I've always had issues. Even when I was potty trained I wasn't. I was sufficiently trained enough to start school on time but by the end of first grade i was wearing "training pants" and rubber pants to school and was diapered at home except for school scouts and synagogue. I was also not allowed to change myself. By 7th grade I was wearing diapers/nappies to Hebrew School and weekly scout meetings and training pants to campouts. After 9th grade and the finishing of my mandatory PE credits I was diapered full time. Been that way since.
My incontinence has been linked to other issues I have that were all used in determining that I had autism at 16. At first I was mortified by it but by college I just didn't care anymore.
In fact one of my best experiences came about b/c my brother tried to embarrass me. He drug his girlfriend in on a change, fully knowing it was happening. It backfired when she made a size comparison which resulted in him being grounded for 6 months.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that incontinence is a fact of life. Pills, surgeries and other procedures don't always work. Invasive catheterization can lead to infection and condom catheters fall off, even if sized properly. For me the best solution is incontinence briefs (diaper/nappy style.) No use worrying about it as most people are too oblivious to notice unless you're broadcasting it
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Your broader autism cluster (Aspie) score: 169 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 33 of 200