Can't wait until I'm out of high school

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I'm having quite a bit of trouble finding a remotely decent girl in high school. Most of them are nowhere near my intellectual level and don't ever have any brainy or even geeky interests. I could probably attract some if I tried rather hard to change myself, but I will never submit to the BS of adolescent culture in my area. In addition, I've already been through a "relationship" (if it could even be called that) where I basically used a girl who was rather dumb but pretty to make out with, and I don't want that again. I require someone who is like me, as impossible as it seems.

On top of that, the only thing these girls seem to care about is the number of friends that a guy has (I have none, by choice and preference), how much he conforms (the more the better for them), etc. They are in a completely different perceptual set of the world around them, and I cannot associate with them on any grounds as a result. For them, their world is an ignorant bliss in which they only care about their "friends", gossip, and what just happened on Lost or whatever. By the way, I don't live in a city or poor area; most of the people in my vicinity are the children of upper-middle class people. And alas, this crap persists. :/

idk, I live a very content life overall, am academically successful, am becoming a respectable writer, and so on; alas I feel like can't be completely satisfied without a woman. I know that my mid twenties and on will be "my time", because many women who were previously dumb come to their senses, and will also see that I (probably, anyway, considering my ability) have a stable job, home, etc. Even given that I'm under this impression, however, I'm being driven insane by my search for someone right.

meh. I could go on and on ranting about this matter... I'm just trying to cope with the idea that I'll have to subsist though 10+ more years of my god damn life just to get this problem over with. Anyone else have similar problems, tips, or anything else to say that might bring me some hope?

21 views, not a word said? I guess I'm alone here.

You are not alone.

I'm 35 and I could have written that, omitting the school references of course.

It's true you're not alone, though with me I tried experimenting with dating. 2 girls I figured might be ok. The First I chose because I knew she had a crush on me, so it had the highest chance of becoming an easy relationship and all. It just didn't feel right though, and though she was intelligent, she didn't understand me at all. It made me feel like I had to pretend to just be a handsome smile and a compliment, nothing more.

The second girl was just a lusting relationship. She ended up being too silly for me, always saying pointless things just to say pointless things.

I did find one person though. He was intelligent, dashing, probably Aspie, and was willing to give me a try since his last relationship had collapsed, and he wanted to see what a gay relationship would be like. It really is the best. There was electricity, the butterflies, etc. It ended after just one week though. He wasn't feeling as much as he thought he should, and decided we shouldn't continue. I figured we were just at a stand-still because he was getting emotional, but he felt we'd plateaued emotionally, so it ended right then and there....

So that was 3 people in a school of approximately 500-1000, dunno the figures. And only one person was really someone who clicked. Now that we're over, there's quite literally no one again. No girls and no boys. I need to stop thinking about him, darn it!

When I was in high school, I felt the same way about girls. Give it a few more years, girls are more decent as they age. I'll admit, that when I was in high school I wanted nothing to with those type of girls because they are for the most part obnoxious. However, college girls aren't much better either so far. I think mid 20's to early 30's is when they completely grow out of it.

Ugh. I cant wait until Im done with high school. I have three weeks left. High school was the worst experience of my life.

I couldnt find a guy during high school for the same underlying reason - they're all too immature.

2 months after leaving that forsaken place, somehow i managed to find someone

Glad to see I'm not the only one after all. Just a few quick responses:

- I'm aware that people always look to face value first. However, the reason I look forward to being older is that what this "face value" is expressed as changes. In high school, this is purely a reflection of the social hierarchy, which is not worthy of my devotion and energy. When you're older, this no longer matters so much. The number of friends you have is no longer relevant, money comes into play, and people begin to wonder about the long term. (I know from what I've seen of this board that someone will be a realist and say that doesn't always happen, things don't change much in reality, etc., but you can't deny that there IS an increase in each of these things.) Also, I won't have to deal with the pathetically uninteresting and distasteful youth culture we live in nowadays, which is a plus.

- LPP: I understand your points, and they're correct, but remember that the human mind is not purely the product of biology. If you've taken any psychology, philosophy, etc. course, you'll understand what I'm getting at. This is why getting a long term relationship is a struggle; you have to look for a person who is similar to you, understands you as a companion, and is attracted to you.

- billsmithglendale: Actually, even though I've read many of your posts, my dad was the one who bestowed this idea upon me first, lol. He has always told me about how the key to getting a good woman is a paying, stable job and such, in addition to how he had some bad experiences with adolescent women and how this shaped his ideas. Still, my father is a tad bit weird and I can't entirely trust him; your posts helped to validate these ideas in my head. Thanks for the support btw lol.