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TwilightPrincess
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03 Aug 2023, 8:32 pm

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What if one doesn’t want rough at all?

The answer depends on whether the man is typical or not.

If it's a typical man, then start using BDSM with you in the dominant role and him in the submissive role. This will make him not rough at all, but it won't magically transform a brute into a sensual & attentive lover.

If it's not a typical man, then simply start kissing.

I’m glad I’m not into typical men. :lol:

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03 Aug 2023, 8:35 pm

Sarah is my friend.
She passed away on Tuesday.

I've been called Satan before, however.

No, he's not into injury.
I did date a masochist who wanted me to pan fry his junk.
That's off topic, though.

"He" got on top of me, actually.
But that's off topic too.

Back on topic now.

Is it really too much for a dude to say "Text me so I know you got home safely?" or are men afraid to act like men these days?

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03 Aug 2023, 8:44 pm

I'm sorry to hear about Sarah. I had no idea who Sarah was.

IsabellaLinton wrote:

Is it really too much for a dude to say "Text me so I know you got home safely?" or are men afraid to act like men these days?

It's impossible to know in advance how a random person will interpret it when he or she says the above or receives that message. It could be interpreted as caring. It could also be interpreted as neurotic, clingy, stalkerish, or an anxiety disorder. One person says something is very nice, and a different person says the same thing is creepy.

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03 Aug 2023, 8:47 pm

My personal opinion is that a true gentleman wouldn't have anything to worry about.
They'd put their date's safety ahead of any concerns about their own ego.

Thanks, re: Sarah.
She was only 36.

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03 Aug 2023, 9:00 pm

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I’m glad I’m not into typical men. :lol:

You're into devils instead? I see that you are the one with the Satanic quote, not IsabellaLinton. You made me accidentally insult IsabellaLinton's friend!

I'm going to be very mature about this and give you 100% of the blame for my mistake.

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03 Aug 2023, 9:08 pm

I wasn’t expecting any different although you may live to regret it. :twisted:

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03 Aug 2023, 9:15 pm

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They'd put their date's safety ahead of any concerns about their own ego.

If I'd just met a woman and she said to me, "Text me so I know you got home safely", I would cut contact with her in a polite manner. Yes I realize this is an over-reaction, but I'd do it anyway, because I live in a place where people with anxiety disorders are a veritable plague and a major source of serious problems. If I lived somewhere else where anxiety disorders are not so widespread or not so severe, then I'd give the woman a second chance.

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03 Aug 2023, 9:26 pm

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I wasn’t expecting any different although you may live to regret it. :twisted:

Although I revealed the technique for conquering a typical man, it will not work on me, because I'm not a typical man.

Oh s**t! I just remembered I revealed the techniques for both typical and atypical men.

Damn it, I've really gotta learn to stop blabbering everyone's secrets all around town.

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03 Aug 2023, 9:41 pm

Which anxiety disorder is indicated by "showing respect for another person and their safety" ?

Is that in the DSM?

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03 Aug 2023, 9:59 pm

Yes, it's described in detail on page 190 of the DSM-5 under the heading "Separation Anxiety Disorder" (309.21 / F93.0). Here's a quote from that section:

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Individuals with separation anxiety disorder ... experience recurrent excessive distress when separation from home or major attachment figures is anticipated or occurs (Criterion Al). They worry about the well-being or death of attachment figures, particularly when separated from them, and they need to know the whereabouts of their attachment figures and want to stay in touch with them (Criterion A2). They also worry about untoward events to themselves, such as getting lost, being kidnapped, or having an accident, that would keep them from ever being reunited with their major attachment figure (Criterion A3).
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Depending on their age, individuals may have fears of animals, monsters, the dark, muggers, burglars, kidnappers, car accidents, plane travel, and other situations that are perceived as presenting danger to the family or themselves.
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Adults with the disorder are typically overconcemed about their offspring and spouses and experience marked discomfort when separated from them. They may also experience significant disruption in work or social experiences because of needing to continuously check on the whereabouts of a significant other.
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individuals with anxiety disorders typically overestimate the danger in situations they fear or avoid
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Most occur more frequently in females than in males (approximately 2:1 ratio).

Please note, I'm NOT saying that you have Separation Anxiety Disorder. I'm saying it's a big problem where I live, but you don't live here. Perhaps it's hardly a problem at all where you live.

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03 Aug 2023, 10:04 pm

Maybe it’s something in the water where you live.

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03 Aug 2023, 10:26 pm

^^

That's not the same thing at all.

Checking on someone's safety is not the same thing as having a disorder about it.

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03 Aug 2023, 10:33 pm

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Maybe it’s something in the water where you live.

Seriously, the problem is so bad and so prevalent here that it's almost enough to make me believe in crazy conspiracy theories about UFOs and/or the government putting something in the water that makes people sick with anxiety disorders. Of course a more plausible theory is that it's caused by the epigenetics of the people born here, combined with cultural influence.

Now, back to the previous topic, as I said, I wish to learn to stop blabbering everyone's secrets all around town. So, everyone please tell me one or two of your deepest-and-darkest secrets, so that I may practice keeping your secrets. I shall put in my top effort not to blab them all around town.

Tomorrow I'll login to WrongPlanet and collect all the secrets that you kind people have given me to practice with. Thanks in advance.

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03 Aug 2023, 10:36 pm

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Maybe it’s something in the water where you live.

No wonder so many people complain that they can't find partners.

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04 Aug 2023, 5:20 am

Rotter wrote:

TwilightPrincess wrote:

Maybe it’s something in the water where you live.

I’m a high priestess in Hell.

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04 Aug 2023, 3:02 pm

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Or perhaps some collective trauma? For example, was your neighborhood a war zone, or the scene of a major terrorist attack, at any time within the memory of significant numbers of people there?

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