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Mrschevycars
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02 Jun 2009, 10:27 am

Hello everyone,I am new to the forums. I will try not to "ramble",when I post. That is easy for me to do...

I haven't gotten a diagnosis as of yet for my 4 year old daughter. From the materials I have read,I believe she has Asperger's. This is something that is very hard,what I mean by that is: I believe every parents hopes,dreams and prayers are that their child will be normal and healthy. My worsed fear is that she will be "dependant" upon someone to help her through life,I wouldn't stress that if I knew I could live forever to know she was taken care of. But sadly that is impossiable. I think that is what I worry and stress over the most. My husband is in denial right now,his daughter is fine and nothing is abnormal. She might seem some different but hey everyone is different. This is true,thankfully we are all different. But I see so many signs that point to Asperger's. I try to show him them and he refuses to see them. So,I feel somewhat alone in this until the assessement is done,which I am in the process of getting.

I hadn't noticed any signs early on until last year. When we began to potty train,no interest. Well every child is different maybe she isn't ready. Some time passes and still nothing, certain material she won't wear,she can't stand for her hair to be brushed,let alone trying to brush her teeth. Patience, which I have much patience especially with children. She broke her leg,and that was a major set back on so, much for 6 weeks. to make a long story shorter she is 4 and still nothing on the potty training. Then I begin seeing her line things up in striaght lines,bouncing on everything and anything,flapping her hands constantly. This all seemed different from my other two children but everyone is different. I was concerned about her walking becuase she doesn't seem to walk like I thought she should. The doctor says;it's the pull up,once she is potty trained that will change.Ok She is and was very shy,no interest in people she doesn't know,and playing with anyone outside the family wasn't happening. Well, my other children were shy as well.. I took some classes towards my social work degree and I began learning soem about Autism/Asperger's.She had some of those characteristics. But I thought no that can't be right. I went to a friend who is a theripist She reccomended going to the doctor for a referral and here we are. We are waiting for the appointment for the assessment. There are many things I left out,as I said I don't want to ramble but at least give you an idea of where we are thus far. Thank you for allowing me to join,I look forward to getting to know others.I welcome suggestions.



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02 Jun 2009, 10:42 am

Hi,
welcome,
and we all ramble around here, so don't worry, you're not different. ;)

Good luck with your wee one, we'll be happy to hear how it progresses!



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02 Jun 2009, 11:06 am

Welcome to WP!



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02 Jun 2009, 9:38 pm

Welcome to the Wrong Planet neighborhood, Mrschevycars.


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03 Jun 2009, 9:57 am

Thank you for the warm welcomes. They mean a lot.



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03 Jun 2009, 2:17 pm

A few decades ago, my husband and I were EXACTLY where you and your husband are today. My husband went into a severe depression the moment he did accept the diagnosis. Unfortunately, that was the week I gave birth to our third child. He lay on the sofa all day and listened to the songs we had on our records being transferred to tape. I was exhausted; my daughter was crazy, and we were babysitting while her folks were out of country a girl the same age as our daughter with autism plus. She was bright and active and I absolutely hated that sweet little girl. And my husband just lay on the sofa. I finally told my husband that I hated him right then. He sobbed. It was a bad week.
During the black night of my soul when I first got the diagnosis of my daughter, I could not speak. I kept thinking of the horrid future we faced. When I prayed a prayer from Job, Even if you slay me, yet will I praise you God, I felt God reach down and I floated in his Love. Glorious. And I felt him give me the verse from Phillipians: Whatsoever is good, whatsoever is praiseworthy etc, whatsoever is TRUE; think on these things. Think on what is true. What is true? This moment is true. The future might contain anything. (BTW it did not contain anything I imagined that night.) So I spent the next few days every time I started to fall into the pit of future-imagining physically grabbing whatever was next to me and thanking God for it. ie; Thank you God for this wooden table. Thank you that it has a pretty grain. Thank you for my mother-in-law who sits across from me and who loves me.
So...
You have a journey ahead of you, for sure, but you don't know the end of the story yet, and you may be surprised by what supports show up. PM me anytime.



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03 Jun 2009, 3:53 pm

Welcome.


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03 Jun 2009, 5:05 pm

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