Never wanting to get out of Bed

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At night, do you ever hold your pillows and pretend that you have a boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you forget that it's just pillows and keep pretending because it makes you feel like your dream life parter is actually there with you? And do you ever feel like you never ever ever ever want to get out of bed to start your day because you don't want to live the horrable reality that you are still single in real life?

Now I have no choice but to get out of bed at 10am or earlier. I hate being single! It's Sucks!

It's not just the being single aspect, but the overall result of nothing to look forward to at all.

I tried it once... didn't work...

I used to let my imagination conjure up fantasy versions of women that I thought might actually like me... but since pretty much every woman I have ever been interested in has rejected me or gotten a boyfriend, I don't even have that luxury anymore...

On the other hand, I understand perfectly the not wanting to get out of bed and face the reality of still being alone...

I feel ya.

Or maybe I just got used to being lonely. When I had a mate, the time when everything was honeymoonie wonderful, and lingering in bed to relate to them was so brief in the context of the whole relationship anyway. When fantasizing the lovey dovey part, you never have to deal with miscommunication where she/he is pouting because some careless word of phrase left the impression of something you never intended, or argue about who didn't do their half of the chore wheel, or what happened to the $32 dollars that was in the cookie jar you were saving for cookware that went for a rebuilt carburator on his project car, etc. etc. It is exhaustingly hard work, and it never even pauses for a moment.

been there.... I do hold a pillow everynight... I don't really go into deep fantasy about who I wish it was.... but holding a pillow makes me feel better. and yes being single does suck alot.

Yes, I have often felt that way, and I find it difficult to go to sleep unless I do the pillow-cuddling thing. I don't know why... it must be some kind of instinct or social-conditioning which causes the "need" to hold someone. I wish I wasn't like this.


Well... maybe it will get more bearable over time... it has for me, a little.

Add me to the list of pillow lovers. The pillows never say goodbye or tell you "let's just be friends OK?"

Vanilla_Slice

Ditto that. I hope everyone here pining for romance gets exactly what they're wishing for, so they can learn what true misery and torture really are and shut the f**k up about it! Hugging your pillow is sweeter comfort than a human partner will ever be. Save your money and buy yourself a RealDoll for Christmas.

I'm truly sorry though, that I have no answers for the 'not wanting to get out of bed' issue. It seems hopeless to me that one can ever catch a break in a world where the entire surrounding population looks at you askance, first puzzled, the annoyed that there's a creature among them that does not, will not, (they can't imagine 'cannot') think or behave exactly the same way the rest of them do. They discriminate, they bully, they ostracize, they abuse without ceasing, all the while wondering aloud "what's your problem - why can't you just be like everybody else?"

The worst are the happiest, who spout bible verses and strew flowers wherever they go, loved by their peers and blessed with showers of undeserved good fortune, adding bitterness to the bile. Thank you, Jesus, for loving us all equally. I only wish I could hold them down and inject them with my reality, yank off those rose-colored goggles. Welcome to tha party, Pal. BrAaiIIiNnNnZzz

Aah, I love a good rant in the morning...

^^ awwww. . maybe you need to hug your pillow inna morning?

Just kiddin' dude.

I recognize the symptoms, that was me at one point too.

I think you've probably got depression, especially the "can't get out of bed" part. Solution -- an appointment with the doctor for some anti-depressants, and maybe a few therapy sessions with a psychologist or psychiatrist (and not just a therapist -- a lot of those people are quacks).

Yeah I feel you on the pillows thing but I still get out of bed cause I have my brothers to look after yea many people I know in real life don't know how crushing it is to be alone for so long in high school I overhead some guy saying that he is about to go insane cause he was single for a month try 19 years then you can talk

Yes I do, i think about an older woman

At times, I feel fusterated that I don't have people to relate to in my social life, esspecially a life partner. I'm 21 and I've never dated before. Plus It's kind of hard now because I'm Trigendered and I'm only attracted to Masculine (Not Muscular) Women. I'm the ENFP personality type and I'm attracted to the ENTP personality type. I'm not trying to be picky but that's what I can relate to according to science.

My parents want me to wake up at 10am and eat breakfast at the table where they are. I feel that I don't want to wake up to reality. I rather cuddle with my pillow and fantasize that I have a relationship.

Seeing as you have nobody to relate to in your social life, aside from not having dated, I would think that making some friends should be your first priority.

I am three years older than you and have never been in any kind of relationship either. I'm totally not looking for a life partner yet--I know I would feel so uncomfortably constrained to be out of the dating world before I had even really gotten into it. I do, however, have a few friends I can usually talk to if I'm having a tough time, and one in particular whom I trust to tell almost anything.

I have done the pillow thing a few times before, but I don't feel like that often. It's mostly in the morning if I went to bed a little stoned the previous night. I take it as a sign that my affection circuits are kind of trying to start up after not having been used for so many years.

In my case (though I'm sure that's not true for most people), I realize that my occasional craving for cuddling is really only because I absolutely never do it. If I were to actually have someone with whom I could do that, it would get old very quickly. Because frankly, aside from the initial part where you learn about how it feels to touch a new partner, it is very boring. While the total absence of physical touch is frustrating, I don't think it would need much until I "max out" on how much reward I can get from it and actually feel kind of depressed--which seems to be one of the ways in which I differ from most NTs.

I find waking up early the hardest thing but feel much better at the end of the day for it. Sometime I get angry at myself for not waking up earlier. I saw this thing on the news about it recently.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7976489.stm