Brother's friends always over at house

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Hello everyone, this is my first post but I've been lurking for a while. I'm 19 years old and about two months ago I was diagnosed with Asperger's. For about a year and a half I've had ongoing depression but recently it has gotten much worse. I took my first dose of Prozac today but I have been crying continuously on and off, and I know it takes at least two weeks or so for Prozac to start working. I've had several meltdowns and am seeing a counselor, but right now I have absolutely no coping skills.

My brother is two years younger than me and a wrestler in highschool. He recently got a girlfriend and she is over at our house all day, every day, as well as her friend, and whatever friends that my brother also have, so oftentimes there are three or four people in my house. It is getting to the point where it is unbearable. I have complained about it to my Mom but she just says "well I don't know what to do," and goes into the next room. I don't know if this is an Asperger's thing or what, but I feel very uncomfortable with all these strangers around. I don't like talking to them and they seem like snobby teenagers so they don't have any interest in talking to me. Recently they found out my brother and his girlfriend had sex (she is 15) and because of his attitude he was grounded from driving his truck. So now I am the one being punished as summer just started and they hang out at the house all the time because my brother is the only one of them who can drive. I feel as if I am a stranger in my own house, I have to avoid the places where they are hanging out, I can't play on the computer or watch television or play xBox. because they are always upstairs in the computer room...and playing videogames is one of the few coping mechanisms that I have. I'm forced to write and read which tends to just make me introspective and more depressed.

Has anyone else had any problems like this? I am severely depressed and just want some peace and quiet, and want to feel like I can relax in my own house after nearly having a breakdown at university. I don't know what to do. There are so many things going on. I am extremely uncomfortable here. I have a few friends but one of them has a 9 to 5 job and a boyfriend, and the others live too far away, and I can't hang around them all day like my brother does with his friends, I get physically sick if I do. I cannot handle feeling like a stranger in my house all summer. I have told my Mom this but she does nothing.

I do have a car and I do go to the gym across the street, but I also have extreme social anxiety and my home is really only one of the few places that I feel "safe." Any suggestions would be helpful.

move either the xbox or a computer to a seperate room ?. or you could just make sure that you are the first one in the room they probably wouldnt come sit with you thats just what i think that they also want their privacy.

I can relate to what you are saying. I had problems in my teens too when I lived with my family. My brothers had parties and always had friends over and they drove me crazy. Messing up the house, tracking in dirt from running in and out, making lot of noise, being in my area, not picking up after themselves and moving furniture around. What did my parents do about it? Nothing. They said I wasn't the only one living in the house and my brothers have rights to friends and their fun. They did not care if I get overwhelmed or have anxiety. Then finally when I was 18 or 19 my brothers and their friends finally started to be quiet and stay in their area and not run in and out of the house and they take off their shoes when they come inside. Also I wouldn't even notice they were having a party because they were so quiet. It was like heaven. They found a way where I can have my peace and how they can still have their fun. Compromise.


Having AS can be hell.

I am having that same problem right now too. I have a younger sister and school just ended for her a little bit ago. She has had a bunch of friends over since and it is really annoying because they have taken over the tv w/xbox, the kitchen, and also my computer is in the room with the tv. I feel like they have taken over my house and there is nothing I can do about it. I regularly spend most of my time on the computer but I don't feel comfortable with all these strangers in my house. I am so stressed an frustrated right now. Even as I am typing this there are two of her friends in the room with me playing xbox in which they interrupted me watching tv to play.