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Today, 1:06 am

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(But please... a dictionary without "y'all")


I love "y'all" me

I don't think I'd get away with saying it where I live though


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Now we're claiming that everyone discriminates, and that it's only based on superficial attractions. Again, this just sounds like more attempt to normalize one's own behavior. Maybe YOU do, but leave the rest of us out of it.


It's hard science. Not just that, it's universal across all cultures.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/P ... judgements.



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Today, 1:17 am

Returning to the topic at hand...

Is it really a thing considering BEER GOGGLES?



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Today, 1:26 am

Well they're absolute game changers they are

I've tried them so I know


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Today, 5:24 am

cyberdora wrote:
uncommondenominator wrote:
Now we're claiming that everyone discriminates, and that it's only based on superficial attractions. Again, this just sounds like more attempt to normalize one's own behavior. Maybe YOU do, but leave the rest of us out of it.


It's hard science. Not just that, it's universal across all cultures.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/P ... judgements.
The fact that, broadly speaking, people from different cultures find similar characteristics attractive according to many studies does not mean that “everyone discriminates” based on superficial characteristics. :lol:


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I remember when I was a teenager and 'Hot or not' was a big thing. People would either do livestreams on social media and judge random classmates, or they'd upload your photo and people would vote on your rank. Yes, really. It was a pretty toxic webpage.

If you found yourself tagged by the page, it meant someone had ranked you. I remember logging in one day to see a photo of me - all glammed up since I'd dressed up for the school play.

I remember thinking 'That's a controversial take' because I'd been voted a 7. Which was kind of funny to me because let me tell you - I was bullied a lot of being unattractive. Maybe the 7 was a joke. Like many teenagers, I had an awkward phase.

Especially when I had one particularly bad haircut. A mean girl at school spread an unflattering photo around on social media and I remember it having two hundred or so likes. I was devastated at the time and the comments were as cruel as you'd expect.

Of course I could just turn the computer off but the teasing still continued at school.

That kind of bullying does stick with you and it makes you doubt people who genuinely show interest in you later on. It makes you cynical. You turn around and say 'Haha, very funny, that's a good one'.

I remember when someone I was friends with admitted that she used to have a crush on me and that she used to ask her friend for advice on how to talk to me because she thought I was intimidating. That stuck with me because the thought that I could be seen as intimidating...that's still bizarre to me.


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38 minutes ago

TwilightPrincess wrote:
The fact that, broadly speaking, people from different cultures find similar characteristics attractive according to many studies does not mean that “everyone discriminates” based on superficial characteristics. :lol:


Discriminates hot Vs not hot...and varying degrees in between. that's literally what the paper is saying, the author is great pains to point out attempts to diminish the impact of cultural differences on perceived attractiveness is a form of "political correctness" (their words not mine).



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I remember when I was a teenager and 'Hot or not' was a big thing. People would either do livestreams on social media and judge random classmates, or they'd upload your photo and people would vote on your rank. Yes, really. It was a pretty toxic webpage.

If you found yourself tagged by the page, it meant someone had ranked you. I remember logging in one day to see a photo of me - all glammed up since I'd dressed up for the school play.

I remember thinking 'That's a controversial take' because I'd been voted a 7. Which was kind of funny to me because let me tell you - I was bullied a lot of being unattractive. Maybe the 7 was a joke. Like many teenagers, I had an awkward phase.

Especially when I had one particularly bad haircut. A mean girl at school spread an unflattering photo around on social media and I remember it having two hundred or so likes. I was devastated at the time and the comments were as cruel as you'd expect.

Of course I could just turn the computer off but the teasing still continued at school.

That kind of bullying does stick with you and it makes you doubt people who genuinely show interest in you later on. It makes you cynical. You turn around and say 'Haha, very funny, that's a good one'.

I remember when someone I was friends with admitted that she used to have a crush on me and that she used to ask her friend for advice on how to talk to me because she thought I was intimidating. That stuck with me because the thought that I could be seen as intimidating...that's still bizarre to me.


that literally sucks. I hate bullies.



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Once again, you can’t use that paper to prove that “everyone discriminates” based on superficial characteristics, at least, not how it’s been applied in this thread. Personally speaking, I often don’t even notice that someone is attractive unless someone mentions it. I’m just more interested in other stuff, like what they have to say.


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24 minutes ago

:lol:

Everybody discriminates

You prove that you do it for a kick off it a lot of the discriminatory language you blatantly use about men in this site alone


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I don’t use discriminatory language towards men. I use discriminatory language towards those who engage in abusive behavior.

“Discriminates” in previous posts meant something more along the lines of “differentiates.”

I don’t understand how people can confidently say what everybody does when they are not everybody.


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I've seen you use discriminatory language across this site about men

Now I'm not going to argue with you because I know what I've seen but would you like me to throw you a spade


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14 minutes ago

And low and behold my post has been reported

I should have put 100 quid in that happening


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You are free to report any posts of mine you felt were discriminatory towards men just like I’m free to report personal attacks.


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