Talking

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Anyone else here find it uncomfortable to talk as well? I can have long conversations with myself, or even with other people, imagining what I'm going to say, and all that. Yet when I actually am with other people, I find it extremely hard to get it out, and it actually tires me out. Both emotionally, and even physically. Kind of like smiling. I can only do it for so long, as then...I get a face-ache, I guess I should call it.

Definitely! When I talk to myself it's really easy and I can plan what to say, but if I'm actually talking to other people I pretty much forget everything and I stutter, which makes talking really hard for me.

How are you at writing? I’m very bad when it comes to talking but I right fine. I try to write as much as possible so that I don't have to talk.

If I'm relaxed, its not so bad, but under pressure I can either go entirely blank, or start to babble in spoonerisms, mixing up parts of words and sounding like a gibbering idiot. If I'm thrown into a social situation suddenly and unexpectedly, or if someone is angry and yelling at me I just cannot think fast enough to speak coherently.

Leave me by myself and give me a little time to think things through and rehearse and I'm fine.

Give me a few beers and I'll talk your ear off. Of course I won't let you get a word in edgewise and I'll go on endlessly about things you may not care about...but I'll talk....

Unless I have a story to tell, my conversations are short and to the point. I have no interest in extraneous information or small talk.

Only with those of whom do not deserve...

If I'm interested I'm fine... but what I really hate is being "interrogated." Where somebody wants you to explain something and is focusing on you, and I stutter a lot because I'm thinking like 3 different ways on how best to explain it. I hate explaining things. ):

I find talking in and of itself uncomfortable. It just doesn't seem very natural to me. I wish I could communicate to other people telepathically. Then I wouldn't have to translate the images I think into verbal language they can understand that I don't understand as well. It would just be the images and it would be so much easier for me.

Talking tires me out too. Actually, being with other people in general tires me out. I can smile continuously though and I usually do. People like it when you smile.

Mostly tired of talking.

Willard's description applies.

I am totally comfortable with talking.

I am like this too. The thing i hate is while walking my kids to school, i have something to say to the crossing guard (who is very friendly) and it goes through my head perfectly about what i wanna say and then when i get up there, i smile and move on. I also have thought of the sentence while in meetings at the school and when i ask it, it isn't what i rehearsed in my head and i have to explain what exactly what i mean with examples.

I hate talking, but I think it's because I hate how my voice sounds, so I hate hearing myself talk. What I hear sounds much different than what everyone else hears - if I were to record myself speaking, it would sound like a totally different than what I hear while I was saying it.

Talking about my subjects of interest? Yes, quite enjoyable, if I'm talking to someone with the same interests. Talking about something uninteresting or small talk and niceties? Would quite prefer to just keep my mouth shut and them too.

i talk way more online than in real life.

Yeah, talking isn't very comfortable, and quite unnatural. Then when I do talk, people find my speech...not right, although I try to talk properly. And they tease me because I have a tendency to stutter. Like my mouth and my brain can't keep at the same speed. When I have to answer a question or something, my brain is still like 'processing' the question, and my mouth is like ready to give the answer. Like it comes in parts. I understand it, but I think the first word or so, while it comes out. Kind of hard to describe.

Ah, that would be awesome. Then they could see all the pictures in my mind, and see just how beautiful my world(I don't know how else to describe it)really is. And actually appreciate people for their knowledge, not stupid things like how they fit in, or dress, as you can contact their mind. Though using telepathy, I'd be more interested in animals' thoughts. They're much easier to understand, I think. Much simpler, and more...more...descriptive? Like the images?

Yes - even IMing is a chore.

My wife has to facillitate our conversations, even conversations between my 3yo and me. Don't get me wrong. My daughter and I talk, just not conversate.

All my wife's friends and friends' husbands (I have no real friends of my own - anyone else?) love me because my conversations are always the same: comic books, movies, nerd news, my job (because it's a way cooler gig than theirs) and I make an extreme effort to keep the conversation at least 50% about them out if fear I'm biring them.

My wife says, when we talk, the conversation is always about me.