How do you NOT know you're pregnant WARNING touchy ISSUE!

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I don't get it. outside of

A)Rape (wake up in the woods etc. somewhere bleeding etc.)

B) drinking then waking up in bed or perhaps while drunk you have sex)

IMO otherwise YOU CHOSE to have sex and you KNEW the CONSEQUENCES so IMO don't give me that I didn't know I was pregnant IMO if it was me either A) don't do it (I medically can't BTW) or B) ask the doctor after every time (preferebaly A if I didn't want a kid!)

My teacher while celebrating her PhD was celebrating which meant alcohol and didn't know she was pregnant with her daughter it scared her that her daughter would have problems luckily she doesn't.

What are your thoughts women?

Not every intercourse leads to pregnancy. Like if you're on the birth control pill, usually you will not get pregnant, but you might forget apill, and there's a small chance you end up pregnant anyway despite taking the pill faithfully. Also y ou will only be fertile a few days each month, but you cannot always tell predictably which days.

Your doctor will n ot likely appreciate it if you get into his office everytime you've had sex. I'm not sure about the usefulness of pregnancy tests.

So, in most cases you can know that you had sex, but you cannot knowimmediately whethe ryou're pregnant or not. Drinking, smoking, etc. may do damage in the early pregnancy when you don't have obvious signs yet.

When you watch I didn't know I was Pregnant, there are reasons why they didn't know they were. They spotted during their whole pregnancy and they thought it was their period. They didn't have any symptoms or they mistook their symptoms for stress or other things. Weight gain, they took for not being active or eating more during the holidays so they figured that was the extra calories, not the baby weight. Plus some women don't even ovulate monthly so they might not even suspect they are pregnant.

Well, I had very light periods the first three months... but at the same time I realised I was pregnant within a matter of days. When I spotted, I was convinced I was losing my son, and as you can imagine the first three months were hell.

If someone who is having regular (if very light) periods knows she's pregnant, I don't see how other women miss it. However, I'm only experienced with my own body, other women's hormones etc work differently. I can't imagine how anyone could miss the fact that they have a fetus in there. But then I'm not other women.

I think once you're a couple of months into pregnancy it's impossible to miss unless you actively try to convince yourself that it's not there, i.e you're in denial. The only other way you could miss it is if you're wasted on drugs or ret*d (and I don't mean that in a derogatory way, there have been instances of girls with mental retardation not realizing that sex might in fact lead to pregnancy).

Though male, I'll add some biology to this thread, since it's relevant.

Sperm can survive in the uterus for up to 48 hours after sex, so fertilization can take place up to two days after intercourse, skewing the expected timing.

Ovulation can occur at any day of a woman's monthly cycle, even during menstruation (rare), so predicting odds of fertilization based on timing (the old rhythm method of contraception) is unreliable.

The majority of fertilized eggs (as many as two-thirds, according to some experts) do not become pregnancies, so an early test of pregnancy might yield positive, and a later test would be negative, depending on the testing methodology.

There are only three 100% reliable methods of contraception:

1. Male sterilization
2. Female sterilization
3. Complete abstinence

All other methods, even combined methods, have a reliability rate below 100%, though several are above 90% when used correctly.

I turn the topic back over to the women here, who by virtue of gender and experience can offer much more insight.

WHAT!? I'm PREGNANT?

Only in thought, deario.

I think some women are so not in touch with their bodies, and have the spotting as has been previously mentioned, that especially with the first pregnancy they aren't aware of any significant changes. Some women don't put on a lot of weight or get a huge belly... my sister for one. She really didn't look or feel particularly pregnant til the last month... though she knew she was.

Most of the "I didn't know" stories I've seen have been young teens with little awareness of women's health or their bodies.

There is an entire series on Discovery Health Channel (I think) called something like "I Was Pregnant and Didn't Know It". A lot of it comes down to women relying on their periods to let them know, but sometimes - especialy if a woman is on the pill and forgets to take one - she will have spotting anyway and mistake it for her period.

There are two different issues here: not realizing you've had unprotected sex, and not realizing you are actually pregnant.

For the first, while it's relatively easy to know if a condom has split or slipped off, caps can not fit properly without a woman realizing it, especially if she's recently lost or gained a lot of weight, apparently. And the Pill, even if you're extremely careful about taking it, can be made ineffective by a bout of vomiting, or by taking certain other medications - St John's Wort now has a reputation for this, but the most common interaction is antibiotics. So women can not realize they've taken a risk.

The other thing is that women's bodies react to pregnancy in different ways. Many women's periods stop immediately, some have spotting for the first few months, a few have more or less 'normal' bleeding all the way through. A girl who's not long started, a woman who's near the menopause, and women with certain medical conditions like PCOS may not have regular periods anyway, so might not notice missing one. Breast changes and nausea are variable things and don't happen in all women to the same degree. Weight gain is also very variable, and women of the same build can 'carry' the baby differently so the same stage looks bigger on one woman than another.

Also, some women and girls are still startlingly ignorant of how their own bodies work and how sex works. I knew one married woman in her 40s who knew all about reliable methods of contraception, but she and her husband 'didn't like' any of them, so relied on 'pulling out' - and were utterly shocked when she got pregnant that way - twice. But in the case of some younger women, such ignorance is often not their own fault. In the UK, I believe it's still possible for parents to withdraw their children from sex ed classes, and there's no obligation for the parents themselves to teach a child about that side of things. Consequently, if parents are really determined to keep their kids 'innocent', you still get occasional cases like this:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article ... shame.html
I read a more detailed version of this story in a magazine a few weeks back, and now that the case has been investigated thoroughly, it's patently clear that this poor woman had no idea what was happening to her. Tragic.

Sorry I know this is the no-dick section, but I was looking through the new posts thing and clicked it now knowing that it resided in the no dick section. I'm posting because me and my fiance found out we were pregnant 4 months ago so I thought I would have some input.

I knew before her. I knew when her periods started and I knew she was about 5 days late. She was also complaining of cramps and painful boobs all the time and no period.

It was unexpected to say the least

While it is listed under Women discussion (since pregnancy is a woman thing LOL!) Males are welcome to put in there input as the daddy. (Never forget Psychology class mention sex once and a student who was in the wrong class was there poor guy ROFL!) the teacher laughed to LOL!)

This is true. Every pregnancy is different and some women can have no outward symptoms, including no apparent lapse in periods, or sometimes a woman my not ever have regular periods. I had a friend who was very overweight and hadn't had a period in 2 years. In the unlikely event that she got pregnant, she probably would not have known.

It's possible, but it definately baffles me. Pregnancy affects me so profoundly from fatigue and nausea, to aches and kicks in the ribs, I can't imagine not knowing.

Another reason of not knowing you're pregnant is being told you can't have kids and you won't be able to conceive. But doctors seems to be wrong all the time when they tell their patient that because they end up with a baby. Well if you know you can't have kids, you don't even bother being on the pill or using condoms so you might not even know you're pregnant. If they don't even ovulate monthly and they only get their period few times a year, they are still not going to know. A missed period means nothing to them and they might not even care that they hadn't had it in six months or five months or three.

I have irregular cycles so I could conceivably (ha!) think that I was having a long cycle when in fact I had a short cycle and became pregnant. Not that it's ever happened, but it's possible.

Another thing to note is that when someone finds out they are pregnant they are usually about '4 weeks' along, but the 40 weeks technically starts at the date of the last menstrual cycle which for the average woman is 2 weeks before conception even takes place. Some people get confused about that, and also most anything done before the 4 week mark is usually not detrimental to the baby (ie: drinking some wine). But if it continues throughout the pregnancy it can obviously be very problematic!

I have a few friends that the pill just plain doesn't work for one of those girls still Ovulates while pregnant and has gotten pregant while already pregant causing a miscarage of the first pregance and she was pregant for a soild year. She is also one of those didn't know she was pregant women with her oldest because she never stops ovutaling and still has her monthly cycle the whole time. She found out about her oldest becasue she went to the doctor for the flu and because of her age they made her take a pregance test <it for some reason is stander in alot of tricare clincs>. It wasn't the flu. Also because of the placement of her uterus she is unable to feel any movement she was already 5 mos along at this time.
Both male and female sterilization have failed in the past they are better now then they were in the past but it still happens. With male sterilization there are still a few "swimmer" left behind after and they tell you to use comdoms for the few I think two weeks after it's done.
Then there are the late life babies from women who think they are in menapause but are still ovualating after they have stopped having a monthly cycle or are only having a few a year.
Very overweight women who do not notice a few extra pounds and don't have regaral ovualation due to there weight dito very under weight women who just lose as much as they gain in baby with out seeing the change.
Then there are then women in plain old denial I'm too busy , young , single or what ever to have a baby. Sometimes it moves past denial in to a break with reality and this is when you get some of the baby in the trash can cases.