Do you sense the "low" social behaviours that othe

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29 Aug 2009, 2:31 pm

Just asking do you sometimes have the upper edge and see some subtle socializing that you feel like "Oh you shouldn't be doing/saying that" feeling kind of embarasment for him/her. Guess this is the feeling NTs are feeling towards me most of the time.

I mean subtle signs of it, not obvious ones, like being very rude to people.

I'm not totally blind to social interactions. I just tend to lose it when interacting with socially savvy people. I'm not sure are they being serious while for example teasing me. Also I tend to see the social patterns better when feeling confident and energized

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29 Aug 2009, 3:44 pm

Yes, I know that feeling. Its a little nauseating sometimes, seeing someone else sticking their foot in their mouth and not being able to stop it (hey - isn't that empathy?). I actually used to befriend certain other kids in school whose social functions were even worse than mine, just to redirect their attention away from situations where they might be ridiculed, abused or taken advantage of for their naivete.



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29 Aug 2009, 4:20 pm

Sometimes cognitive empathy works better than reflex empathy.

And you don't have to be aspie to be socially inept.


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29 Aug 2009, 5:06 pm

Sometimes I see the signs but I don't really feel embarrassed for them.



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29 Aug 2009, 6:10 pm

I can read social interaction a lot easier if I am in a detached observer position. I'm more likely to miss something or say something wrong when I'm participating.