Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps

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27 Jul 2024, 12:45 pm

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I am talking government rules. Not dating app rules.
Why would the government rules be different for guys than women or apply to guys differently than women :?:


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27 Jul 2024, 12:54 pm

I used some autistic dating sites & on the legit ones I checked the number of guys & the number of women. The ratio of guys to women on those sites was about 10 to 1. Meaning there were about ten times more guys than women on autistic dating sites. Reasons for the mega huge gender imbalance are that there tends to be more guys than women on dating sites in general, some of the sites I've used that showed how many guys & women users there were had two or three times the amount of guys as women. Various things online claim that autism is diagnosed 4x more in guys than women & 4 x 2= 8.


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27 Jul 2024, 1:32 pm

nick007 wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
I am talking government rules. Not dating app rules.
Why would the government rules be different for guys than women or apply to guys differently than women :?:


They do in UK. EU thingies...



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27 Jul 2024, 1:42 pm

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Basically, you got it right, that's the basic gist of the video. It did mention that this applies only on the heterosexual scene.


Makes sense. I just felt like throwing a bit of anecdote on the end since we were on the topic of dating apps.

I don't know what I'd suggest to improve dating apps and sites. Or how people even meet these days. I'm hoping I have an easier time once I move out of my small town.

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Not sure I really follow Mountain Goat's point. Are we talking about the recent hate speech laws in Scotland? Or data laws?

There are women's groups? For what? And that's related to dating somehow? Huh. I may be a bit out of the loop with the goings on with Scottish men. :?


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27 Jul 2024, 1:43 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
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I am talking government rules. Not dating app rules.
Why would the government rules be different for guys than women or apply to guys differently than women :?:


They do in UK. EU thingies...


Can you cite any examples of these 'EU thingies'?


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27 Jul 2024, 2:41 pm

Is known as hate crimes, but also some parts are under the various discrimination along with other discrimination actz which specifically discriminate against straight white men because the act assumes that straight white men are the criminal element against the "Victims" which are either ethnic minorities, those who are not straight or those who are women depending on which act one is looking at.

In all cases, the outward complience means that women or ethnic minorities of those of a non-straight composure have to jump the queue when it comes to job applications, housing or various other similar things to give them an "Equal" status, but in the areas of the country where there zre extreme job shortages, men don't even get considered, and the chances of promotion are zero.



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27 Jul 2024, 2:46 pm

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Is known as hate crimes, but also some parts are under the various discrimination along with other discrimination actz which specifically discriminate against straight white men because the act assumes that straight white men are the criminal element against the "Victims" which are either ethnic minorities, those who are not straight or those who are women depending on which act one is looking at.


Ah, so it's just right-wing martyr complex stuff, rather than something real. Understood.


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27 Jul 2024, 2:54 pm

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There’s no difference between sites and apps; just different access mediums. The Okcupid app and the Okcupid site for instance have access to the same data, same algorithm, same users… etc.

The old Okcupid worked so much better I recall before it becomes another Tinder clone; basically because you had a chance for your intro message to stand out.
Now, your pic has to stand out first.

OK Cupid was the best before it got sold, I haven't used any of these sites in years due to being married, but the point where I stopped even trying there was when you needed both parties to agree to the messaging before you were allowed to send a message. I went from getting some sort of response about half the time to getting hardly any responses at all.

The regular reports about what people in general were doing on the site was both helpful and interesting.

In general the biggest issue with the sites is that they don't solve the problem of women saying they want things they don't actually respond to. And they don't really do much to discourage men from spamming a bunch of lazy attempts at connecting in the form of cut and paste messages.


The Tinder formula does solve this issue tho, because the women have full control of the number of men who may message them. That's its major upside.

That doesn't solve anything useful as they have no idea about the guys before granting access.



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27 Jul 2024, 3:39 pm

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Is known as hate crimes, but also some parts are under the various discrimination along with other discrimination actz which specifically discriminate against straight white men because the act assumes that straight white men are the criminal element against the "Victims" which are either ethnic minorities, those who are not straight or those who are women depending on which act one is looking at.


Ah, so it's just right-wing martyr complex stuff, rather than something real. Understood.



You mean left wing! Right wing is the opposite meaning regarding the subject here in the UK.



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27 Jul 2024, 3:41 pm

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Is known as hate crimes, but also some parts are under the various discrimination along with other discrimination actz which specifically discriminate against straight white men because the act assumes that straight white men are the criminal element against the "Victims" which are either ethnic minorities, those who are not straight or those who are women depending on which act one is looking at.


Ah, so it's just right-wing martyr complex stuff, rather than something real. Understood.



You mean left wing! Right wing is the opposite meaning regarding the subject here in the UK.


No, I mean right wing. The whole idea that straight white men are somehow being oppressed is a right-wing talking point, whether in the English speaking world or beyond it.


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27 Jul 2024, 3:43 pm

Ah. I get what you mean. I assumed you meant the ones who were creating the issue.



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27 Jul 2024, 3:47 pm

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Ah. I get what you mean. I assumed you meant the ones who were creating the issue.


Yeah, the whole idea that hate crime laws or similar hurt straight white men really just comes off like an example of that saying to those used to privilege equality feels like oppression.


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27 Jul 2024, 3:58 pm

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Ah. I get what you mean. I assumed you meant the ones who were creating the issue.


Yeah, the whole idea that hate crime laws or similar hurt straight white men really just comes off like an example of that saying to those used to privilege equality feels like oppression.


What causes the issues in the UK are not that one does not want to give everyone an equal status. It is how they do that that is the problem. If they helped the minorities or underpriveledged in a different way to bring them up to the standards of those who were seen to have the advantage then it would not be an issue, but what they do here is oust people from senior jobs to put others in their place, or deny all chances of even applying for those positions so that the lesser priveledged can get the positions and it has not only created the odd company to fail or other issues, but has also pushed those who used to be in those positions into poverty.

I remember an elderly man in tears saying how he had months left to go to retire after being in the company since he was 14, and he had lost his job and his pension because of the outplaying results of the sex equality law. He did not know what he was going to do and there was nothing I could do to help him.

(Sorry... Just noticed. We could do with a different thread).



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27 Jul 2024, 8:46 pm

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Mountain Goat wrote:
I am talking government rules. Not dating app rules.
Why would the government rules be different for guys than women or apply to guys differently than women?
You would be better informed to pose that question to Christian Fundamentalists than to any member of WP.


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28 Jul 2024, 1:16 am

I don't use dating apps because there are lots of scammers on them. And even if I did, it would be a waste of time, because nobody in Houston has the same interests.

That said, this is the guide to dating I wish I had about 25 years ago:

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28 Jul 2024, 1:36 am

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I don't use dating apps because there are lots of scammers on them. And even if I did, it would be a waste of time, because nobody in Houston has the same interests.

That said, this is the guide to dating I wish I had about 25 years ago:

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How anyone can resist THAT?