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Kindly stop insinuating I am a troll - I find this personally insulting.

I understand that it's not your intention, that's why I make attempts to explain why it's a problem so you can take that feedback into account.

If I believed it was your intention I wouldn't see any point discussing the matter with you because there'd be no reason to hope for improvement or altered behaviour. I don't know if you've noticed but I don't have much tolerance when I perceive someone is acting in bad faith.

I wasn’t claiming that you were a troll. I’m trying to help you.

If one isn’t engaging in problematic behavior, folks making reports shouldn’t be an issue. You wouldn’t need to worry about it.

There’s been several problematic posts from the past week or two that were edited or removed. I could provide some evidence if you’d like as well as to past threads and such. It’s just been an ongoing trend.

I am not disputing this has happened, but you used "many" when infact it's "some", it may have escaped your notice but I post a lot of threads and make a lot of posts and 99.5% of them aren't locked.

I don't understand why people can't just play nice. I'm sure that sounds corny, but seriously - there are lots of lonely men here who want to crack the code on how to have female friendships or relationships. There are women posters like myself and Twilight who are here every stinking day, being friendly and doing our best to be supportive/funny/kind to everyone, but rather than seeking a friendship these men seem content to antagonize, bait, flame, ignore, and sometimes outright bully us by saying we dislike men, we destroyed the site, or other hogwash.

I really don't get it.

I'd love to be friends with some of you and for quite a while I thought I was, but apparently I was wrong.

CD, I didn’t claim that it was the majority of your posts, but it’s certainly many compared to other regular members. FXE, for example, is a frequent poster, and I’d have a hard time coming up with posts of his I’d consider sexist if I wanted to.

My goal is just to bring awareness here. That’s all.

Same except I'm male (or identify as male )

I can think of many men here who don’t engage in frequent sexism. It just appears to be a regular problem with a few.

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I could classify myself as "clumsy" then if I am more than likely to trip the rules

Do you read our posts and offer support, the way we do for men?
Obviously it's not a prerequisite, but that's one way of being "supportive and kind" to everyone.

I can think of many men here who don’t engage in frequent sexism. It just appears to be a regular problem with a few.[/quote]

again with the "frequent" stop quantifying me

I consider myself supportive and kind - please check the parent forum

I’m just calling it like I see it. I’m not quantifying you, but I am alluding to your behavior. Yes, you frequently do post sexist posts and threads although it was much less frequent when you weren’t posting in L&D.

This is nothing more than squabbling.

But even if it was still trying to point out sexist behavior, less is more. It has become an endless litany. In thread after thread. Make your point and then move on.

I'm going to hand out joints, drinks and chocolate here...there is a massive sense of inevitability in my mind. Let's all sit back and watch this thread's sunset.

That would be marvellous.

I don't understand why people can't just be friends.