent the places? Me being 34 a lot of them are to young I agree but depending on where you there are lots of women as well in different age groups.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:44 am

Because women go out to have a good time with their friends and not necessarily to hook up with guys. That kind of behaviour is quite out of date.

I was out with my daughter a couple of Christmas eves ago and a guy just stood at our table staring at us. It was really odd. I didn't know him so we just moved.

A couple of months ago I was out in a bar and a guy just sat at our table and started talking to us. I told him to f*ck off as I was having a private conversation. He got aggressive then and the doormen had to get involved.

On both occasions I didn't ask or even indicate to either men that I wanted them in my company.

There are rules in society and these apply even in public bars. It's called respecting people's boundaries and privacy.

Don't think you're on your own though Jamesy. Lots of people struggle with this.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:49 am

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Some of the security came over the road from the other club i left and went into the pub i was in last night. Let's just say for the rest of the night they had there eyes on me.

That one doormen who said to me "They are trying to protect the girls" came into the pub I was in briefly no doubt to inform the other bouncers about my behaviour.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:53 am

They will have there eyes on you. All the doormen know each other. They talk to each other. If you get kicked out of a place there's very little chance you're gonna get into another place that night.

If you like going out and you don't mind going out on your own then just be happy to accept that on your own you're gonna be unless someone invites you into their circle. But you can't just go inviting yourself in. It just doesn't work that way round.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:55 am

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Well I always accept strangers hanging out with me when I am at the pub and I am reserved (unless I drink alcohol) I might feel uncomftable but I would not tell then to f**k off.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:56 am

Jamesy, why don't you look back through your old threads and see what responses you were given? We've discussed this topic with you many, many times.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:58 am

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Jamesy, why don't you look back through your old threads and see what you responses you were given? We've discussed this topic with you many, many times.

Yeah I know you said I need to make an effort to change my behaviour.

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15 Oct 2023, 10:59 am

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Well I always accept strangers hanging out with me when I am at the pub and I am reserved (unless I drink alcohol) I might feel uncomftable but I would not tell then to f**k off.

Yeah I know but not everyone is like you are.

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15 Oct 2023, 11:03 am

babybird wrote:

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Well I always accept strangers hanging out with me when I am at the pub and I am reserved (unless I drink alcohol) I might feel uncomftable but I would not tell then to f**k off.

Yeah I know but not everyone is like you are.

Well I don't understand why people having an issue with someone joining there social circle on a night out . If someone unhinged joined me and my friends I would not like it though but if there pleasent then what is the issue?

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15 Oct 2023, 11:05 am

It's just how it is. "That's life" as they say.

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15 Oct 2023, 11:08 am

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It's just how it is. "That's life" as they say.

Okay then so from a social groups point of view why might it anger them if a stranger joins there circle or even an aquatence uninvited?

There are obviously times when you should back of like if it's a couple out on there own.

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15 Oct 2023, 11:16 am

OK then why would a person from outside of a particular social group want to just latch on uninvited?

You can just casually say hello at the bar or something and then see if you get invited and if you do then fantastic but if you don't then just say on your own.

There's no shame in having a couple of drinks in a bar on your own. I've done it countless times.

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15 Oct 2023, 11:18 am

So the world of sexual attention and sexual activity is one of those corners of human life where human life only has as much value as it originally had in nature, which is practically zero.

With that in mind try to be smart about who you set your attention on because, most often, they'd be wasting it or worse.

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15 Oct 2023, 11:23 am

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wasting it or worse?

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15 Oct 2023, 11:37 am

A bit silly to follow a woman around who already has a long term boyfriend

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