KitLily wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Has anyone been told their Neurodivergence makes them so captivating and otherwise amazing it makes the other person feel badly about themselves because they don’t have the same fortitude, or is that just a FML thing for me alone?
No, that sounds like something a narcissist would say to you. When they want you to say 'oh no, you're much better than me' so they can preen.
I've had people saying I'm perfect and amazing but the MINUTE I have any sort of negative problem, they switch to 'you're evil'. So I think it's some kind of problem such people have got if they go to extremes like that.
It's not exactly this ^ but yes I've experienced that too.
This person wasn't just talking about my Neurodivergence. It was kind of everything - my resilience, my strength dealing with trauma, single parenting, being independent, even the way I think, feel, forgive, and love unconditionally. They meant it as a compliment, but also said it makes them aware of their own shortcomings. They don't view themselves as having the strength or will to persevere the same way they think I do.
The person is suffering from depression and wasn't looking for props. It was heartfelt and said with reverence. They think the world of me and they weren't having a pity party or invalidating my trauma / hardships. They just wish they could have some of what I'm having, so to speak.
I was left feeling like I have magic pixie dust in my brain, but I know for a fact that's not what they meant. It wasn't meant to be patronising or gaslighting, but an honest expression of their own feelings.
I just wondered if anyone else has been told similar, or how they replied.
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