Being attractive to bypass need for masking?

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Your truly setting yourself up for a life of unhappiness.

I think your advice, while excellent, is wasted on the OP. Anyone who seriously talks about easily replacing his girlfriend and buying friends isn't a "good guy."

There is a saying that you can't be too thin or too rich!

I have a thin hourglass figure that allows me to look great in just about everything.
I can wear a 2 piece bikini and look good to myself in the mirror.
Most woman can't do that. That is the "gold standard" of female self acceptance.

A lot of female fashion is about hiding perceived flaws.
With a tiny 2 piece bikini there is no place to hide.

He doesn't plan to replace his girlfriend. He expects she'll eventually dump him and then he'll have to find another partner.

I doubt you'll ever be rich. You should work on the attractive bit.

Being attractive certainly doesn't hurt.
Good looking people seem to be able to get away with a lot more than the less attractive.
And if you're not attractive already, you can be made more so by the application of alcohol.

Interesting. Where exactly should I apply it? All over, or just on the unattractive bits?

You apply it to the beverages consumed by others in the same room.

Well, I wish I'd known that before I filled the bathtub with vodka.

It could be a cultural thing. Perhaps the way to make yourself attractive to others in Queensland is by reeking of alcohol. Plus there, if those in your vicinity have beverages, one can assume that it's beer. So my previous interpretation is most likely invalid.

Now that I think about it. Sitting in this bathtub of vodka is just going to pickle me, thus preserving my unattractiveness for even longer.

That's the last time I follow advice off the internet.

I can't be bothered to follow NT standards. I'm a modern-day reincarnation of Sgt Schultz from Hogan's Heroes and that doesn't bother me. I'd rather be the way I am than good looking and conceited like some people.

I've never been rich or had a high power job.
Connections and reputation were helpful
I used to have enough looks and style.
Was never lame, always awkward, only obnoxious on red wine (learned early to avoid that)

I'm not sure how I successfully accomplished the shy, cute and quirky transition, but I'm fairly sure masking wasn't part of the strategy. I don't compromise my oddity.

What helped me most was having the balls (or frustration) to be able to walk up, smile and say "hi". I do suspect being really tall was a major advantage too.

Yes, height is huge factor in how men are treated.

Tall men get respect. Short men do not.

People are always more tolerant of pretty. That's true.

Pretty is all but impossible to maintain over time. That's true too.

I say live for who you are and what you choose to do, not what you look like.

I am comfortably ugly, and I am the man I choose to be, isolation and all.

As a teenager, I thought I was unattractive because that is how my peers treated me. Looking back, I now understand that wasn't true. For example, twice I participated in summer abroad programs with teens from other towns, and when participants first met, I can recall a lot of girls enthusiastically approaching me, eager to meet. But in a short time, all or most would get the ick. I even experienced making out with girls I'd just met, but was never able to get any sort of relationship established.

As a young adult, a few young women, whose primary interest was casual sex, chose me as a convenient partner (casual hook-ups were a far bigger challenge for women in the days before Tinder!) which would never have happened had my physical appearance not met some sort of standard.

Had I been less attractive, those sexual encounters wouldn't have happened, and I would have likely drifted towards the incel side of the spectrum. In fact, I was probably headed in a somewhat incel-like direction before losing my virginity, and I can't help feeling some sympathy for today's incels, as I could see becoming one myself, had I been born a few decades later.

As for money — duh. There's no way a penniless romantic can compete with a well-off rival with otherwise comparable attractiveness, in today's world where young people experience so much financial insecurity. Plus money bestows confidence. Long gone are the days when groupies would eagerly hook up with a vagrant dude who lived in a panel van with a mattress in the back, if unable to score an actual rock star for the night.