Briana wrote:
Do you guys really like this...do u guys really like muscualr girls or are you all too caught up in to what everyone else says about you on this forum or in real life. "Aspie guys need to step up, be strong be confident"...ignore all that. Then you guys are told to be dominant. you feel that you cant fulfil that role so you look for someone who does, and the you all think that just because a woman is muscular then her mindset fits the dominant one..which is true.
Stop looking for this dominant, adrogenous and all this other stuff. When every guy first comes on this forum, he wants a cute feminine girl, then after reading thru the forums, he wants a dominant many woman.
I think the problem is is that you guys want understanding, but dont feel that feminine women will understand you because of your experiences, so you think that liking women that most men arent attracted to may give u a higher chance of success, while in reality you like the same type of women that most men do.
Its sad.
Forget the girls that dont accept you. Dont look for love acceptance and understanding, but when its there cherish it no matter is she has a mustache, muscles, smooth skin, or makeup. dont do this to yourselves, please
That may be true for some of these guys, though I've noticed for myself that my like for alpha women has been more to do with having someone who can stand as an equal - not to say that others can't but I've noticed all too many ultra-feminine women are the first to project a lot of needs on a guy and really lean on him to be superman, that puts a rediculous enough amount of stress on most NT guys as it is, let alone dealing with the things that we face. Dating a girl who's a bit more like one of the characters in Descent - if she's intelligent and has a good personality the guy who's dating her has a hell of a lot going for him, mainly that he can quite literally have a great horizontal relationship. If a guy wants a vertical relationship (someone who's more like a superior than equal) - its questionable, things like that don't work out for a happy relationship unless she has that strong of a need to be with a guy who needs assistance, and even then - does he truly want to be assisted or rescued?
That said though I won't say that I haven't met women who were more outwardly feminine who were definite 'women', I think that's the most important distinction. Overall though independence, self-reliance, especially in this day and age these qualities are very attractive.