is it true that all guys will be attracted to pretty women?

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there's this professor i like and it's been long since i've been done with his course and i don't go to school now and i'm might not even go to his school anymore. in december after he's finished with his courses, i'm planning to go to him and tell him i like him. i've been liking him since january. i'm planning to lose 30lbs, not that i'm fat, but to look perfect. i guess i don't do any kind of dressing up and stuff because i'm an aspie. i look so plain. i'll do everything that a woman can possibly do and look like a model.

they say all men are same. will this effect his decision? someone said, women don't have to be smart, they just have to be beautiful. i got the average mark in his class and it was a really hard class because it was mathematical proofs. people say i'm smart though.

i'm going away to korea and i'll go to him afterwards and someone told me to buy something in korea like a chocolate and bring this with me to him. what do you think?

someone else told me to find his house and go there or meet him somewhere else other than school and tell him all this and/or tell him i just wanted to see him before i left.

if it's not him, then there's no one for me. this is a rule. i thought of how painful it would be to date someone else. how i have to show my fake interest and love for them while i'm crying my mind out.

i've never dated anyone before. i'm just isolated.

he's 35 and i'm almost 20.

Take great care of yourself.

By the way, my hunch is that many aspie men like feminity, but could'nt give two hoots about looking conventionally attractive.

Chris

what about male homosexuals?

ruveyn

Men like attractive women, women like attractive men. It's instinct.

You are asking a wrong group of men. Most NT men would probably put up with a dumb crazy b***h as long as she was hot.

I can't speak for all men on this forum, but I'm instantly turned off good looking women if I found out they were uneducated or bigoted or close minded or whatever. Anecdote: I had a celebrity crush on Megan Fox until I found out she was a dumbass trailer trash. I can't stand seeing her picture anywhere anymore. She's now repulsive to me.

To the OP: Woah, slow down there.

You're acting on the assumption that he'll reciprocate your actions. You don't know that. You definitely can't guarantee that he'll be understanding of your actions or that he'll have the same feelings for you.

For all he knows, you're just a random student in his class who suddenly rocks up at your door to tell him they've got the hots for them. That's one way of really making things awkward, if not outright turning him away.

Also no, it's not true that all men will be attracted to pretty women. Attraction is much more complex than that.

It's probably kind of bad to get involved with a professor, though. You say you aren't going to school now, but you only "might" not go to that school anymore. If you're going to get involved with him, you quite simply can't go to that school anymore. It really poses a huge ethical dilemma for them, even if they're not directly teaching your class, because if you start failing they can feel like they've got to put pressure on their colleagues to pass you. That's not something you want. If you really want to date this professor, the best thing to do is wait until you graduate, or else plan to transfer the second either of you even thinks about getting together.

I can't say I am (in reply to the thread title).

Probably because I don't look at people. Nah, looks are but a simple thing that fades for a person who wants a lasting relation; it's not all, me Ug, me like pretty blond with big hips and breasts to bear children. Perhaps to some it's important (to each their own), but it's not to all (to each their own again).

There are stereotypes of what 'pretty' can mean.

Some men consider Asian (Far Eastern) women the most beautiful, whilst others would not even notice them if they were standing in front of them.

I happen to be able to see beauty in all colours and MOST shapes and sizes and I am probably not unique with this.

If you want a meaningful relationship, it is probably a good idea to be yourself and not try to be someone else.

Good luck

Au, I had responded to your posting in your other thread regarding dating your prof. I am going to respond to this again because you said something in this post which needs addressing...

On the other thread, I suggested that you stick to your peers and gave some reasons. You responded that you do not have interest in your peers right now.

I read this thread and noted some "red flags", that is some comments that make me worry about your emotional fabric at this time. I had a look at some of your other postings and would like to very, very strongly caution you about approaching this professor with ANY indication of interest other than that pertaining to your coursework.

You said, "If it is not him, then there is no-one for me." Au, you are only 20 years old!! There are billions of people in the world, there is not just "him" for you. When you say, "If not him - then no-one" I think that you may have an obsession with him. Obsessions and a healthy interest are NOT the same thing.

You indicated in this thread that you may try to find his house or other place that he frequents to approach him. [/b]DON'T DO THIS[b]. You will come across as a stalker. If I was this prof, and a student found out where I live and approached me at my home, I would be worried for my safety. This is not a healthy thing to do. You would be putting the prof in a very awkward position. At best, he will tell you to leave him alone. If he has concerns regarding your behavior - he will contact the college administration and, possibly, the police. He might get a restraining order against you.

In another post, you indicated that you suggested to a teacher at a different school that you would do self harm. There was also indication that you made a bomb threat (even if you were not serious in your intentions). This tells me that you need to work on yourself as a single person before you consider getting yourself involved in any romantic relationships.

PLEASE CONCENTRATE ON SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETING YOUR COURSE WORK. PLEASE CONCENTRATE ON KEEPING YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY STABLE THROUGH COUNSELLING, WORKING WITH YOUR DOCTOR, ANGER MANAGEMENT, WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET THROUGH THE DAYS IN A STABLE WAY.

Right now - this prof needs to be off of your mind. Concentrate on yourself for now and get through the course. Go to Korea and enjoy yourself there. Do not pick up any "gifts" for the prof - just work on yourself for now.

Rosie O'Donnell is the antithesis of sexy. Men generally like women with shaved legs and at least occasional use of lipstick. Don't look like Rosie.

Example of not sexy.

If you just want to bed this guy, then it should be fairly easy if you take the direct approach, but I don't suggest this because in my experience one-night-stands are just that, they are awkward, and do not lead to rewarding relationships. If your question is about growing a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship, then read on.

All men like pretty women, but not all men agree on which women are pretty or which characteristics make a woman pretty so, no, not all men are the same. The cliche "beauty is only skin deep" is true. The most attractive women to me are intelligent, confident, witty, and peaceful, regardless of hair color, face shape, eyeshade, weight, height, and all the other things models care most about. To take this one step further, I am downright prejudiced against models because I think people who spend all their time focusing on their outward appearance must not have much going on on the inside. I would rather spend an evening with a woman engaging in quiet, intelligent, stimulating conversation than basking in the glow of makeup and glitter and having nothing to say. True attractiveness comes from within and shines outward like a beacon and cannot be covered up by makeup.

My advice? Don't spend another second worrying about how you look. Instead, attend to the inner side of yourself and cultivate your personality by doing things like reading, meditating, listening to music, practicing a musical instrument, taking walks in the woods, exploring an art museum, pursuing your hobbies and interests, or any combination of these things that suits your interests. Just be yourself. You are very young and still have a lot of time for your personality to mature. You cannot make another person like you by changing your outward appearance and, even if you could, why would you want to be with somebody who is so superficial anyway? I can spot a poser a mile away.

Don't go to his house unless you are invited. Don't bring him a gift or present until after your first date or until you are sure there is mutual attraction. Don't be afraid to initiate a conversation. One suggestion is to invite him on a casual "mini-date" in a neutral place to allow him to get to know you and vice versa. For example, before or after your next class, invite him to join you at a cafe for tea or coffee for an hour of casual conversation. Get used to the possibility that this may not be the one for you. There is a "right guy" for you out there somewhere in the world, but what makes you think you can find the right guy based only on how he looks?