"You sound like you're on drugs"

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For the first time in months I actually took a phonecall. This was because it was important.

I did my best to sound relatively normal and to actually make sure I spoke. I could not follow much of the conversation, but got the gist.

Once the ordeal was over, I thought it had gone well. However, someone (in family) who had overheard the conversation told me I'd sounded like I was on drugs. They kept repeating this statement, even mimicking my voice a few times. They said I'd sounded high/laid back, as though I'd smoked something.

I don't know why, but it hurts, even though they later apologised. Maybe I'm just tired. They know very well how rarely I am able to use the phone, so why did they not think before mimicking me etc.? Do you think they saw me as an embarrassment and that temporarily made them forget to be considerate?

Anyone else had their phone skills and voice mocked?

They were attempting to let you know that you sounded off on the phone in a comical (non offensive) way. The fact you took offense reflects badly on you, not them. You should probably apologise to them.

As for the threads question, yes... my mother always mentions my phone manners. She finds it funny how i reply/answer everything with as few words as possible.

Only outlier knows how they sounded- I don't know if he misread them or not but personally if you want to teach me something, teasing is not an effective way.

Been there and done that.

I gave someone my address once and I mixed the apartment number up. When I figured out my mistake I apologized. They kept asking me if I had ADHD. I didn't of course, but does that mean it's funny to tease someone who does?

To clarify for those who respond in future and to prevent them reading things between the lines that are not there:

They were not laughing or acting amused or amusing.

They know I have social anxiety and have a phone phobia.

I did not show I was offended, but tried to hide my upset. However, they followed me and saw it in my face.

Logically, mocking someone with social anxiety, which they've read about, would not be helpful; quite the opposite. Therefore, I have no idea why they thought mimicking me could be helpful in any way. I do not intend to think about it for long, but have difficulty switching off my curiosity about their behaviour.

The way they treated you sucks, and even worse, they are your family. If you can't be yourself around your family without feeling bad, where can you go? Of course, family members are often the meanest people of all, which is very sad. I never felt good about myself when I was a kid in my family.

I would sometimes space out a bit at school, because I was tired and there was so much new information coming in. One of the other students asked me if I was stoned. I wasn't, but I didn't really care because it was just something said by some other person.

It's good your family apologized though, maybe they realised it's not funny to you.

There was no disagreement; there was miscommunication. I have since spoken with them and they said it just did not occur to them at the time to remember my social anxiety. They agreed that answering the phone is very hard for me. They just forgot at the time. In my case, it is clearly not accurate to describe answering the phone as not a big deal. Such matters differ widely between people (for instance, I am sure some people could be found who would not even consider death to be a big deal).

Out of curiosity, I also decided to mention the idea of me giving an apology. They laughed and said that it was 100% not necessary. I asked why, and they said people are not supposed to apologise for feelings.

I think I have a slightly better idea about their behaviour now. It seems they had just forgotten about my anxiety. They also commented that they cannot think while in the process of saying something or be logical like me.

actually, i get stoned from time to time (to time to time.,..) BUT

when im NOT i will suddenly "GET" stoned if im a victim of a surprise visit from my mother or my dad or the stepmother (whos nice)

last time my dad and stepmother came for a quick visit (by then theyre suspecting im aspie. we're getting closer.) i was so stumped, and i acted SO stoned :S
my dad smirked at me and went "look who's all aggitated!"

...I've had " he's on medication " - even nicely/behnignly - comments directed at me once or twice SINCE my DX , I'd had comments like that in the past , too , I'd meant to post over this...

During my project of continuous labor, 'trying,' a woman ran into my apartment to seek protection from a threat. An officer came over and told the police that I appeared to be on drugs. No arrests, or charges, or anything.

On the word like:

Oftentimes people will say, "You look like..." "You sound like..." followed by anything they want to say about you. In reality, everything is like everything else to some degree. That means anyone can weasel by with a statement that you appear or behave 'like' something. I'd just say, "Everything is like everything else, to some degree."