Anybody else have more luck with the opposite gender online?

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Its odd thing about me me I'm more attractive through the internet than face to face some girls say its my voice others say they find me more interesting

I have noticed the same thing.

I think my online personality might be more attractive than my real-life one. One thing people have said about me on the internet is that I'm very up-front and unashamed about what I think, which is not something I'd associate with myself at all but when I look back on my forum posts I can see what they're talking about. In real life I may appear more anxious and more timid, especially in a group or with new people.

That said, there are communication issues on the internet that don't really exist in real-life. People with AS may appreciate how plain and up-front communication through text is (without having to read one's body language and tone of voice), but it's a double-edged sword. You may be led to think things about a girl, or what a girl thinks about you, that you would never have thought if you actually met her. So in that sense, it's very dangerous and I'm not going to try any internet relationships for the foreseeable future.

No.

But when I did have luck...it wasn't so much luck as it was harassment and offensive messages I'd get such as..."I wanna see your boobs" and then graphic pictures they'd send me of themselves.

However I do seem to get along with people of the opposite as well as the same gender in terms of pen pals and friendships better than I do in the real world. I think for me it has a lot to do with the way I project myself and socialize. Not easy in the real world...I often find myself struggling verbally. But online, it's easier for me to process my thoughts before I type...as a means of communication.

But again.....I'm not so great at the pablum chat or flirtation....

my brother met his wife over the internet. He says it is easier with foreign women because they just think it is part of the culture/language thingy.

I have a (now former) friend who thinks that e-mail, IM, and phone calls are not "real" communication. And this is coming from someone who spends all her time on MySpace.

I, on the other hand, believe that all forms of communication are equally effective.

This was someone I tried to pursue romantically (who also had AS). I knew that what she said was ridiculous, but when I told her that all forms of communication were equally good, she accused me of trying to manipulate her into dating me. In fact, saying anything other than "OK, you're the boss!" was manipulation. Everything had to be her way, and she wouldn't compromise.

That's the only way i seem to connect with any girls is through the internet. There is one special one I've known for 4 years that has always been a match with me, and if possible I want to take it to the next level with her but don't know what's gonna happen.

I am much less attractive online because I do not reveal my physical self, which is the only reason people would approach. I have just as few friends online as off.

Yup! The internet also isn't limited geographically, so it's just easier to meet people with similar interests and all..

on the internet you Avoid:

# eyes
# subtleties
# timing

you say whats on your mind, read replies, and answer when ready.

Hey miss C, for the communication problem, the center which helps me with my AS proposed me to take some improvisation activities... It could help....

It's like night & day. I'm way better at attracting women online. All my good qualities come thru nicely (picture, profile stats, intellegnece). My bad ones like stiff body language, lack of social proof, & poor charisma don't though.

Not sure. I talk to females online much more than in real life, but I don't think I appear as more attractive online or anything.

My current relationship started online. Previous relationships started online. I've been tremendously successful with online relationships.

Online is a great place to meet people, but you also have to go into it with your eyes open: don't expect your digital reality to correspond to the offline world. It won't be as smooth and easy by design. I've had some real connections online that have completely bombed offline.

It's all about putting your expectations and reality together.