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Caz72
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04 Jan 2022, 8:53 am

yes all guys here do is go on about not having a girlfriend

it seems easier for us girls with autism to find boyfriends than it is for boys with autism to find a girlfriend otherwise the womens discussion would be full off oh why dont i have a boyfriend i want a boyfriend

so maybe a mens forum is a good idea after all for men to pine for sex and girls all the time

not all --but a lot of men are dirty beings that only want sex thats like calling the sky blue and you know it
id know cos iv been raped many times by loads of dirty men that took advantage of me being naive it just makes me shudder


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04 Jan 2022, 9:52 am

Caz72 wrote:
yes all guys here do is go on about not having a girlfriend.
Surprisingly, there seem to be only a few male members of this website who do so.

It just seems like "all guys here" because these few men refuse to STFU* about it, and even derail unrelated threads to remind everyone of their virginity.

:roll: *That is, "Shut Their Faces Up".



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05 Jan 2022, 9:22 am

I don't want a girlfriend. Or a boyfriend. Or a friend really. Acquaintances are alright though. Just as long as they don't bug me.



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05 Jan 2022, 2:20 pm

Fnord wrote:
Caz72 wrote:
yes all guys here do is go on about not having a girlfriend.
Surprisingly, there seem to be only a few male members of this website who do so.

It just seems like "all guys here" because these few men refuse to STFU* about it, and even derail unrelated threads to remind everyone of their virginity.

:roll: *That is, "Shut Their Faces Up".


I didnt mean all guys i meant it in a different contexts like 'all what some guys do is...'

i know not every guys pine about wanting a girlfriend & sex

but its more common for guys to be lacking relationship here than it is women .


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05 Jan 2022, 2:51 pm

Caz72 wrote:

it seems easier for us girls with autism to find boyfriends than it is for boys with autism to find a girlfriend otherwise the womens discussion would be full off oh why dont i have a boyfriend i want a boyfriend


Indeed. Women with ASD generally have a much easier time finding partners than men ASD, hence why men complaining about the lack of a partner dominates the L&D. Autism seems to effect men considerably more often too.

There isn't really anything unusual or perverse about this and often like Fnord said, it's usually the same posters, both male and female regularly making threads about the lack of a partner. Considering how lonely autistic men often are, it's surprising how quiet WP is in relation to this actually.

L&D needs more threads aimed at a wide audience too. Threads warning ASD sufferers of problems they might encounter if they do (or don't do) certain activities wouldn't go amiss. It irks me when people moan about being single when they make no effort to mature sexually, mentally and possibly economically.

As for the men's forums. I think one is not needed here.



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05 Jan 2022, 6:06 pm

Psychologists call 'traditional masculinity' harmful, face uproar from conservatives

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For the first time in its history, the American Psychological Association (APA) issued guidelines to help clinicians improve the health of boys and men, declaring aspects of "traditional masculinity" "harmful." The report, backed by more than 40 years of research, triggered fierce backlash from conservative critics who say American men are under attack.

The APA defines traditional masculinity as “a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population, including: anti-femininity, achievement, eschewal of the appearance of weakness, and adventure, risk, and violence.” The guidelines, which were highlighted in the January issue of the APA's Monitor on Psychology magazine, say the pressure boys and men feel to conform to certain aspects of traditional masculinity can lead to poor health outcomes, including higher rates of suicide, substance abuse, violence and early death.

The report was criticized by conservative pundits and columnists who argue the APA is pathologizing masculinity.

We often talk about gender in terms of women ... getting the short end of the stick. ... Well, masculinity isn't easy either," Jennifer Carlson, a sociology professor at the University of Arizona who studies gun politics and gender, told USA TODAY after the mass shooting in Las Vegas in 2017.

The APA guidelines stress that psychologists must confront their own biases about masculinity, and encourages them to:

Promote healthy intimate relationships among boys and men
Address issues of male privilege and power
Promote healthy father involvement
Strive to understand the factors that lead to male aggression and violence

The term "toxic masculinity," has become a buzz phrase in recent years. "

These guidelines came out three years ago. Have any clinicians tried to change traditional masculine elements of you?


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