Do you hate it when...

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you are talking to someone and you're having a good time and then people come by and start talking to the person you are talking to?


I hate that. I start to get ignored and it makes it harder to talk to the person and that person seems to forget I'm even there. I tend to wait for the person to leave (who joined in and started talking to the person I'm talking to) so I can go back to what we were talking about but when too many people join in, I leave the group. I have to shout to get noticed and talk really loud to get noticed.

Oh yeah, I can't stand it. To me it just seems rude to interrupt like that.

Can't stand it, same thing happens to me. Every now and then I can switch topics and go with the flow, but it bugs the living daylights out of me.

I work with several people who speak spanish. So my favorite thing is when I'm talking to somebody in English and a Spanish speaking person will come over and switch the conversation to spanish, completley blocking me out. When I object to this, they tell me to stop being immature.

I wonder if this is how people really do talk and socialize? They ignore each other and talk to the other person zoning the others out and I just find it annoying and its much harder to even socialize while they just find it easy.

Oh I hate that.. the least they can do is say "hi" to you, but yeah I get ticked off when someone just starts talking to the person who I am speaking with and then they both end up shutting me out! Typical rude behavior.

Yeah, and then you start talking to the person and they call YOU rude for "interrupting"! YEAH RIGHT! Yep, I have had it happen, and I HATE it! And they DARE to call ME rude for it!

That's always driven me nuts, too.

Regards,

Patricia

It bothers me if the conversation I was having was interesting. Most of the time, it's a good excuse to get away and be alone again.

It helps to move infront of the person who interrupted you and resume the conversation. If they interrupt you again, take your friend's shoulder, move a few meters away and resume the conversation again. That usually does the trick.

SPANISH? HA! With ME it is currently Spanish, telegu, tamil and, probably, others.

In the US it is historically considered RUDE to not speak english when in the presence of other groups. English, whether others like it or not, is now a "lingua franca". It is NOW where French, German, and Latin once were. Latin was THE language. Then it was German, aas I recall. Then it was French. When I was a kid, English, French, and German were considered THE languages to learn, and probably in that order. Especially in an english speaking country, it is only logical and fair that ENGLISH should be the language of open conversation, and that speaking in public should be to the public.

Other countries, of course, have their own languages, and let THOSE conversations be in THAT language. Even in SWITZERLAND, where they have FOUR official languages, most open communication is in GERMAN, though a particular canton may prefer THEIR language THERE. They ARE effectively another country, so why not?

One of my friend did that every time I talking to any girl we both knew, because he is possessed by girls. I am not his friend anymore, because I don't tolerate mean-childlike-egocentric behavior.

That makes NO sense! If they were willing to do that, to stop the conversation, they would not have CONTINUED it!

Of course; that happens to me all the time and it gets really annoying because I don't even talk that much in the first place.

I live in a state that is about equal hispanic and anglo. It is very common for people to speak Spanish, and when I am in a situation where most of the people are fluent in Spanish, I understand that they will probably speak it. And living in a small town, everybody knows everybody and it's rude not to stop and say hi when you see someone you know. Sometimes that happens to be in Spanish, sometimes English.

I've found that with my friends, if the subject concerns me or is something I am interested in, they will switch to English to include me. When they don't, it's mostly gossip that I don't give a rip about anyway, so I'm just as glad not to have to listen to it.

Not that it particularly saves me, as usually the 3rd person moves on and whoever I am with will catch me up on all the gossip.

Once I figured out they were talking about things I didn't much care about anyway, I stopped caring if I could understand them. Now I just disappear into my head and wait, and if the wait gets too long, I make my excuses and leave.

Making one's excuses reminds people you've been standing there not included and you've got better things to do.

And if the same person keeps allowing themselves to be distracted by everyone, take a hint. You're just not that interesting to them. Move on.

It'd be nice if you specified who "they" are.

If you mean both of them then you aren't making sense.

If you mean the person who interrupted then you're also not making sense.

If you mean the person who was part of the original conversation then it depends entirely on their personality and in my experience it has worked many times.