What do YOU find attractive? Non physical only

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Is good with a spear and can stalk down prey - excluding people, generally speaking. It’s important just in case we ever find ourselves in a post-apocalyptic world or are lost in the middle of a forest sort of stuff. I suppose I could learn how to use a spear, but there’s a good chance I would trip and fall on it.

Liking to cuddle is good too. Body heat is useful because you never know what the future might bring. It can get a bit chilly in the woods at night even with a fire going. Once I spent an entire night next to a fire, adding logs and kindling as needed, without access to a blanket or sleeping bag. The temperature was well-below freezing. I swiftly came to the conclusion that reading about such things is decidedly more pleasant than living them.

Likes Lord of the Rings

Fun, quirky, understanding, and doesn't normally use profanity (at least the strong ones, like the S and F words. Mild terms like "hell", "damn", and "crap" is fine).

Pleasant.

I love this thread idea! Especially since I'm on the ace spectrum and don't experience physical attraction like a normal person.

I'm most attracted to people that make me feel safe and wanted. It's nice to feel safe to express my feelings, or needs, or even just drop the mask for a little bit. It's really attractive to feel like I'm being seen, accepted, and still wanted for who I am without anybody trying to change or control me. Again, especially if I can drop the mask and stim or vent around them.

I also like creativity and playfulness. I'm attracted to people who will play and joke with me. I enjoy people who can stimulate me intellectually and keep me guessing. Especially people with fun hobbies or interests that they can teach me about. I'm attracted to patience and kindness: especially since I'm pretty new to dating in general and still working things out for myself. I'm also a pretty slow processor. Which can annoy people. So patience is important. Above all of these things is probably trust, though. Which goes back to the safety thing: I need to feel I can trust someone enough to get close to them and a big proponent of that is feeling safe with them, but also them being reliable and trustworthy.

But if I look at my very short dating history (all two of them) I apparently have a thing for anxious depressives with poor self image. One who punished himself and the other who punished me for it. 

^Even those with poor self-image, even though they're actually healthy and good-looking to others' eyes?

Doesn't sulk.
Isn't constantly negative.
Isn't a misanthrope.

Things I find attractive in people include (but are not limited to) intelligence, passion about something/anything and a willingness to share that with me, humor is a big one, playfulness/silliness, not taking themselves or life too seriously, open mindedness, independence, out of the box thinking, someone a lil naughty but still a good person at heart (balance), creativity in some form or another, honest even when it's brutal, and I dunno...sometimes you think you have a handle on what you like then someone comes along with something you didn't even know you like until they showed you how awesome that aspect of them is. That's all I have for now though I'm sure there's more.

Doesn't love the band Poison.