Under what circumstances would you get back with an ex?

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Why do you want to be in a relationship and what do you expect to get out of it? I think that if being in this kind of relationship makes you happy, then you might as well give it a try.

Also, it may help to know what does your ex expect to get from this relationship? Does he have needs that can be met by being in a relationship with you?

When you are desperate, you grasp anything you can get your hands on...

Full disclosure: I have never resumed a relationship with somebody with whom I had a serious prior relationship, who dumped me and then reached out later. I once had a relationship with someone who had "gone out" with me but then became serious with someone else, then reached out a year later after her previous relationship ended. That same person then dumped me, but reached out in a sort of half-assed way about a year after that, sort of came on to me, but I didn't take the bait as I assumed she'd just dump me again. Although I did go out to dinner with her once after that, but she didn't make any move that time.

Another time somebody I had dumped convinced me to visit her but once she and I found ourselves alone together in her bedroom, things started back up. I eventually dumped her again. Not proud. I could explain my behavior if someone wants.

But still, I would go back to an ex if they gave me enough reason to be optimistic about the outcome, including some frank discussion of why things hadn't worked out the first time, and why I shouldn't let that worry me. I think any opportunity to have a SO in life is worth considering, but of course every situation is different.

I don't think I would, full stop, even if I still liked them. At the end of the day, we'd still be the same people, meaning whatever interaction between us destroyed the relationship is likely to happen again. People don't change their personalities.

Well, I only really have one ex, even though I kinda have two others from the internet... My one ex, IDK... She ghosted me. It hurt a whole lot. It's been almost a decade and now we live far away from each other (as far as I know. Even in the slim chance she moved, I can't imagine she moved to the same state I did. That would be a huge coincidence lol). I have long since fallen out of love and am not attracted to her at all anymore. So... her coming back to me wouldn't make any sense at all. And I'm pretty unhappy with the way she treated me when she ghosted me... I mean it's her right to not have me in her life, but it's also my right now to leave it that way if she changes her mind. But I don't really know how in the world I would react and I have been single for so long and my love life has been so hopeless aside from that time I had with her...

I suppose if somebody I'd been seeing left me for somebody else, but managed to remain at least somewhat friendly i.e. if they called I would be willing to talk with them, then some time later reached out to tell me the other person hadn't worked out and they came to understand they were happier with me, and I wasn't by then with somebody else, then I would probably give them another chance. I would likely tell them I wanted a fair amount of reassurance they really mean it this time.

This actually sort of happened to me. Not really an ex, but somebody I'd gone on dates with outside a serious relationship, who was showing signs of interest in something more serious, was apparently trying to choose between me and somebody else, and decided to get serious with that other person. A year later she unexpectedly called and apologized by saying she'd been mean to me in the past and would I forgive her? I don't remember if she actually asked me to forgive her, but I distinctly remember her confession about having been mean. She and I then dated seriously for several months. How the relationship ended is complicated, but it wasn't because she dumped me for someone else but because she basically decided I wasn't husband material (to simplify to some degree). I don't regret having dated her under such circumstances, it is mostly a fond memory for me.