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30 Jun 2024, 2:17 pm

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Extroverts have the same interests as everyone else but introverts have unusual interests? That seems like an unlikely divide.

Introverts are less likely to be held to judgement for their choice of special interests as they are happy to keep them to themselves. In contrast extroverts are more likely to seek validation for their choices unless they have high levels of narcissism and enjoy drawing attention to themselves for making strange choices
So, magically, NTs with unusual interests just happen to be born introverts, and NTs with normal interests just happen to be born as extroverts?

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Are they really able to read each other's thoughts? Or, do they just get it right enough of the time that they assume they always can?

Probably the latter, "reading thoughts" is not meant to be exact, just approximate enough to get by.

I agree. And I think that "good enough" attitude separates NTs from ASD-folk who want to be accurate and correct.


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30 Jun 2024, 3:59 pm

Double Retired wrote:
So, magically, NTs with unusual interests just happen to be born introverts, and NTs with normal interests just happen to be born as extroverts?

I'm not saying extroverts can't have unusual interests. I am saying extroverts risk social ostracism which is not ideal if they want to be social butterflies.

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I agree. And I think that "good enough" attitude separates NTs from ASD-folk who want to be accurate and correct.

Yes some ASD-folk are. I wonder if this is more a compulsion (need) to be exact? I'm not sure.



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30 Jun 2024, 6:03 pm

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Did anyone ever tell you this or has it come as a shock to you as you've got older

I'm only asking because I've only just realised this myself today and I'm a bit aggrieved because no one bothered to warn me about this


Growing up, I often heard phrases such as 'Therapists would have a field day with you' or 'You're eccentric, you know, you've a strange energy of sorts' or 'Hey, you have a weird mind, what's your take on this?'

However, I was always confused as to why I gained such reactions. I started questioning this when a former counsellor asked me why I couldn't just be normal. That question made me wonder what was normal and why she thought I wasn't.


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30 Jun 2024, 9:23 pm

Double Retired wrote:
I agree. And I think that "good enough" attitude separates NTs from ASD-folk who want to be accurate and correct.
Black and white thinking, or all or nothing thinking, is common with ASD. The idea that there is a right way of doing things could be part of why autistics tend to be perfectionists. It also probably relates to how autistics tend to be very passionate about hobbies or why they usually don't like joking because humor is too ambiguous.



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30 Jun 2024, 9:28 pm

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why they don't like joking because humor is too ambiguous.


Once I came to understand ambiguity is at the heart of comedy it became a lot easier to get and make jokes.


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30 Jun 2024, 9:55 pm

I've mostly heard it in terms of negative traits being mentioned.

"You're childish and immature. You're 30 but act like someone in highschool. This is common with autistic people."

What I hear: you have bad traits and you're stuck this way


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01 Jul 2024, 12:07 am

Sometimes you can find jobs where your bad traits become useful.



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01 Jul 2024, 9:26 am

funeralxempire wrote:
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why they don't like joking because humor is too ambiguous.


Once I came to understand ambiguity is at the heart of comedy it became a lot easier to get and make jokes.
I agree, although these days people take things so seriously that I rarely make jokes. I do understand them better tho.



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01 Jul 2024, 5:17 pm

Jokes also have suspense and surprise in addition to the usual and mundane puns, double entendres, and other forms of wordplay. Growing up a lot of the bawdy British humour I saw on television relied too heavily on these.