Hello, and welcome to the forum.
We have a nice welcoming basket for you full of cookies. The problem is you gotta find them and they are very well hidden. I am still looking for my basket.
Anyways, I unfortunately have no advice for you about this issue, but I can suggest something that may help. Try posting your question on the parents forum:
http://www.wrongplanet.net/forum19.html
That is the forum devoted to all things parent/autie child related. You will probably get more specific advice there then in this general forum. Also, you may want to send a personal message to somebody called 'Natesmom'. She is a professional special education counselor as I understand it. She will probably be able to help you figure out the details of IEPs, and all that other school related stuff.