Slight overweightness...kills chances?

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I know that a number of guys do not want to date women that aren't the perfect skinny fantasy with curves in all the right places.

Now, on top of the whole AS problem, how much more of a burden does weight add upon the average AS person? Especially women?

I'm thinking of a time I was behind a guy in a store lineup. He looked to be in his late 20s or thereabouts and was wearing jeans and a jean jacket. One of his purchases was Axe body spray. You know the stuff...the ones with the commercial where a guy uses an Axe product and he's immediately beset by comely women who sometimes 'fight' over him.

So I remarked, "Oh, so you believe the commercials, eh?" and he said, "Well gotta try something, I'm new in town."

The discussion didn't go any farther than that. Guy showed no interest in me, but then of course, he looked like the kind of guy who was blue collar but wanted a pretty thin girl.

I have only been overweight since my mid-20s, when the Lyme disease and the exhaustion and pain associated with it really got rolling and I could no longer exercise. But I was very skinny when I was in school and got nothing and nowhere.

But just how much does weight matter, anyway? I'm 5'7, 235 lb

All I have for say on this topic is that overweightness kills my self-esteem. BTW, 5'10, 195 lbs 16 y.o. guy here. I am often called a fatass to my face .

Last edited by Mapler on 06 Oct 2009, 10:02 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Have you spoken to your doctor about your weight concerns? Surely, if they have other Lyme disease patients, they will know of ways to help them stay within a healthy weight.

I'm slowly losing weight myself, but I'm able to get out to the gym for exercise.

My GP denies she has any patients with Lyme disease. She herself knows nothing about the disease beyond the fact that is spread by ticks and causes a rash.

The only way to deal with weight when you have Lyme and are in as much pain as I am is to get rid of the Lyme. Otherwise exercise is much too painful.

But it wasn't just Lyme. I had a coinfection called Babesia Microti, which is a protozoan similar to Malaria. That thing sucked most of the energy and oxygen from me. I'm still being treated for it.

An expert in Lyme and its coinfections says that if you try to treat Lyme before you get rid of babesia, you won't get far.

Oh my doctor had suggestions, but they were suggestions for people with Fibromyalgia, which I had been misdiagnosed with. I tried them and it didn't work. I was in far too much pain to carry out the suggestions for more than one day.

I've done the gym thing. Fail. I get exhausted and confused.

People who reject you because of your weight are not worth your time. Someone who will truly love you will not care about that.

Wonderful. She's so very helpful. Maybe it's time to look into a new GP.

Good luck with the health problems.

Meh, other than that, she's a good GP. Truth be told, virtually 0 GPs in my town will even acknowlege Lyme. I have to go to a doctor I know in Nanaimo who is helpful, for that.

Getting a new GP around here is a special problem. See, I'm in Canada. Back in the early 90s, some genius in the federal government decided to save money by restricting the number of doctors that could be trained. This has resulted in a severe doctor shortage. There's a statistic floating around where a disturbingly high number of Canadians cannot find a family doctor.

And this doc? I ditched an "it's all in your head" doctor in the early 90s, when the ditching was good, to get this doctor. Other than the Lyme issue, which MOST GPs and even specialists will NOT acknowledge in British Columbia, this doctor is fine. I can get what I need from the doctor in Nanaimo over Lyme.


Thanks

Too much too late, this will get bad really soon.

Yeah, agreed. This is why I like the internets. You can get to 'know' a person at least somewhat before you see what they look like (assuming they're not lying about everything).


Dude what are you on about?

Ugh, i hear this a ton about Canada, lack of doctors. They all come to America where they can get filthy rich living off of private practice income =P.


I've got a good friend whose been battling lyme disease her whole life, and i dont recall her ever having any kind of diet restrictions, none that she's mentioned anyways.
So I would think a more solid diet could help. I can understand the exercise, the joint pains of lyme disease can really make that impossible, but a more disciplined diet should be able to do something.

No word of a lie here, a regular GP doctor will NOT get rich in Canada. Certainly they don't make enough to justify the money they spend on schooling. Idiots are still restricting slots in medical schools in Canada so prospective new docs often must train abroad at considerable expense, which they'll never make up with Canadian doctor wages.

If they want to make $ in private practice in USA I say more power to them. It's Canada that's being stupid, not them. I don't blame them for wanting to be able to make more with less restrictions on their hours, surgery time, and other hassles.


Well I don't just have joint pain, I have muscle pain and some neurological symptoms as well. Lyme often affects people differently depending on where the spirochetes have embedded themselves.

Diet doesn't really affect Lyme much.

I take it a step further and make fat jokes about myself wherever I can, and people are less likely to bully me when I show them that my weight doesn't bother me...


Hey, I'd take ya... I like a woman with a little weight on her... I'd be less likely to crush her when I went to hug her...

Oh, yeah, you have to be into very close, long-lasting hugs...

I don't mind long lasting hugs. *peers at your age* Hmmmm does it matter if I'm like 15 years your senior?

Yeah that's the real issue there... but that doesn't mean we can share some hugs does it? I guess I'm somewhat asexual, since to me the prospect of that kind of hug is more appealing than the prospect of sex...

That said, women my own age love to not love me , so looking outside my age group might be the only solution...

The only other question is: do you care about weight? I'm around 5'11", 275 lbs...

Getting married, or having a girlfriend/boyfriend is overrated. Being attractive just ain't worth it anymore.

I'm not really bothered by weight. Hugz are good!
*patpats*