Personal Issues and my WP involvement

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You be good son

It sounds like things are going better than you expected. GREAT!

I do want to correct one of my earlier posts, however. I said:

But you mentioned a "baby book" and some family history stuff. That stuff I hope you can "save"...

I think pictures, family records, newspaper clippings about family, etc., can be saved in tangible format but even more importantly they should be "saved" in digital format. Scan them with your computer's all-in-one printer, if possible convert to .pdf though pictures will do, and "save" the digital copies!

Digital copies can easily be duplicated and shared with other family members. They can be put on a thumb drive and stored in a safe deposit box, etc. The digital copies can make it easy to ensure you do not lose things containing cherished memories. If practical, you can save the original physical format, too, but the digital copies make it easy to ensure the information survives.

I hate it when users leave. Well I was gone for a while this summer because of cloudflare issues accessing this site and I have to use Chrome to access this site.

Did you had to take care of your parents? Moving is very hard, it was so sad when i moved out of my childhood house, cuz my parents were separating, I was 16. When my mom died 10 years ago, I was living on my own, I had to move in with my sister & my nephew, we were living in my mom house, me & my sister had to go through her things, it was sooo painful. Going through things, very old memories are very hard, painful & emotional.

My mom was well enough to do most of the caring for my dad. While I had help from my siblings and aides for my mom but it was on me the times they were not there. As she deteriorated less hours were on me but those hours were harder. Overnights was always on me.

Not only her things but finding and going through my things is emotional. Earlier in this thread I discussed finding my old diplomas and pictures. I found a diary I kept in the spring of 1976 when I was 18 and going through a bad time in my life. I remembered it was a very bad time in my life followed by one of the best times in my life. Upon reading it it became obvious I had forgotten about 95 percent of it. It was shocking and painful have those memories brought up. Examples are writing about how I was wondering how much in touch with no reality I was, how I felt I was letting down my mom who had breast cancer at the time.

The pleasant surprise was reading about much self advocating I was doing and how much more mature and insightful I was then I remember.

At the time Autism was not a thought. The only “autistic” thing that stands out from the diary is negative thought loops or doing too much obsessing over the bad things that I had no control over. That made a bad situation worse no doubt.

There were a few things that gave me a chuckle. A lifelong special interest is the weather and despite all that was going on I found time to write almost daily about what was happening that day. Also I got a kick out of reading entries that used language that referenced the then current events.

Somehow besides venting I think I must have realized consciously or subconsciously that the the future me would need to read it. I can’t say I am glad I read it but I do feel In ways I do not fully understand yet I needed to.

Another reminder I am a survivor, I am still here.

I had to take care of my mom with my sister help, I had to be the parent to my mom, cuz she had Cancer & West Niles, I did alot & did things i didn"t want to do, but I did them, my mom did ALOT for me, I was paying her back by helping to take care of her. I also kept a journal, it helped me alot, I took my journal on vacations too.

I felt the exact same way about paying her back by "parenting" her. I never gave a thought to writing a journal like I did for that one semester in 1976. Actually doing it was quite enough. Doing my thing on WP was my help as it was when I had cancer during 2015-2016.

Best wishes

I wrote in the OP “My involvement on Wrong Planet will affected. I can not tell you exactly how. I will see what feels right at the time. There might be times I am not here at all, and at other times I may be decently active. What will go is my posting news and autism news stories” That part about not posting news stories did not work out. A little thing called a war messed up that idea. In my postings I have tried to be objective but being Jewish I have been emotionally affected. So what felt right was that war and its repercussions seemed a lot more important my personal stressors. I have mostly stopped posting about Trump’s legal issues and mass shootings and other current events.

As far as the move things are finally coming to a conclusion. In the place I moving from the online estate sale, tag sale, and the removal of all items with the exception of what the new owners want to keep will be done by the 28th of this month. I will be legally ready to move in to the new place on the afternoon on Friday Dec 1 at 4PM. The issue is the rules of the complex state that no moving should be during evenings and weekends. I will be in a hotel for a week, so that will involve two moves. What I won’t bring to the hotel has be in storage. Since I use a feeding tube figuring what nutrition drinks goes to the hotel, what will be in storage will be an issue since I can’t go to the local restaurant.

Sweet Pea hugs

WTF??? What a ridiculous rule! I could maybe understand a rule against moving at night after 9 PM, but a rule against moving on weekends????

Anyhow, good luck with your move!

Thank both of you.

I am out of my old place and in the hotel transition phase for a week as of today. After all these months of preparing to actually leave permanently after 62 years is both a shock and a surreal feeling.

Hope all goes well.

I hope you've been able to save the really special things.

I have been in the new place for a month. People here are very nice. While this is not an above age 55 place that is mostly who lives here so no worries about loud parties at 3AM.

It is a whole new way of doing things so it is a slow adjustment. The hardest thing is Amazon deliveries which I use a lot. Everything here goes to Amazon Lockers which are outside and it is winter. For laundry you have you have put a card in the machine. The machine that adds money to the card only takes $5 and $10 bills. Security seems good. If you have a guest coming you have to let security know.

I still miss the old place and often wonder what is going on there. Since the new place is close to the old one so it is very tempting to go by there but it is too soon. It would hurt the process of making the new place feel like home if I keep on running back there. I think the summer would be a good time to visit. The person who is my former next door neighbor’s nephew lives there now so I sure he would be glad to give me a tour and show me all the changes he made. That would be closure I think.