Is it OK to not chat to the hairdresser?

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I would be hurt if some woman hairdresser found me to be "creepy." I'm not a "creepy" man, and I don't flirt with female hairdressers. I talk to them mostly like I would talk to a male haircutter. I'm fortunate that this hasn't happened to me.

If this did happen to me, I would still talk to other haircutters.

I can understand why she’d be creeped out here, especially if she has a trauma history. Maybe she’s been stalked by a male client.

It’s not as common as it used to be to book with the same stylist, especially when it comes to males, unless they go to a barber. That’s how it is where I live, anyway. (Usually, business cards are lost and forgotten within a week or so.)

It’s best not to take her reaction personally. It’s business and is probably unrelated to how cyberdad comes across.

Well I suffer from traumatization from past experiences but I'm always advised to "get over it" or "ignore the trigger", so if that's how you're advised to deal with PTSD then why should I always have to understand other people's weird behaviour? People don't understand what I've been through and how my social anxiety was started. Like when people stare at me in public even when I'm looking/acting normal enough to blend in, they don't seem to understand how severely anxious they are making me feel and the past experiences I have had with strangers picking on me randomly in the street (back when I did look and act like an idiot). They just stare at me, judge me, and get on with their lives, probably not even caring to stop and think how they're really making me feel. How they're really making me feel is agoraphobia. People need to be educated on not to stare at people that aren't doing anything unusual. They should mind their own business.

It seems what this is amounting to.. (being the customer end of things ) if I wish to engage a complete
Stranger in conversation regarding life stuff . A person your trusting to do a good job.???.
It is awkward situation every time for me . And against my native intuition about confiding in strangers.
Guess if the convo , could be kept to topical subjects , weather .. workload .. for the hairdresser person .
PTSD or not .. both parties might be enduring such situations.??? But one is getting paid for it .

Oh for goodness sake, I was just on his side that's all. Can we just drop it now, I don't really care. OK, the poor girl was traumatized, she has all my sympathy, I don't know how hairdressers work, it was the first time I'd heard of a hairdresser avoiding a harmless customer, that's all, I don't know everything, I don't know her, I'm not her, I'm bored now, let's get back to the topic.

If someone such as a hairdresser or other relative stranger starts a conversation, just talk about something that they might find interesting, such as the unusual crow you saw while taking the trash out, or that cloud that resembled your dog when he emerged from his bath... (if it bores them, it's nothing to do with us...)

They see a good many folk in the course of a day's work and I'm sure they're used to all kinds of people and a wide range of news from those who say more than just hello...

I don't chat with anyone if I don't feel comfortable.
I tell them I have a headache or I'm really tired, and shut my eyes.

If I really had to do small talk it would be for the first minute or two (hello, nice weather, etc.), then I'd stop.

The easiest way is to not make eye contact. Sometimes hairdressers might get cues when the customer is making eye contact prompting them to ask the usual ice breaking questions so as not to seem unfriendly