KaminariNoKage wrote:
Usually something bathroom related.
Flushing toilets,
Taking showers/taking off my clothes (I had this weird idea that there were rats in the wall who were video-taping me)
I have gotten over these - but public restrooms have only come to replace them.
When I was very young (approximately 2 years old), I had something very traumatic happen to me. My mom put me on a toilet to use the bathroom, not realizing it would flush on it's own but while I was using the bathroom, the sensor went off and I got sucked into the toilet bowl. My mom had to pull me out of the toilet and she said I was all red and wet. Every since then, I have had a fear of public restrooms. It's gotten a little better since I was a kid and I have developed many coping strategies such as not squatting instead of sitting in public and putting a "sticky" on an automatic sensor whenever possible to avoid flushing while I am going. I also block my ears in case it does flush while I am going and sometimes if no one is around, I will sing a familiar song while I go to calm me down. I have even given myself "pep talks" to make myself go. Mostly though, when I was a kid, I would ask to go to the bathroom when I didn't have to just to "check it out" for when the real emergency came. However, when I did really have to go, I would either have an accident on purpose to avoid the public toilets or just try to hold it if I could but my mom or someone would always notice and then ask where the restroom was and make me go. My mom would always hold me hand in the stall and make me feel safe.
In elementary school, I was allowed to have a "bathroom buddy" to come with me to the bathroom. Sometimes, she would stand in front of the stall so I would feel safe and know that a friend was nearby in case anything happened. Also, I have always had favorite or prefered stalls since I was a kid, especially in school. If my "safe" stall was used, I would wait until it was free. If someone came into the bathroom I would just say "you go ahead, I'm waiting for someone." If they insisted I go, I would go into the stall and come out when my stall was open. I can remember once in 3rd grade when a teacher who wasn't mine and therefore wasn't aware of my fear told me to quit standing around wasting time and go into one of the 2 empty stalls, do my business, and get back to class. She didn't know any better and thought I was just a kid wanting to fool around with my friends and waste time to avoid class. I ran into the stall and started tearing up with fear. The seat was the wrong color and the flusher was different. It just wasn't my stall. Then, another teacher came in and saw me upset and asked what was wrong and I told her I got in trouble for waiting for my stall to open up, she was kind and told me not to worry and that if I ever needed anything to come to her if my regular teacher wasn't around.
Another time that same year, part of the ceiling caved into my stall so I was stuck using the nurse's bathroom until I learned to use a new stall. I liked the nurse's bathroom because it looked like someone's house bathroom or a hotel bathroom but without a shower. Also, I never used the bathroom in 5th grade because in 5th grade I moved upstairs to the other school wing and I was too afraid to use that bathroom because it looked darker, older, and scarier than the one I was used to. Even though on the first day, my teacher asked me privately if I wanted to see the bathroom so I could get used to it in case I had to use it and I politely declined because I was too shy.
Long story short, this fear has greatly impacted me. I especially have never, nor will I ever, use a stainless steel toilet. Those are the scariest looking toilets I have ever seen in my entire life! I'll even use an automatic toilet before I use one of those. Also, I do not use porta potties. This fear has impacted my ability to learn how to swim. I cannot go underwater without freaking out. And indoor pools are worse than outdoors pools because of the locker rooms and "black lines" painted along the pool. I could go on for another 10 pages but I won't bore you all.