Are AS girls romantically attracted to less people?

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I used to think this was just me, but some recent posts in L&D about high expectations and such have made me consider whether this is a generalized condition among AS girls.

My personal opinion on the matter is that the problem is more due to actually becoming attracted in the first place than having unreasonable expectations.

Recently I became attracted to a guy for the first time in two years, but unfortunately he turned me down. This made me realize just how rarely I actually find myself attracted to someone romantically (although when I am, the feelings are very strong), as I was considering how long it might be before I might get attracted to someone again.

I have many male friends that logically I would be happy to date as I think they are great people, but I just can't quite bring myself to cross that line because the romantic attraction isn't there from my side.

From the posts I've read, I'm not sure whether or not this is the case with AS guys also - from my observations they seem to get attracted on and off with about the same consistency of my NT male friends. However, I could be wrong.

Please discuss...

I have the kind of attraction to people that you described.

If what I know of AS guys applies to AS women then yes, though I think its a byproduct of just knowing that fewer people fit our profile and seeing the right traits in another person is somewhat unusual. I put myself down for once or twice a year (on a good year at least).

Yeah... pretty much "almost never" for me. I did manage to get married, however - so that is certainly a good thing!

I voted rarely...but when it happens, the feelings are very strong.

I was sure to put rarely or often - I'm married and I'm attracted to my husband, but he's been the only person I've attracted to since we got together 7 years ago.

I second that.

Romantically attracted to girls: rarely
Lust-only: several time a week

Almost never. I have high standards, and it's not very often that someone comes along who is nice enough and interesting enough to meet those standards.

Same for me. It's only a few times per decade that I seriously consider pursuing someone, and so far it hasn't worked out for any of them. I just can't seem to get the integrated experience together.

It's an interesting point. I hadn't really thought about it like that before, but I generally only find someone I consider interesting enough to be a romantic possibility once or twice a year. I guess I never thought of it as unusual though, I don't know what's normal for people in general tbh.

I have long term hopeless crushes so I guess rarely for me.

I guess I'm in the minority as usual. I used to rarely be attracted to anyone, but as I've gotten older I've changed alot. If I hang around any guy long enough I start finding them attractive, as long they are not especially old or fat or ugly or something. Just walking around around in public... so many guys catch my eye. Almost all men radiate this beautiful intoxicating masculine energy...

But when it comes to relationships, and what I would actually act on, it is relatively rare I meet guys I think I would have a rapport with. Most guys are just "do-able" but "do not particularly want".

Same. I feel superficial attraction to women quite regularly but only a few have ticked enough boxes to make me consider a relationship so its usually only about once a year for me.

Please define "romantic attraction."
Now and then I find a guy to be visually appealing, so I kind of obsess over him for awhile (like a particular dude at the gym where I work). Somehow, I don't think you're referring to this..?

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