How socially isolated you are or have been

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For pretty much since I was 13, I had virtually nil social life in real life or even online. Sure I was in school or TAFE college and knew lots of people, but that was about it. Especially when I lived in Melbourne, I went out a lot but alone. In high school I never went to school social functions, other students houses or parties. I was involved with a political activist group for a while when I was 18 and visited another fellow student's house once when I was in TAFE, but that was about it.

When I moved to Bendigo, I became even more of a homebody and spent a lot of my spare time in front of the computer, watching TV or playing my xbox. Until I joined wrongplanet I had only 2 or 3 online friends whom I made via an another discussion forum.

My level of social isolation is a reason why I only realised when I joined wrongplanet, how 'disabled' I am in social communication and interaction. I never got much of a chance to get feedback from others.

I have socially isolated most of My Life as well. and continue to be so. the Wrong Planet is My daily dose of hooking up with Humanity. I have always been a loner type in My Life. Since though I have gotten My Computer it has helped. But I really don't really feel lonely though. I live My Life the Way I like it very much.

oh my god does this thread strike a chord with me.
I remember most of the last high school I was at as a time of hidous isolation and torment.
Most of 11th grade was living hell.I hated that school so much!!I had no friends and everyone was so mean to me! I was for some reason unwilling to socialize online or anything.
I felt horrible.Now I'm a bit better but still I sometimes feel alone do to disconnects with people and my aspie social skills.Yet still now I have friends and can fake it through. I had a girlfriend and have quite a few friends now,so I feel better.

I just didn't have many friends and could never understand social things. I have always felt alone and apart and like a deer in the headlights socially. I don't think I've ever felt like I belonged somewhere. Trouble is I also don't want to deal with anyone. I used to try to be invisible when I was in public. Never worked. People suck. I'd rather read.

I was very much socially isolated before, but I am making a lot more new friends now.

I'm very socially isolated and I like it that way - I love to do things for people and manipulate situations and resources to help people but as for actual interaction with people - they can keep that to themselves . . . when I look at my life the times I am most depressed are when I have been trying to be social like a normal person - so why should I do that to myself?

Alot of people around me assume that people who rarely talk and are alone all the time have problems. But I like being alone. And the sound of my own voice is really irratating to me. I had friends before, but after a year or so i get sick of them and just stop talking to them. It makes me really fatigued to be around people.

I am usually so socially isolated that it has negative effects on my perception of how the world works, and I may begin to base my actions totally on an internal line of reasoning that may not concord with external conditions.

My social isolation was a definite factor comfirming my adult diagnosis of Asperger's.

Mixed feelings about it, as with such times as when I tried as a teenager to be a football supporter. It was clear that a lot a pleasure was to be had by many people, and I fancied a piece of that. Who wouldn't? The same has applied to a variety of activities, mostly with social settings, over the years. The sheer fun that groups and pairs seem to be able to have has largely eluded me.

I've never got team sports beyond "What should *I* be doing?": A team is a collection of individuals, except there's something more, isn't there, allegedly?

I had no birthday parties after I was 12, my parents simply had no-one to invite!
I read on my own most evenings.

While I'm generally friendly and chatty with people I meet, and work quite closely with people during the day, I've not turned that into regular friendships. The lack of shared interests may be a factor. I'm a member of a couple of societies, but they are not ones that meet a lot!

There was a time I thought I'd got it right, with a community, and casual and deeper friends. For more almost twenty years I was seriously committed to Christianity, which came with a set of activities, more defined social rules and general social contacts.
The fly in the ointment? I studied long and hard, wanting to be a good Christian. but the more I studied the more difficulties I found. This eventually became impossible to resolve within the church, and has undermined the social structure I thought was around me. I couldn't handle lying about faith, and most of my friends couldn't handle the good solid Christian falling away.

So, now, virtuallty no friends except on-line, and a wrecked philosophy to boot.

While everyone in my family have been social butterflies, fitting in almost everywhere, I have almost always been strangely isolated. I used to get berated and talked to almost no one for years until a few years ago, when I decided that I couldn't live like that anymore. Finally I began laughing at myself and the teasing finally stopped. While I still don't have many friends (I only have 1 or 2 friends I see semi-frequently) I am now accepted by my peers in school. I usually just shut up and only talk when I'm spoken to. However, one problem I still have is when to tell when people are laughing at or with me. Sometimes it's hard ascertain the nature of the laughter of others, but lately I have been getting better at it...

I was the same way, but it started much sooner. I wasn't around other children my age, other than my sister who is a year older than me, until I was 6 years old. My mother was a stay at home mom so I didn't go to daycare like alot of kids do. My parents also didn't let me go out and play with other kids in the neighborhood, so I was often alone. At the time, the minimum age for school was 6 years old where I lived, so at that point, I had no choice but to be around other kids. I made maybe one friend at most, and that's how it was throughout my school years.

In addition, my parents constantly moved me from one school to the next, so even when I did make a friend or two, it was hard to keep them because the next year, I'd be shuffled off somewhere else and have to start over. My sister went though the same thing and never had trouble making new friends and the fact I was just the opposite in that respect didn't make things easier at home either. Because she could easily make friends and I couldn't, our parents thought there was something wrong with me and I needed to straighten myself out, which I never understood.

The few times I did make friends, my sister would make an effort to try and take them away from me and make them her friends and not mine. She had better people skills than I did it seemed and I couldn't win against her. In fact, one time I did try something I thought would work but it failed and I didn't, and still don't, understand why other than the fact NTs don't work by rational, logical rules.

When I went to 8th grade at age 13, I was exposed to the concept of school dances and dating, something I'd never seen before. Because I wasn't interested in these things, I was treated like I had something wrong with me, and the school thought I was way behind socially where I should be. Not to mention I got constanly tormented for other reasons.

I thought it would get better in high school because I was going to a new school with new people, but it wasn't. I didn't like going out and still don't and like you, never went to school functions like dances, and again, got harassed for it. I also refused to participate in a degrading week or hazing rituals, which also lowered my status amongst the other students for reasons I don't understand why.

I can remember this girl flirting with me pretending she liked me and even though I let her know she wasn't interested, she kept it up. Even though I screamed at her, insulted her, and one time threw something at her, she wouldn't leave me alone. I considered what she was doing harassment and nobody would lift a finger to stop it and I was made to be the bad guy because I wasn't willing to take her abuse lying down.

I didn't go to parties or anything like that and didn't really care. As long as I had my computer, TV shows, electronics books, etc., I was happy.

Every class in every school i was ever in i was THE center of attention and i'm not just being arrogant. In high school we had 400 students and people would greet me who i had no idea who they were for all 4 years i was there. Although i wouldnt call that social connection. I had a handful(a large handful) of good friends through out school, and now ive got a small handful of friends who see me once a week. And i'd rather it was less. But they are all relatively normal and want to see me and each other more often than that.
I'd prefer being a total recluse and only socializing through WP, and other online people games and programs.

I plan to be a teacher but i wont mind that because i KNOW the roles everyone is gonna be in. I'm gonna be the teacher and they'll be the students, no ambiguity there.

I had playmates when I was little, but from eight to thirteen I was almost completely socially isolated. At thirteen I made my first friends; at fourteen I switched schools and withdrew into my shell again; at fifteen I began to come out of my shell; and now at seventeen I have a few good friends and experience much less trouble with social interaction than I used to.

The level of contact with my family has always been low since my puberty (in quantity, not in quality.). And if it wasn't for my über-socializing friend, and the people I met during work or sports activities I'd be pretty much by myself.

But I can say that I don't need to be in this situation per se - if I want to socialize or do 'fun stuff' with, I know the right person for the job. However this requires a desire to socialize......and that's not a 'normal' feeling for yours truly.

I know many people at school, but I have only one "friend" in the sense that I go to her house, and she comes to my house. For the most part, I live my life at home and at school, occasionally going out for choir practices. Other than my one friend, I never attend any social functions or school events, because large crowds of people scare me. I prefer to just stay home with my computer and cat. ^^

'Isolated' just doesn't quite cut it. Wthe exception of my one year in James Hornsby, during my compulsory education days, the most friends I ever had was 3. Even now at college I have about 5 (plus two twins who stalk me), but I can't even open up with the friends I have. Outside of school/college I have 3 friends, one of whom moved house and only visits some weekends, and it is rare I talk to my family nowadays as I never have anything to say. Needless to say, I blame myself for being such a friggin coward that I won't go up to talk to others.