stratozyck wrote:
My son Leo is 6, he turns 7 in 3 mos. He makes us miserable. I am so depressed about it that I regret my life choices.
He doesn't talk, and does not communicate at all. If he's thirsty he won't tell you, same with hunger.
He won't keep clothes on, or a diaper. He poops on the floor and pees in our f*****g vents (this started recently).
We don't have much carpet left as we've replaced it because of him, but we do have some downstairs. He rips it up. He shreds things obsessively - he is obviously OCD as well. Just shreds things. Rips up the padding underneath the carpet and exposes the nails.
His favorite thing to do recently is to take his sibling's drinks and dump them down the vent. He dumps food down there as well. As a result, we have a fruit fly infestation that we are struggling to contain. I would put up traps but he would destroy them.
Everything he can access, he destroys. He rips holes in walls. Rips the wallpaper off. The worst part about his lack of potty training is HE WAS POTTY TRAINED FOR A FEW MONTHS. ARG. He reverted hard at age 3. I got him using a potty at age 2 but then he stopped.
He also loves negative attention. Loves pissing us off to get a reaction from us. He goes after your possessions and breaks them just to see you get mad. If you leave a drink down, he will dump it out on the floor.
He flips out at the smallest of things. Because of him, we have locks on every room and we installed a door in the kitchen and a lock. He flips the f**k out when we kick him out of the kitchen.
Oh and another "fun" habit. He also pees on doors. He likes to pee on doorways and the result is we step in it a lot. Its awful.
I am honestly dealing with severe depression because of him. I take him to the toilet about 1 time every 60-90 minutes and he sits on it and does nothing. Then I'll see him peeing in a vent or on a door like 5 minutes later. I have even stopped him and taken him to toilet and he doesn't go.
I've become do disillusioned with life because the advice we read doesn't offer any help. Here is the typical advice:
1. "Have you tried talking to him?" (UGH WTF DID YOU NOT HEAR ME WHEN I SAID THE DUDE DOES NOT F'KING COMMUNICATE)
2. "Put him in underwear and not diapers so he knows when he pees." (UGH DID YOU NOT HEAR ME I SAID HE RIPS IT OFF LIKE IMMEDIATELY)
3. "Take him to the toilet at a regular schedule." (UGH I HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG ASS TIME AND WHAT I GOT FOR IT SO FAR IS HE FLUSHED A BUNCH OF STUFF DOWN THE TOILET AND CLOGGED IT)
Yes, if I am not careful he will stuff things in the toilet and flush it. He got a box of nails I did not realize was under the sink and flushed it. He tosses whatever he can get his hands onto down the toilet.
Its like he is the most obnoxious person that has ever walked the face of this earth. He's caused 10s of thousands of dollars worth of damage to my house. I absolutely hate that we are left to deal with this ourselves.
Not everybody is cut out for living in a house with nice things with others, some are better off on the natural earth and living as nature intended. Perhaps a shed in the back with earth where he can pee where he pleases and where it does not matter so much what he does. These type of situations can be handled with careful architecture. That is how people have been handling things for a long time. By putting him in a house with normal folk, you are asking too much of him and setting impossible expectations, not fair to yourself or to him.
But I don't know, the state sometimes has rules and puts parents in prison, if things aren't just so. You might want to call on the state and ask what help is available and what you are expected to do in this situation, in order to abide by the laws. I know a lot of parents struggle with this, and some get put into prison. So, you definitely want to conform with the laws and do what is mandated.
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19 Dec 2024, 5:54 pm
