Being Treated like a Child

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I have noticed many women tend to treat me almost like a child (especially those whose major is social work, psychology, education, or a similar field). Do any of you aspie guys provoke the same reaction in women? Women also tend to think of me as the "nice guy" they can trust and confide in.

Another, possibly related, thing is that people tend to underestimate my ability, intelligence, and wisdom. A few people (yes, even a woman!) have taken me for gullible because of this.

Hi NeantHumain,
I'm not a guy but women in the same fields of study do the same thing to me. They do less of it now that I am getting close to 50 years old. I'm 48 years old. Most of my life I was treated like a child. In fact my mother still attempts this and it makes me angry and I've begun to tell her to butt out of my business.

sometimes my bosses treat me like i'm stupid. I don't appreciate it.

mothers do that, aspergian mutant - forever! it must be in their job description

but, after all, you ARE their child....

annoying, isn't it?

V

My mother treats me like a child and my father treats me like I'm stupid. That's the reason I'm going to be moving out, soon. I know this isn't an option for all of us, but I just can't deal with another whole year of being treated like a Mentally Challenged Child by my own flesh and blood.

Its The Second One Because Its Happened To Me Before And Iam A Aspie Female Teen!!

I'm treated like a child by most people I come into contact with and I am fed up with it!

I am female, so it's not quite the same situation, but people do treat me as a child.

I believe it has something to do with my appearance, because I am very short, and I do not wear makeup or "adult" looking clothing. I've been mistaken for a child on several occasions (waitresses have offered me the kid's menu, and even my doctor almost suggested that I take a "prize from the prize box" for kids).

I am also very quiet and shy in unfamiliar social situations.

I don't know if people underestimate my ability, intelligence, and wisdom, but I have been taken advantage of many times. I seem to be a magnet for those type of people, and unfortunately, I never learn how to spot them.

I know exactly what you mean, the same thing happens to me since I'm about 4'10 and don't wear any makeup either. I get those 12 and under discount offers and kid's menus quite a bit. Most of the time I think it's a riot but it can get a tiny bit frustrating b/c people don't always take me seriously. I should take bets on how old people think I am...I bet I could make enough cash to pay my college tuition! No more burger flipping! The only problem I have is when people know just how old I am and treat me like a child anyway. Once people get to know me though, they generally don't and the rest of the time I either brush it off or try really hard to prove myself. I've been taken advantage of too, but in the worst incidence the girl who did it had a lot of emotional problems so I think thats a big reason for it.

yeah my mother mainly but as a poster above said its in their job description. i'd love to move out to get away from the old dears but i'd hate to be totally isolated and alone so i think i'll stay where i am for now

How embarrassing and humiliating!! !! !! !! !! !

wow! I have the same problem. My father treats me like this. I can't stand him, and my mother too sometimes.

I also think people, underestimate me, when I meet them. Eaven strangers. I often think people look at me in a weird way, like I'm pathedic, or sometimes they just rudely stare, and gives you an overbaring smile, or start to laugh, when you finally look at them, and you don't know why. Then you stare back, and it interferes, with the conversation you have with others, at the same time. which is frustrating. 'Cause there's this person who acts strange.
I hate going anywhere 'cause of this.

people, in general, connect communication skills with intelligence and maturity. we, as aspergians, are naturally at a disadvantage, because our communications skills are not the best (at least when we are communicating face-to-face).

I am female (not sure why that would be relevant here) and actually have a policy of not letting psych majors into my home unless I know them well, because of this kind of thing.

Of course I ascribe it to "staff personality disorder" (not a real condition, that's a parody site).

People often speak to me as if I was younger than I am.. I think it's because I am really shy and unconfident in a lot of social situations which makes me seem younger. Also because I don't go out much, and I tend to avoid situations that make me uncomfortable I don't feel I have as much life experience as most people my age.