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shoshanna
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01 Nov 2009, 5:32 am

I am trying to get advice from someone who has,or has a relationship with someone with, aspergers. I am trying to determine based on the statements of my friend/very early stage boyfriend , if he really wants to end our relationship . I am having a hard time knowing if he is sincere, because he is extremely angry with me for having to leave for 6 months. I don't define him by his asperger's , but I wonder if it is playing a role in his reaction. We were very connected before I left. We were very fond of each other. we were best friends and liked each other more than friends.We were in the very beginng stage of becoming boyfriend/girlfrind when I had to leave. we had a very connected loving, respectful relationship. the nicest in my life.
Here is my concern, I want to respect someone who wants to be left alone, but I don't want to leave someone alone who wants me to be there. I am not certain because he is so angry. It is hard to know if this is his decision or if it was said out of emotion. I think that there were some mixed signals also. He was trying to make me jealous at times during the conversations and trying to hurt my feelings as well. I am so full of forgiveness when it's appropriate. I love my friend. He is such a good man. He has so many interesting and unique traits. Truely one of a kind. I want to make the right decision here .
I am not the worlds greatest typer. I would love to speak to anyone who thinks they may have some insight. thankyou, shoshanna



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01 Nov 2009, 7:08 am

shoshanna wrote:
I am trying to get advice from someone who has,or has a relationship with someone with, aspergers. I am trying to determine based on the statements of my friend/very early stage boyfriend , if he really wants to end our relationship . I am having a hard time knowing if he is sincere, because he is extremely angry with me for having to leave for 6 months. I don't define him by his asperger's , but I wonder if it is playing a role in his reaction. We were very connected before I left. We were very fond of each other. we were best friends and liked each other more than friends.We were in the very beginng stage of becoming boyfriend/girlfrind when I had to leave. we had a very connected loving, respectful relationship. the nicest in my life.
Here is my concern, I want to respect someone who wants to be left alone, but I don't want to leave someone alone who wants me to be there. I am not certain because he is so angry. It is hard to know if this is his decision or if it was said out of emotion. I think that there were some mixed signals also. He was trying to make me jealous at times during the conversations and trying to hurt my feelings as well. I am so full of forgiveness when it's appropriate. I love my friend. He is such a good man. He has so many interesting and unique traits. Truely one of a kind. I want to make the right decision here .
I am not the worlds greatest typer. I would love to speak to anyone who thinks they may have some insight. If anyone has time (and free long-distance) could you call me at thankyou, shoshanna (not my real name. just ask for your mom if a kid answers)


I would not recommend putting your number online. I would take it down immediately. There are plenty that give you good advice via this forum.


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01 Nov 2009, 11:12 am

Welcome to the WP forums, shoshanna. Here's wishing you all the best. And I second the words from Aimless as well.


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01 Nov 2009, 11:22 am

aimless - you quoted her phone number and then told her she shouldn't post it. Please remove her number from the quote, because she can't.



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01 Nov 2009, 11:23 am

Sorry :oops: The synapses failed to ignite.


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01 Nov 2009, 12:31 pm

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01 Nov 2009, 1:11 pm

Welcome to WP!


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