Might autistic women not be the best match for autistic men?

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You're right.
The Morning After pill is the same as extra-strength birth control pills.

That's why I'm incredulous.

Her doctor would have tested her for pregnancy before prescribing them, so I don't understand how she thinks she's pregnant. If for some reason she really is worried about it despite having sex during her period, her partner not finishing, and having already done a pregnancy test with her OBGYN to get the pills, then it's a very serious matter. Her doctor would be guilty of professional misconduct to prescribe pills to someone who'd just reported having unprotected sex, without testing first. In some states and under current law, the doctor could lose their licence and be charged with a crime.

There's a lot here that just doesn't make sense so I assume she's sorted it out already.

If she saw a doc first. I've been seeing commercials on TV for a birth control pill that recently got approved for over the counter use without a prescription, IDK if it's available in every state or not but hope so. Your right that things don't make lots of sense here. I hope she's sorted it out & her worries were due to anxiety about initial pill side-effects.

this is another reminder, just a guess of mine, sounds like, men are also the ones always expected to get or make a woman comfortable before sex happens, not the other way around. If a man and a woman are dating and sex has not occured yet, then my guess is, its because the man is doing something wrong that is causing the woman to not want to sleep with him yet.

Yeah, I'm not trying to be a PITA with this topic but I think it's important to get the medical facts right for Miku and also other readers. Conception and contraception are very serious topics especially in this day and age where some Americans can be charged with crimes for attempting, having, or aiding in the procurement of an abortion. Further, we don't want couples having unplanned pregnancies or having insufficient prenatal advice, in the event it does happen.

Miku said one of the women at her day program took her to an OBGYN about a month ago for her first pap. She didn't mention getting birth control at that time because she didn't plan on penetrative sex. Then she had unprotected penetrative sex and went a second time to her OBGYN days after having sex, again with the help of her day program leader, and was prescribed birth control. That's where it gets very confusing to me because by law the doctor would need to test for pregnancy first. In any event I'm glad she said she would be seeing her OBGYN a third time, presumably last Friday, because of her concerns.

I hope her OBGYN will explain how birth control pills work, if she hasn't done so already. I'd be shocked if she hadn't, but maybe Miku forgot somehow.

I hope everything works out OK and in the meantime they're using condoms as well as the pill if they continue to be active.

Good luck Miku.

Also hope ,, at some point , she gets info,about how long to be off birth control before concieving a baby..???
Maybe give a future baby, if any occur , the best possible outcome for concieved person .

Good point.
I've never taken it myself but I believe you're supposed to be off for one or two cycles.

Well insofar as this thread isn't yet dead, some thoughts. So if you're in a relationship with an autistic woman, you really need to have empathy. She needs it but won't necessarily give clear indication of the fact. She may be very attentive to your sexual needs in an undemanding way that you might not experience with an NT woman, but simply showing appreciation for her sexual ministrations or returning them in kind, isn't enough. She needs more, and if you're autistic yourself you may not truly understand that.

What an individual autistic woman wants or needs from a specific relationship and her approach to sex depends on her (and her partner to a certain extent). We aren’t all the same. We are as varied as NT women and other humans. Most people, autistic or otherwise, do appreciate being treated with compassion and respect though.

Dating one right now. It's difficult. Very self absorbed and sometimes doesn't even pretend to care about what I'm talking about.

Does she have ADHD as well My gf has both autism & ADHD & she's very empathetic to me & others feelings but she gets distracted very easily & cant stay focused. Cass talks a lot at times & her conversations can be difficult to follow & she switches tasks a lot. She's very loving & caring but she also gets overwhelmed easily from dealing with others negative emotions & moods. Probably due to her being more empathetic. That said Cass realizes she has various issues & she doesn't usually get very upset at me over misunderstandings. I have my various issues too & I find her more understanding & supportive than others have been of me.

so yeah i don't think i will write all of them off, but just need to have an important discussion about sex and physical intimacy without violating the other persons boundaries

yeah, i'm just not sure on how to bring up a discussion to find out if me and the woman are sexually compatible with each other, to find out if she doesn't have any issues with sex