Aspergers & Your Real Age

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This very much fits my lived experiences as well.

Questioning life and death around the age of 8, and now admiring the world with a child-like wonder in my 30's.

Almost Benjamin Button-esque!

Why do you suppose that is?

Because adults secretly miss their childhood!

An episode of SpongeBob SquarePants called "Grandma's Kisses" was about this very subject

Adults have true freedom and they no longer have to be tethered to their parents/siblings but at the cost of their child-like sense of wonder and imagination!

I believe this also accounts for at least part of SpongeBob's popularity along with other TV shows and media about child-like adults

I'm almost 40 and I feel immature at least a quarter of my waking hours. I feel sometimes I'm a 13 year old in almost 40 year old body.

What does your 13 year old immature self do, or want to do?

When I was a child everyone thought I acted so much older than my actual age. When I got into my late teens/twenties everyone thought I acted younger than my actual age. Now I think I'm finally acting my age.

The nearest I've been able to approach an understanding of perceptions of age in (my) autism has been that I've always felt like I was the same "fixed" age.

As a child, I noticed that I didn't fit in with other kids of my age, so I thought maybe I was just "older" inside than they were. Later, I had a shop teacher in school tell me that I was "The most serious kid he'd ever met".

But I didn't end up "matching" anyone as I aged, and once I hit adulthood, I realized that I still wasn't at all the same "age" as people who were born in the same year as I was.

If I had to nail it down, I guess I've been in my early 20s as long as I can recall, from the youngest calendar age until now.

Darron

I would definitely say I acted younger than I was as a teen. Some of it was intentional cuz I desperately wanted to stay a kid, but it wasn't entirely intentional.

The new guy at work is an autistic 17 y/o, and he acts younger for sure. Seems to catch on pretty well to tasks, just doesn't have much of a filter and sometimes does stuff you would expect of someone younger.
He reminds me a lot of me actually, especially before I learned to mask to the extent I do now.

I feel as though my opinions, perceptions and knowledge are in line with my age, but my executive function holds me back from being completely independent, so in terms of functioning I am not as functioning as most NT adults.

I am 37 physically but mentally maxed out at sometime in the teens but with me it also differs in the situation sometimes I will act like a kid but mostly a teen level of maturity

I feel like immature is the wrong word to use.
Immature implies a person is childish and selfish. If a person has a developmental disorder that is not a character trait. It is a health condition. I feel like this is similar to the infantilization of people with intellectual disabilities. It is a way to undermine disabled people.

I had made this video upload almost a month ago.

I'm 36 but everyone thinks I'm 21. When I was 21 everyone thought I was 15. I always attributed it to not smoking during my teens but seeing how every doctor (and a few veterinarians) tell me they think I have elher's dannos syndrome, I wonder if that could be part of it. My friend smoked since the age of 11 and doesn't look her age ( 50 or 60 something?)...but then I'm not a good judge of age.

I feel very young in some respects because I am pretty much innocent and guileless, and I can fall in love (platonically) with someone I am close to and I will be attached to them and loyal to them forever. I'm like a baby duck who imprinted on someone and follows and loves them forever. I think that can be an autistic thing? (I'd be curious to know.)

I also like things that young people like, like bands and silly TV shows. And I'm one of a small percentage of people on tumblr who are not in their 30s or much younger, and I love the silliness on tumblr.

I quite like the TV test-pattern-based title cards in your videos.

Eh, I used to be loyal and get attached to people. But having been hurt countless times by people who didn't value or care for me, I've learned to keep my distance from people and very rarely get attached to them. It's too dangerous. I just get attached to fictional characters now- my own or characters from TV, films etc. They won't hurt me.