Gay or Bisexual aspergers?

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Or trisexual, omnisexual, pansexual, tricycle, whatever....it's all just penises and vaginas when you get down to it I guess....

Anyway, I'm feeling terrible....I had a horrendous, humiliating dream about someone I'd much prefer to forget and erase from history....

How are YOU doing today?

well, what happened in said dream?!?!

dont tease us.


And, I'm doing fine. Little tired, have a bout of insomnia hitting me, or just a bouth of too much on my mind preventing me from the little sleep i normally do get. But its raining and I love the sound of rain, so helps the day go by.

I'm feeling my normal mix of misery and apathy. (The apathy saves me from a lot of misery.)

Sorry you're feeling so awful.

Thanks for the replies Friendos. Love your Av!

Anyway I'm in a grocery store of all places and I bump into my ex. Weird dream...he just ignores me...wish I'd thrown a cabbage at him. He ended it badly, so I'm not sure what I'd do if I ever ran into him again...Phoenix is big, but it's not THAT big. I'm terrified that he'd find out what I've slipped into...dropping out of college, living with parents, working at a BLEEPING Dairy queen....sigh....

So anyway if I see him again I'm breaking his nose. I'm not usually the violent type but he deserves it. He did it over FB....not even in person.

Oh well...one day at a time till I meet/ latch onto someone new...How are you all doing relationship-wise?

Single, and have been since I was dumped via text message about 10 months or so ago. Finally got up the courage to ask someone out (multiple people, at different times), and have been shot down each one. This sucks. It seems the only people that are interested in me are way too far away for me to make it work.

That's why you move accordingly

Immigration laws are a b***h. One of the guys would much rather move here, but there's a few problems with that - he has no family to sponsor him, has health issues that prevent him from work, besides our economy doesn't really currently support more workers coming here, we can't get married anywhere arround here, I'D have to move significantly west or east, or, I could move to another country possibly. There is one within an hour drive that allows it. I can't just travel to MA with him, and get married, because my state would refuse to recognize it, as they took some of the most draconian measures possible when they passed their version of the "Defense of Marriage act"

I've never had one.

Unfortunately I am heterosexual.

I say "unfortunately" because relationships would be easier for me if I could just be FWB with people and bisexual at the same time.

Wish I was bisexual, but I'm not.

Ah well...

Why would it be easier for you to be bisexual?

I suppose asexuality would be easier again, but I think that I would be more likely to attract sexual attention from gay men or bisexual men than from heterosexual women. Incidentally, I have never had gay men ask me out (yet, and I can't imagine myself wanting their affection). Having said that, I imagine it would be easier for an Aspergian with sexual tendencies to be with someone of their own gender; given the fact that most Aspies with sexual inclination seem to be men. Besides, queerness is for the most part tolerated somewhat more in Australia than in the USA.

Why do you think men would be more attracted to you than women?

I agree about asexuality - I am rather close to that, but not quite. I don't have a whole lot of interest in sex, but there is some. On the other hand, I often feel I would want a relationship, and I am definitely attracted to men and not women (aesthetically, emotionally, etc.). Actual sex is something I'm fairly ambivalent towards though.

For me, I think it would be easiest to be totally without romantic or sexual attraction. Failing that, I tend to assume that is generally easier to be straight than to be gay, not because I'm afraid of being a victim of hate but just because being gay is both simultaneously yet another way to be "different" and puts me in yet another group I don't really fit into. (Somehow there is a sense of "gay identity" that exists in a way "straight identity" doesn't, and I'd rather not have yet another extra identity to be out of conformity with.)

Hey, The above quote is EXACTLY the way that I think / am.

I think sex would be nice, but I find it somewhat dirty/unclean/weird about it.' But when I was a teenager and overrun with hormones it was a different matter. I had many sexual fantasies and was 100% gay. Now I think I am mostly asexual, with gay tendancies, but still label myself as gay for simplicity.

I take medication that has physical sexual side effects, and did when I was a teenager too. That might have something to do with it. I don't know if that would eliminate sexual fantasies though (and I've never had one).

I'm bi, and I'm happy and lonely at the same time. I'm happy because I'm in New Hampshire but lonely because I miss my friends and am single.

I'm gay and I'm getting pretty sick of it. Gay men are even harder for me to understand than other NT's. Nothing about the gay behavior makes sense to me ever...except going to clubs. I love the sensory experience from clubs. With the music and lights there to calm me, I don't get overloaded by all the people. Plus, it's usually too loud to talk, which I like.

By the way Willa your avatar is REALLY freaking me out! The clowns from that movie creep me out so much.