After Trump’s win, some women are considering the 4B movemen

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Today, 4:25 am

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Here is something tangentially related to the topic

https://www.yahoo.com/news/opinion-why- ... 09505.html

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Opinion: Why did so many men vote for Trump? He reminded them they matter.

Are men really necessary?

Based on last week's election results and exit polling, the answer is a resounding yes.

America needs a Republican duo like Donald Trump and JD Vance to right its course...

...A lot of Americans voted to reelect former President Trump in this election, nearly 75 million ‒ including myself. But the demographic who voted the most for Trump is men, including Latino men, white men and men without a college degree.

For decades, extremists on the political and social left has told America's men loudly and often that they are stupid, predatory and unnecessary.

Painted by influential progressives in higher education, the entertainment industry and the news media as ignorant, loathsome and incompetent, America's men had their revenge on Election Day.

They voted for Trump in huge numbers....

...For years, the phrase "toxic masculinity" took over discussions about men. Any success by men was discounted as a privilege of the patriarchy. The #MeToo movement presumed men guilty until proven innocent.

Men were told not so subtly to be quiet and to fade away. They were more dangerous than a bear in the woods. And less necessary than a fish with a bicycle.

The Harris campaign doubled down on this narrative, focusing on young women to the point of pandering. She hung out on "The View" and "Call Her Daddy," and snubbed Rogan's invitation to speak to the millions of young men who listen to his podcast.

Trump and Vance sent a very different message: Men, you belong. Men, we appreciate you. Men who are masculine, kind, hardworking and family-oriented. You are necessary and you are vital. We will work together to fix what's broken so the people we love are safe and thrive....



I didn't feel that the Harris campaign was being misandrist at all. But, maybe a significant number of people of my gender did feel that way.

I didn't think that anyone was still talking about "toxic masculinity" or "patriarchy"--I had thought that those issues had been buried in the past.


Unfortunately, I think some Americans think simply the fact that Harris a woman was running for president, was misandrist.


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Today, 8:58 am

Typical cut off your nose to spite your face act.

The idiocy of virtue signalling

The world simply won’t care but the people doing this will have to live with their decisions

When they explain their decision people will just think they were dumb to believe it would have an impact

The virtue signallers will just end up disappointed and angry at others who don’t go along with behaviour and that others don’t care

Reminds me of those that glue themselves to the road to protest climate change

You think the Chinese or Indians will care as they fire up another of their coal power stations to power their billion each population, but they will be left with disfigurement and physical pain with nothing achieved


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Today, 9:07 am

It wouldn’t surprise me at all if some men dislike it. That’s kind of the whole point. As it stands, a rapist has been elected President. Misogyny and harassment is currently continues to be a huge problem. I’ve experienced it. It makes perfect sense why some would choose to join this movement. I’d imagine that others are naturally joining it because the current state of affairs seems like it’d be a natural mood killer to a lot of women, especially those who utilize online platforms and have experienced or observed harassment or who heard dismissive comments being made about that and related issues.



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Today, 9:16 am

I guess the saying “opposites attract” is dated.

One of the main reasons I never voted for Trump is because he is criminally misogynist. That said I know die hard MAGA’s that treat their wives and daughters wonderfully. There are a lot of Trump voters who say while I would never allow myself or my daughter's near the guy morality is not the job description. I strongly disagree with them but does make them toxic? As they say “It’s complicated”.


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It wouldn’t surprise me at all if some men dislike it. That’s kind of the whole point. As it stands, a rapist has been elected President. Online misogyny and harassment is currently a huge problem. I’ve experienced it. It makes perfect sense why some would choose to join this movement. I’d imagine that others are naturally joining it because the current state of affairs seems like it’d be a natural mood killer to a lot of women, especially those who utilize online platforms and have experienced or observed harassment or who heard dismissive comments being made about that and related issues.

I don’t judge other peoples dating preferences, to each her own etc. I understand why now is an
especially emotionally raw time.


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I don’t really think it’s all that complicated. They voted for someone who has a history of blatant misogyny - a history of demeaning, sexually harassing, and raping women. Enough said. Even if they wouldn’t want their daughters near such a person, they didn’t think his misogyny was a big enough problem not to vote for him. I suspect that, while many Trump supporters appear to treat women decently, it’s very likely that many of them have some degree of sexism going on, including internalized, even if it’s not readily apparent. Evangelical Christianity in America often features sexism, and such Christians are some of his staunchest supporters.

IMO, it’s not even so much about morality. It’s about human rights and criminal behavior. If someone violates human rights and/or commits crimes, they shouldn’t be in the White House. Pushing back against his supporters and enablers seems reasonable.

It is an especially raw time, but it’s something that has been building over time, I think. It’s a wonder something like 4B didn’t happen sooner because serious female issues/concerns continue to be overlooked or, at least, not adequately addressed.



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Today, 12:01 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
Nicole Russell wrote:
...For decades, extremists on the political and social left has told America's men loudly and often that they are stupid, predatory and unnecessary.

Painted by influential progressives in higher education, the entertainment industry and the news media as ignorant, loathsome and incompetent, America's men had their revenge on Election Day....

...For years, the phrase "toxic masculinity" took over discussions about men. Any success by men was discounted as a privilege of the patriarchy. The #MeToo movement presumed men guilty until proven innocent.

Men were told not so subtly to be quiet and to fade away. They were more dangerous than a bear in the woods. And less necessary than a fish with a bicycle.

The Harris campaign doubled down on this narrative,...


Unfortunately, I think some Americans think simply the fact that Harris a woman was running for president, was misandrist.


Interestingly, the author of the article, Nicole Russell, is female. Some more of her material: https://www.usatoday.com/staff/73221959 ... e-russell/

The Harris campaign wasn't pushing an anti-male campaign at all, that I could tell. Certainly not "doubling down" on the narrative. She even couldn't be baited into calling Trump's supporters "stupid."

Trump seemed to be pushing anti-female agenda, quite aggressively.

Yet, a lot lot of women not only voted for him, but openly adore him.

I wonder why. Maybe they regard him as "confident" and "sexy." He gets their juices flowing, one way or another.

Or, do some women simply not want to see another woman succeed?


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Today, 12:04 pm

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I wonder why. Maybe they regard him as "confident" and "sexy." He gets their juices flowing, one way or another.

Or, do some women simply not want to see another woman succeed?

Neither of these possibilities are likely on a wide scale. I think it’s more about firmly entrenched, conservative values.



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Today, 12:08 pm

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Neither of these possibilities are likely on a wide scale. I think it’s more about firmly entrenched, conservative values.


Trump isn't really a "conservative", though. He is a narcissistic sociopath. A television celebrity. And, a fascist/autocrat.


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Today, 12:18 pm

A person can be all those things AND conservative. He was the Republican candidate. Many people cling to the Republican Party as they cling to religion. I know a lot of people like that. In addition to that, some think he will be good for the economy although sometimes it seems more like an excuse to support their stance.

Still, a greater percentage of women voted for Harris than Trump. I would’ve thought the gap would be wider, though.



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https://apnews.com/article/election-har ... b858f22d12

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Trump benefitted from narrow gains among both men and women, with Harris modestly underperforming compared with Biden in 2020.

Harris had the advantage among women, winning 53% to Trump’s 46%, but that margin was somewhat narrower than Biden’s. Biden won 55% of women, while 43% went for Trump. His support held steady among white women — slightly more than half supported him, similar to 2020.



It doesn't seem quite fair to postulate that men voted for Trump on account of "blatant misogyny", whereas women voted for Trump because of "firmly entrenched, conservative values."


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I didn’t say or claim that “blatant misogyny” was responsible for men voting for Trump although it appears to have played a significant role for a small subset of male voters. Overall, it’s more complex than that, but sexism plays some role nonetheless. I said: “They [Trump voters] voted for someone who has a history of blatant misogyny - a history of demeaning, sexually harassing, and raping women.”

And also: “I suspect that, while many Trump supporters appear to treat women decently, it’s very likely that many of them have some degree of sexism going on, including internalized, even if it’s not readily apparent.” (Internalized sexism in this context is sexism women feel towards themselves and/or other women. Like other forms of sexism or bigotry for that matter, it stems from one’s environment.)

Sexism has always been present in the Republican Party/among conservatives in America. Some of that is tied up in religion. The 4B movement also encompasses issues surrounding abortion and (online) harassment. It’s not solely about Trump although Trump’s win has led to some men more openly espousing hate and entitlement towards women - “Your Body, My Choice,” not that that or similar sentiments are new or unheard of. I experienced some particularly vile sexual harassment online a month ago. It seems to be a fairly common experience which is likely why some women are interested in trying new tactics.



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Today, 2:23 pm

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Internalized sexism in this context is sexism women feel towards themselves and/or other women.


So, for some women, voting for Trump was a matter of self-loathing? I suppose it might make sense.

I will say one thing for Trump--he is probably the most conspicuously successful con artist that the country has ever seen.

Another successful con: whoever it was who persuaded a lot of women that they absolutely had to damage their feet with overpriced high-heeled shoes.

https://www.footdoc.org/blog/how-bad-ar ... trists.cfm

Jessica Simpson sells a lot of them: https://jessicasimpson.com/

Jessica Simpson wrote:

https://www.bustle.com/articles/70116-j ... e-probably

“The best fashion advice? To me, that’s the deepest question. I think the best fashion advice would be, ‘[Even] if your feet hurt, wear the shoes.'”


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TwilightPrincess wrote:
Internalized sexism in this context is sexism women feel towards themselves and/or other women.


So, for some women, voting for Trump was a matter of self-loathing? I suppose it might make sense.

No, I never claimed it was that simple because it’s not. Sexism played some role. That is all. Being anti-choice, for example, is inherently sexist, but there’s typically more going on with folks who hold that stance than sexism alone.

I think political views are most often too complex to be easily summed up by one or two things. It is clear that sexism is a serious issue that deserves a lot of attention, though.

I don’t think 4B will take off, but I hope it serves to raise awareness about female issues/concerns, especially those related to abortion, sexual harassment, and sexual assault.



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If people were voting based on who would make the better president, then Kamala Harris would have won. But, I suspect that something more on a subconscious level is going on, particularly among the neurotypicals.

In the psychology profession, there is a fair amount of literature on women derogating other women in order to improve their chances of reproductive success with high-status males. For example,

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/a ... %2C%202017).

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...Individuals can therefore improve their own net reproductive success by negatively impacting the reproductive success of same sex rivals. For females, reproductive success hinges on gaining access to the highest quality males, while preventing rivals from doing the same. To this end, women engage in intrasexual competition to reduce their female rivals' mate value, and to influence males' mate choices, to ultimately maximise their own net reproductive success. Female intrasexual competition involves much indirect aggression, where a rival's actual or apparent mate quality is lowered, or participation in the mating market hampered, by derogation, gossip, social exclusion, and intimidation...

...Female intrasexual competition tends not to involve physical aggression. Female bodies are especially vulnerable to damage from violent conflict, and indirect aggression is especially well-suited to thwarting other women's mate attraction efforts. It may include gossiping, derogation, and exclusion as well as rival manipulation via dishonest or disingenuous advice (such as telling another woman that her clothing is flattering when it is not). In women, indirect aggression is associated with mating motivations. It tends to peak around adolescence and early adulthood, when competition for mates is high. Female indirect aggression frequently targets aspects of rivals that men prize in prospective long-term partners: attractiveness and chastity, although indirect aggression in response to promiscuity may be less about damaging a promiscuous rival's reputation, and more about policing the price of sex to keep it high...



I will hypothesize that, at a subconscious level, some of this tendency among neurotypical women to derogate other women may have been a factor in Kamala Harris' defeat. Look at Nicole Russell's article, which I cited above, for example. Full of derogation. Nothing at all constructive.


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More women voted for Harris than Trump, and more women voted for Harris than Trump in each demographic if you break it down by race and age:

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https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/2024-e ... olls?amp=1

It doesn’t seem necessary to come up with theories suggesting that women didn’t vote for Harris because of supposed competition or whatever else. As with men, women have political opinions and complex reasons for them. There are a lot of religious, conservative women in this country who consider it their religious duty to vote Republican. Also, 91% of Black female voters voted for Harris. I think the divide is about political ideology, not competition, although, undoubtedly, sexism and racism played some role.