How do you handle loneliness?

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The method that really helped me deal with loneliness was to move in with a girlfriend who had a bit of things in common with me. Loneliness was a major reason I hated being single & wanted a relationship. Other things I've done were try to socialize online, work a lot when I was employed & management allowed me to work extra, & trying to get out the house more when I wasn't employed. Those things were more band-aid fixes though & I was still very depressed.

Same. I'm in a big city working in a huge corporation with people everywhere. I'm never physically alone, but I feel like everyone's brain is different from mine. It's hard to bridge the gap.

Good question, especially this time of the year I think (at least for some of us).

I do a lot of volunteer work for autistic led organizations that organize meetings for autistic peers. That way I made my circle grow. But most people I only see at those meetings. This period all those meetings stop due to the holidays, so I miss other people around me.

And the contact remains on the surface, a deeper click is almost always missing, it is rare. This year I did meet someone with whom I experience that click, but I haven't seen her for some time. And not yet dared to take the step to ask if she wants to keep in touch outside of the meetings where I see her. That gives an extra push to my loneliness these weeks I notice.

I never used to feel lonely at Christmas, but I do now that I don't talk to my family anymore. As there is no public transport tomorrow, and no shops etc open, I will be spending most of the day aimlessly wandering around desperately hoping I won't need the toilet.