How do you feel about being touched?

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I'm super jumpy, I despise being touched unless I really, really know the person in question. I had a lot of physical abuse when I was younger so I think that's most of it.

I guess it depends. I absolutely love massages or getting my head or back scratched too but if you touch lightly touch me and I'm not expecting it I'll jump through the ceiling.

I can tolerate touching when there is a good reason for it, such as by a doctor or a dentist, but otherwise I absolutely loath it, especially when it's supposedly "affectionate."

I only like it with my current girlfriend.

I don't like being touched and when my family members touch me I normally cringe and paralyze. The only thing I allow them to do is tapping on my shoulder or other stuff like this but sudden touched I didn't "sign up for" downright scare me.
But in public I have to endure it. The only person who is allowed to hug me is my best friend.

I only like to be touvhed by people i like and who ask me
I dont like to be touvhed on the Head in my hair going to hairdresser is a nightmare
If someone touches from the back i might punch Them in the Face unintentionally of course

It all depends on the situation. A friendly pat on the back is great. A hug from someone I like is wonderful. Otherwise, it is bothersome. Shaking hands or the cheek to cheek is a pain. The Japanese bow is much nicer. Another social rule that confuses me to death.

Being intimate is difficult without touch.

Oftentimes I have an impulse to pull back (it's like two magnets repelling each other / ), which I can sometimes inhibit by investing some mental resources.
Paradoxically, in most cases I actually really like it though. It's just that I get confused by an ambiguous sensation that accompanies the feel-good rush.

Touch that's been allowed (especially the light, gentle kind) can freeze me up.
Then I'll have troube moving physically and end up in a static body position.
Mentally, I get a blank mind and semi-space out because it's hard to focus on two things at once. I can hardly ignore the touch, so my other cognitive functions will be impaired.
But that doesn't always happen.

Surprise touching can feel like a perceived threat (e.g. by unexpectedly being put out of focus), even more so if I didn't even know another person was in the room.

And if on the bus I accidentally touch someone's leg with mine, I will flinch at least 9 ouf of 10 times.

I get nervous when I'm leaving a big group of people at a get-together with some other people and they start hugging each other.

If a conversation partner touches me for prolonged periods of time that's very nice, but it's possible that I will lose track of what they were talking about.

I think some of that is a normal reaction to not being used to being touched often and difficulty with staying relaxed in the event that it does happen.

Only by my signifigant other was what I answered

I had a crush on a girl my freshman year of college, didn't work out to my relief now I guess, she ended up picking one of my two current friends over me who was also friends with her at time, but anyways there was a night we were hanging out and I guess she felt comfortable enough to lean on my arm while we were sitting next to each other. I hate to sound possibly stupid and immature, but that was one of the greatest feelings of my life. It just felt really right probably because there was also some crazy amount of usually repressed chemical rushes going on in my body at that moment as well.

I don't usually go crazy when anyone else touches me, but it's generally not appreciated.

i don't understand why my family gets offended when i don't give them kisses every time i meet with them.

I was taught that's just what is done, implying the absolutely last thing that matters is whether you like it.

If it's with a significant other, or someone I am interested in having a relationship with, then it's fantastically intoxicating! With family members and close friends I don't like it, but I try to put up with the momentary discomfort. And for everyone else, do not touch me, it makes my skin crawl (I jump/pull away, and probably glare at them).

"Only by my SO". That's in general, but I also like hugs from very close friends.
Even in these situations, touch feels like receiving an electric shock, and I can shake or freeze. Which makes it a masochistic experience as I crave it in a romantic or very affectionate friendly context. How weird when instincts ask to contradict sensory input.

Pleasant touch is better than unpleasant touch.

I really enjoy physical contact when it's expected and coming from people I like. I hate it from random strangers, in public places, unexpected.

i really want a cuddle right now.