When do you tell that you can tell?

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There's a guy I've liked since meeting him two years ago. Time passed and we have made a point to be in each other's lives finally post that first meeting.

Two dates later and he says the most heart-warming-yet-frightening thing: "You're not like other girls. You're mechanically minded, you build things, you think, (trails off etc). I can't figure you out at all." This being said in the same convo where he drops his pride that he's a few classes away from his psyc degree...

The way he said it the subtext could've been, "You have the sexiest brain I've ever met." Which had me tingling all over. I almost like the idea of leaving it as a challenge to him to figure out.

The frightening part is, does he really like me or just my body's attractiveness and will loose interest in the puzzle once it's figured out.

So far people's reactions to this suggested diagnosis have not been overall positive and most are of disbelief. This leaves me feeling the need to hide the factoid to avoid stereotypical judgment.

When do you tell that you can tell?

I have never been able to tell and I guess I never will. Try out your question on the NT Hotline thread.

depending on his facial expression and tone at the time. it could've been that.

or maybe being that he's in a psyche class he finds you fascinating in that you don't seem to fit the uniformity or thought and psyche he's come to study. if he has a passion for psychology you'd prolly seem like a wealth of innovative approaches and perspectives. which should be awesome for you, 'cause it could mean he's hooked with passionate curiosity into you too. . or at least has enough interest for you to get your foot in the door.
wouldn't worry about him losing the mystery too much. the repercussions of our differentness from NT perspective thought are too different to be understood as a whole. if he ever feels he's figured you out, remind him that he hasn't learned to think like you yet so there's a huge hole in his logic. and that if he as then you're a perfect a match .

or maybe for the same reason, rather than intrigue him, it could bother him a little. now, this kind of situation should be obvious to most by body language and tone. and seems discredited by the fact that he hasn't jumped ship yet.

So perhaps he likes you for being smart. This is a GOOD thing.

Perhaps he prefers you to airheads who only think of shopping and fashion.