Responding to compliments, difficulties?

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Does anyone hear also experience difficulties responding to compliments?
Usually whenever I receive a compliment I just mumble, 'thanks' or completely ignore them, not to be rude but because I'm either embarrassed or don't know how to respond :/.
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Yeah, dealing with compliments is a b***h

I am bad at responding to compliments, very bad. I hardly even say thanks, if I do it's more of a "tha" sound lol. Or I go "hm", I used to make the mistake of saying "yeah" I did this for ages until someone told be I was rude.

Yeah, I can say "thanks" easily but it's hard to think of other things to say.

I say "Thanks". What else is there to say?!?!

Yes. I have a problem with reciprocation... As in, someone says something nice about me, and a conventional response might be to thank them and say something nice about them. I am utterly clueless how to do that. Not intellectually, of course. I know how to make up nice things to say. But in real-time interaction with another person, I can't seem to put together the elements of a conversation and construct an acceptable response. There are too many variables, and I can't make sense of them.

when people compliment me, i do not accept it mainly. people who compliment me fail to see how i found it easy to do the thing i did that their compliment is about.

i usually accidentally stumble into many ideas that others think i calculated in a painstaking way, and their compliments are misguided. if they were in my mind, they would see how simple it is to come to my conclusion, and they would not compliment me, but they would say that what i say is an inevitable conclusion that anyone would arrive at if they were in my mind.

people compliment you mainly to make you like them better because they think you need to be complimented which is a bit insulting.

i do not think what i think or do what i do with the "prize" of external compliments in mind.

Totally... I say thanks, but sometimes it's not a "thanks" thing, particularly if they're complimenting me about something and I don't really think I deserve the compliment.. It's not polite to argue with them, but I usually do. Compliments send me into panic mode..

I taught myself to respond like: "Thanks very much, that is very kind of you". It works 99% of the times.

The problem I have is when the compliment is not clear or obvious. I am a master of ignoring such hidden compliments.

I am better not to overthink the whole compliment thing. It could drive me crazy. I have a boilerplate "What a nice thing to say--thank you" prepared and that's usually the end of it. If I think it is a hidden compliment (this whole area is a landmine for me), I will say "I really enjoy [] and work hard at it. It gives me a lot of pleasure." With this I have avoided thanking a compliment that might not be there, but have stated how I feel about the issue. I am even less good at handing out compliments that are not spontaneous and heartfelt, but are expected. I have to carefully word them so they are not a lie, but sound like they are really a compliment. Sometimes I am pretty clever at this, but mostly it causes panic!

I have problems dealing compliments because i am not used to hearing them from people.

oh gosh yes i hear oh ur beautiful online i say thanks, but in real life its like basically saying it to a brick wall, i think ppl are use to it though now

I've learned to just say, "Thank you." Usually that's enough, but sometimes I get an expectant pause. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to add, unless maybe they want me to reciprocate? Sometimes it seems to be a conversation opener, though, too. Again, I'm never quite sure until they ask a question.

Regards,

Patricia

Everyone who hates compliments, say "I"!
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I prefer it if people just tell me I suck or keep their genuine compliments to themselves. I really hate it when people compliment me for looking nice/being pretty or being a "hard worker"/just say you suck but I can tell you put a lot of effort into it PLEASE!

What I've learned over the years is that it's best to appear modest in these situations. If I'm working on a group project and someone tells me what a good job I did, I'll say, "It was really X who did all the work. I just helped." If I am working alone, then the compliment is met with, "Oh, I got lucky, I guess." If they insist that I really did a great job, I respond with, "Don't give me too much credit. I worked on a similar project last year." (This last one is a little white lie I can live with.)

But if I'm not sure if it's a legitimate compliment, and maybe the person is being sarcastic, I respond, in my brightest voice and a big smile on my face, "Why, thank you!"

Sometimes, though, I run into someone who thinks they're being helpful if they can get me acknowledge the compliment, as if there were any gain to me bragging about my work. These people can be quite insistent. I really have no idea how to handle these situations, so I generally respond with, "Well, I'd love to stand around here all day listening to you talk about how great I am, but I have work to do." Then I walk off. Chances are, if these people can see you're uncomfortable and still insist on badgering you, it probably doesn't matter what you say to them. They just won't get it.

I've always had a hard time accepting compliments because I think I've always had a hard time believing them. I do practice responding with a simple "thank you," though, whenever I do hear one; but I find saying anything more than that is a bit too exhausting.