Sociopaths/Narcissists Drawn to Autistic People?

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It's better to tell him that you don't feel like you had a compatible marriage to him and that you are just going to bring out the worst in each other. The next time he sends you gifts, send them back and don't even accept them.

If you need to just ignore him.

I don't think I have met that many. I do know that I am put off when I received an over the top compliment. I somewhat feel that they are dishonest and just trying to court my favor. So it sets off red flags.

No need to apologise, that's Ok.
Went on a work trip with a colleague and told him about leaving my husband, and he was all feeling sorry for him and implying that I had no compassion, and why don't I sit down with him and try and work things out?
I got uptight and told him I'd been trying to do that for 10 years but hubby never made any effort, but I probably came across as angry and defensive.
This is why it sucks being aspie. People think we have no compassion, because of the way we communicate, and side with the narcissist.

Here are the latest episodes in this sorry saga:

1. Hubby promises to buy my daughter a dog, to make her happy, and help her get over the separation. Except that because he works away, the dog would need to stay with me. And I'm in rental accommodation and not allowed pets. And even if I was allowed pets, I don't have the capacity to look after a dog, I'm struggling to look after myself and the kids. So I said no. And when he pushed it, I said no again, unless he takes the dog with him. And I'm furious that he promised this to my daughter against my wishes. But I get the blame for being an uncaring mother, for not allowing my daughter a pet. And yes, he does message my daughter and tell her he really wants to get her a dog but I'm not letting him.

2. Hubby says I'm wasting my money renting, and he would like to help me by buying me a house. He knows I can't afford to buy a house. But actually I could afford to buy a house if he would cooperate in separating out our existing property and assets, so that I could get my share of it in my name and be free to sell it. His "friendly and generous" offer to buy me a house is just his way of maintaining control over me. Oh yes, and he's still talking about the dog, saying that if I had my own house why couldn't I keep a dog?

This is narcissism in action *sigh*

Oh yes, and he also messages my daughter and tells her that she could have a dog, if I would only be reasonable and let him buy me a house.

There isn't any point being pissed off with him, because it all makes perfect sense in his view of the world, and he has no conception of what he's doing to us.

Sorry for the rants. Had to get that off my chest.

I am not totally sure whether I have ASD but I have some of the signs. I haven't really had this issue with friends, but with men... yes. Literally every guy who pursued me before I finally met my current boyfriend (who is a great guy, and a lot like me...I think he may have ASD too so we really understand each other) was a total creep who just wanted to take advantage of me. The very first guy that pursued me when I was in high school actually turned out to be a rapist. Thank goodness, since I was still in high school at the time and I only ever saw him at school, he didn't ever have opportunities to be alone with me. I had no interest in being in a relationship at that time, so I didn't actually date him. But then the next school year, he had disappeared, and I found out that he was in jail for rape! And even though I wasn't interested in him, I never would have known that he was actually capable of harming or raping someone.

I can get along with just about anyone but I don't let people take advantage of me either. If some one is really negative I usually disconnect myself from them and become my silent self, which consists of stopping all forms of communication like speech, eye contact e5c. I have no sympathy for sociopaths and narcs. If I feel like I could get something out of interacting with one of those people, I will.....like if I could benefit in some way. Other than that, I have no use for them so I'll let them stew in their own crap. I unfortunately had the opportunity to spend 2 1/2 years incarcerated and that taught me real quick about not trusting people and dealing with situations where I was expected to not care about what was going on, pretty much just ignore it. Now I can be in situations where I just won't care what's going on like fights and such. It's crazy though because even though I went through that, it taught me to respect other people in a way I never had before. Oh well, enough of my rant!