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He's not talking about people will full blown disorder. He's talking about the trait. Which is present in everybody to varying degrees.
Just as greed (negative connotations) can be seen as aspiration (positive connotations)
Assertive/resilient are positive connotation words, opposed to negative connotation words like arrogance/ narcisism.
The driving force of western civilization, capitalism, is basically greed/aspiration.
Ideology of Success. Mammon. That's the world we live in.

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Haha, Yeah, 'They'
Considered O.J. Too Pleasant
to Play The Role of 'Terminator';

Yet That Was in 1984; Before O.J.
Showed Some Other Potentials too...

And in Someways, Arnold Did too...
In Part
Just
Nature
of 'The Beast' too...

What's 'Normal,' Surely
Depends on Environment too...

As Perhaps in Someways We
All Have A Darker Potential too...

Shadow Snake, So Reptilian, Still 'Trump' Breathing...

Seen Part oF iT iN me Back in 'The Cold' Days True too...

It Surely Taught
me Who to Avoid
in Life And What
Humanity Might
Be Capable of, i Didn't
More Fully Personally Understand Before...

Indeed, There Seems to Be 'A Beast' LurKinG in Most
All Of Us Deep Down, When 'The Devil' Comes in Handy to 'Play' too...

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Most score around 15/16 on the NPI, which will be well adjusted people.

Too low is pathological on its own, just as too high is. The ironic thing is those who're too high tend to be drawn to those that are too low. My father was drawn to my mother, an echoist (she got 0 out of 40 too), which is why when she became ill, he threw her away because she couldn't give what she once did; that's a perfect example of how that works.

Being autistic probably let me dodge that one.

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"1
I secretly believe I'm better than most people.

Answer: Totally Disagree, Even A Grain of Sand
Holds Up A Mountain of Human Love and is Integral
to That Potential of Even Happening in this World Now.

2
Obstacles rarely slow me down.

Answer: Totally Agree as i'm Most Always
Totally Focused in Flow on What i Love to Do Now.

3
I'm great at a lot of things compared to most people.

Answer: It's Just The Truth, And Of Course Other Folks Are
Great at Other Things i am Not Great At, At All, too, FOR REAL.

4
I press on even in challenging tasks.

Answer: Totally Agree And Prove it EVERY DAY
On Those Tasks i am Totally Focused on NOW.

5
I know there's something special about me.

Answer: It's Just True, And Of Course
Other Folks Are Special Too FOR REAL.

6
It's hard for me to enjoy compliments.

Answer: 'Normal Compliments' Are
Great; No Compliments Are Okay too;

i Suppose Other Folks Would Feel
Uncomfortable too, if Someone
Kneeled to the Ground With
Their Hands Clasped Mocking
Some kind of Religious Worship too...

7
I'm self-confident, but caring.

Answer: Of Course.

8
I don't like to talk about myself.

Answer: i Don't Mind At All; Yet i Love to
Hear About Other Folks Just As Much FOR REAL.

9
I feel uneasy when I'm the focus of attention."

Answer: As Long as It's 'Normal' Attention It's Fine

This is Another So-Called Narcissist Test That
One May Find Online That Shows How 'Loosely
Knit' These Online Tests Are As Obviously on this Particular
One, if I Answered All the Questions With Just Totally Agree to
Totally Disagree, i Surely Wouldn't Rate A Zero on the So-called

Narcissism
Aspect of This
Test, Where Most
All Of these Characteristics
Are Healthy As Long as the
Ifs, Ands, Or Buts, are Included in...

These Tests are Simply Almost Worthless
in actually Determining Any Real Kind of Disorder;
As Really the AQ Test is too As the Social-Empathic
Versus Systemizing Part of Autism is Just one General

Aspect too
That Really Doesn't
Even Take into Account
Extreme Feelings, Senses And Repetitive
Restrictive Behavioral Special Interests that
Interfere With So Called Modern 'Normal' Society's

Expectations
of Who and
What We

Are Supposed
to Be and Do in this Life...

And The Test Above, Just
Barely Touched The Major
Issue With Narcissism That
is A Lack of Empathy And
Compassion for Other Folks...

Most of the Other Measures, Were Just
'Degrees' of Self-Esteem/Confidence/Self-Worth/Competence;

True, It's Just The Truth, i score Stellar Now in All Those Virtues
of Being Human As Long as Empathy And Compassion is Part of the

Equation

We Can
Be Closer
to A Hero than
A Frigging Villain

As Truly Even in Online
Assessments of Heroes
Versus Villains As Far As
Breaking Society's Norms
to Get Things Done; It is Suggested
That Empathy and Compassion is All

That Really Separates Most of what Makes
A Villain or So-called Hero in this Life Now.

Empathy and Compassion

Is Most Definitely a Deal
Breaker or Maker When it
Comes to the Best Potentials

of Being Human Surviving, Thriving
As Hairless Apes Much Stronger Together

Than the Frigging

'Trump Trope'
And That
"Philosophy's"
Anti-Hero Parts
With Little Genuine
Sincere Empathy and Compassion
For Others And Lots oF Lies to 'Fit in'...

Note: i Didn't Take The Bait and Click
of Providing my E-Mail Address to get
A Bunch of Spam for Trading my Personal
Information, So i Did This "Work-Around" Instead...

https://www.drcraigmalkin.com/#narcissismtest

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When I was a kid the fairy tales I'd read would usually have people who were kind, truthful and unselfish be rewarded in the end while the people who were cruel, selfish and narcissistic would be severely punished. Now I know why they were called fairy tales, because that never happens in real life.

In order to survive in this world you have to be cruel, narcissistic, a bully, and above all, a total liar. I had to become cruel, nasty and a verbal bully in order to protect myself from all the stupidity and insanity in this world, and I really don't like it, but I learned the hard way that most humans are complete monsters and when you tell yourself you'll never become like them you're basically lying to yourself.

^^^

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Surely Not Denying 'Your'
Experience of Life; However,

Some of Us DO NOT GIVE UP

on Being "Kind And Courageous"

That Way And Do Reap Real Fairy
Tales on Earth, Inclusive of Purgatory,
And Hell For Real too as That is Often Part of

'The Ticket' For Real
Empathy And
Compassion to
Arise and Stay too;

Yet Obviously, Model
And Make of Human Being
Varies Depending on Both Vehicle
And Vessel of How We come into this
Life And How We Navigate The Environment

In All Environments
For REAL From Hell
To Heaven For The Reality
That is Now; In my case, My

Mother's Never Ending Love That
Never Gave Up on me, Even in the
Depths of Deepest Dante's Rings of

HeLL ON EartH For 66 Months, Made All
The Difference, if Someone Keeps Hope for

Us Through
All Challenges
of Life, It's At least
One Move and Word
Up to A Dance And Song of

Life That IS REALLY iNHaLinG
Peace Exhaling LoVE iN JoY oF LiGHT
Giving, Sharing, Caring, Healing For All

With Least Harm;
Never Perfect,
Yet A Practice

Of Loving it All
DarK Thru LiGHT NoW;

And Do i Still Enter The DarK
As LiGHT NoW in Places i Visit with
No Fear, of Course, And i Have the Ability

To Emotionally Hurt, Like Anyone Else As if
i Didn't i Wouldn't Find That Love Comes From DarK

SaME
As LiGHT;
'The Secret' is
A REAL 'Alchemy'
of Transforming
DarK iNto LiGHT With
Tools of ART That Make

Both HeART, smART, And

SoUL Complete SPiRiTinG LiFE
OuT of DarK into LiGHT For ReaL NoW;

i KNeW it Was Possible; i 'Felt' it Was Possible;
i 'Sensed' it Was Possible; as i Watched My Wife,
Mother, And Sister Do it On the Other Side of the
Opaque Window in HeLL ON EartH For 66 Months;

My Other
Relatives,
FRiEnDS,
Acquaintances

Not Nearly As Much;
The Fact that i Was Seeded,
Planted, And Tended in A Garden
Of Love, Made All the Difference in me Being

More Loving than my Father's Mother Who Scolded
my Mother for Picking Up A Crying Child And Soothing
That Child With A Hug in the Nursery my Grandmother Ran Then

As She Kept the Inconvenience of Her 7 Year-Old Grand-Children in the
Nursery on Cots After School, And At Dinner Time Kept Us At Another Table

As Adults in Her Dinners Couldn't Be Inconvenienced By The Musings of Children...

My Father Stood by
As His 3rd Wife, Wasted
Away In A Pool of Urine In
His Home; Sure, i Could Have
Gone A Much Different Way As Well,
Likely in a Different Environment too...

my Father in Law-Enforcement for 46 Years
As Prejudiced Against Black Folks, And Gay Folks
As Anyone in the Trump Deep South; Thank God For

Mama,
When She Took

Her Last Breath, Enduring
No Food or Drink in Her Death
Bed to Go as Naturally as Society
Allows Someone to Go From 2.14.17
Until 2.22.17 For 8 Whole Days, Wasting Away
That Way, Her Last Breath only Continued As Mine as Love

And Then i understood

Why Some Folks Need A Story

That is Truly Fiction; Yes, like the

One of 'Jesus', Who at Least in parts
of the Story is Presented As Someone

Who Gives Unconditional Love; An Imaginary

Lover of Unconditional Love is Damned Sure Better Than Nothing...

Not Everyone

Was Blessed

With Mother Helen;

An Epiphany Indeed
That Death Day Date Coming to
A 5-Year Anniversary on 2.22.2022;

i Also Have 'Sympathy for The Devil'

As I've Experienced the World With Almost
no Feeling At All, Not Even the Memory of A SMiLe
for 66 Months; It's Hard to Have that unless one Actually
Does A Devil on Earth iN Hell
For Real First;
My Mother,
Sister, And Wife,
Were the Only ones
With Enough Sympathy
to Stand by my Side then

And Now i Return the Favor to
Almost Everyone i Meet, until they
Send me Away And i Return again as i never

Give up

The Gift
of Mother
Helen, Yes,

All the Way
Through My Life, Indeed...

There are A Lot of Lessons to Learn
From Fictional Stories And even more

FROM REAL LIFE STORIES TO GIVE, SHARE,
CARE, AND HEAL FOR REAL IN LIFE NOW; NOT

Everyone Will
Benefit Yet
Some Lives

Will Never Be the Same...

And Even Potentially Greater
Than the Ones Who Helped Them Escape..

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That's very touching.
A very sad subject. My parents are still alive but i can only imagine.

And just because a person can be cold hearted, doesn't mean they can't be warmhearted too.
I can love and hate in equal measure.
I think any emotion is better than " Experiencing the World With Almost no Feeling At All,"
That's being in a weary state. A state of sickness, fatigue.
Healthy people are passionate. They Have energy. And energy generates emotions.

And

Well thats a bunch of crap. Maybe if you wanna be a CEO. Or live in Afghanistan, or some other war-tornplace, Maybe....
But survival does not require such characteristics. Infact, it will only get you scorn.
Seems like you been very mistreated, to believe that.
I have a prickly outside, sometimes, (or more an armoured outside) but I'm still kind on inside.
Science has done studies on Co-operation vs competition. In society.
Which might translate into altruism vs Narcissism on an individual level.
I think the studies came out in favour of Co-operation.
And that Darwin's 'survival of the fittest', is not quite the whole story, and not a good tenet to build a scociety on.
An anachronism, that should be relegated to history, like Malthusianism.

In a world full of evil people, the only option might seem like to go along with such evil?

The story of Jesus Christ teaches that you may have to be crucified to stand up for what you believe in. That you may have to take a thousand emotional nails, to carry a thousand tonnes of emotional weight on your back - and ye shall be rewarded with eternal life.

It is a very last man standing story - and the evil people see their own evil & they weep.

7/40

God always wins out for his true believers, though they may be small in number relative to the general population. When his Christian followers die out, or become small in number, the evil that remains consumes itself, and Christianity is born again, anew.

I never became like those that have hurt me. I ran away, fought back and did my best to be the total opposite from a very early age (which is why I'll have this echoism).

It all made me into the mess I am where I trust no one and have zero faith in humanity, and I see little acts of kindness others do for me as the greatest of things.

I have gone through this exact same emotional phase.

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"Sunyata," A Buddhist Concept
That Reflects "Samadhi" The State
of Being in Peace That Flowing Meditation Brings;

Also the Tao at Essence
Beyond All Names Just Now

Being The Wave; Just Being
The Flow Free, WHere Positive
Feelings, Senses, NoW in Synergy
of Emotions Comprising All the
Material Reductionistic Parts Like
Neurochemicals And Neurohormones;

Yes, In Synergy Create Vibrations;
Yes, Frequencies; Yes, the Overall

Positive Energy of Life That May Be Related
As Pure Love, Generating A Life of Compassion,
of Empathy, Giving, Sharing, Caring, Healing More

in Communion
With All Existence,

WHere Hope, Faith,
Belief All Join Hands As

Love For All With Least Harm....

...Peace...

SMiLes, it is Surely A Real Feeling
And Sense of the Emotion of Blissful
'Nirvanic' Peace; And While 'Some Folks'

Describe it as the Void And Nothingness

of Where Valley Meets Mountain Top NoW iN
Balancing TWiLiGHT Where DarK Meets LiGHT

As FRiEnDS With Gravity; it is surely Not What

Conditions Like So-Called "Autistic Burn-Out," And
"General Adaptation Syndrome" Bring Or What Other

Folks Describe as
Adrenal Burn-out That

May Take Years to Recover
From In All The Ways Chronic
to Acute Fight or Flight Stress Do

Cover Our Bodily Systems and Destroy
Them Slowly One by One For Real; Yep,

Head
to
Toe
Through
HeART, SPiRiT,
SoUL For Real;

Our Metaphors Have So Much
Difficulty Relating the Subjective
Experience of what is Possible in the
Human Subconscious Through Conscious
Experience Now Through BLaCK Abyss of Hell
Through All the SHaDES of Grey of Purgatory
Within As Well Through Beyond Rainbow Colors

That Humans
Also Have
the Potential
to iMaGiNE, to
Co-Create; Yes, to
Move, Connect And
Bring Fruition of More
Colorful WaKinG Dreams to Life For Real;

Yet Again, These Are only Metaphors oF A STory
That Attempt to Bring a Subjective Experience of
One Human to Page for Others to Mutually And
Consensually

Understand
As Real And the
Potential of that
Happening is Surely
Restricted to Each Human's
Individual Perceptions and Experiences of Life...

Word Salad to Some; Affirmation For Others For
Where They Have Been, And Actual Hope, Faith,
Belief, And Love For Others Still to Kingdom Queendom Come

In 'Heaven
Within' Now;

Yes, A Place
Humans Also
Move, Connect,
And Co-Create too...

Indeed A Very me,
me, me, Way of Life
Only to Potentially
Provide Some Spark to Give Away to Others Free...

One For 'Thing' For Sure, Now, For Folks Who Have
Actually Non-Felt, Non-Sensed, Real HeLL ON EartH,

If They Do Escape, They Surely Don't Wish that Experience
On Anyone Else, Unless they never really escape Real HeLL ON EartH...

It's All
Perception, Perspective
Really This 'GaMe oF LiFE' NoW..

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