Do you get upset when people die?

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For some strange reason, I don't get sad over people's deaths, not even from my own family, friends, or especially celebrities, but I still pay my tributes to them, though.

I don't think I really understand the concept of death very well. Not that anybody understand it perfectly, but my dad "explained" it to me after my uncle died when I was very young, and I don't think I understand it much better now than I did then.
Part of it may be that in a strange way, I think of time the same way I think of distance. I'm very strange when it comes to dimensions. When I was young, my mother followed her own invented religion called "infinite dimensionalism" in which she theorized that God is (or exists in?) the infinite dimension. So to exist in the past, in another world, another plane, etc., seems to me as almost the same as existing in another physical place.. if that makes sense.
I'm not sure I ever completely got past that infant-hood phase of believing that when you can't see/hear/contact somebody, they must not really exist. It's very hard for me to imagine other people's lives when not in my presence.

Yes I do.
It is kind of a mixed thing though, it is almost a relief when it is someone in great suffering from illnesses.

Me too, for some reason I don't cry when a loved one dies, not even for my dog.

The only time was when my Bernese Mountain Dog Bentley died last year about this time. That was the only time I actually cried as hard as I did and couldn't stop for a few minutes. After that I was done.

Otherwise, everyone else I don't get upset. I actually prefer it then someone moving away since it's basically the same thing in my head.

I am sad to say that when my aunt passed away, whom I was close with, I felt almost nothing. I don't understand it. All I can do whhen someone dies is put on a sad face, so people don't think I am a horrible person. I am actually more sensitive to animals dying, than humans. Might take several years of therapy to figure out that one.

I think I might be upset if one of my parents died.

I can relate to this, I sob when animals die, I have not been moved in this way to a person's death. I did cry when a guy who lived down the hall from me in my dorm was killed, but I think that was more of an emotional overload from everyone around me crying, I was in no way close to this guy. I would probably cry if my parents or sister died...

Oh hell yes.

I felt nothing much when my gran died and I actually tried to make myself feel something as it felt wrong.
I felt a twinge when I remembered that she was quite like me, and months later felt more sad, but yes, it's a bit disturbing really.
I think it will hit a lot harder when my parents die and I have had nightmares about that.

I only cried when my dog died. My grandpa, uncle, aunt, bf's dad's wife, his uncle, etc died and even my parent's dog...nothing. I knew these people well. It was my favorite uncle too. Only my dog and it's been about 4 years and i want her back so bad.

I think i would cry if my parents, bf or my children die. I don't even want to think of that. Bf's parents...i doubt i would.

For me, it honestly depends who it is.

My first guinea pig's death I was devastated over. The death of John Candy I was somewhat upset over. Ronald Reagan's death I was brought to tears over.

Billy Mays I was kinda up there with.

I really haven't felt deep sadness for much anyone else though; I wasn't even devastated when Michael Jackson died...and he's my favorite music artist of all time.

When my mom passed I didn't feel too upset either. I mean...I found it considerably shocking, but..maybe that was just my way of handling it, I don' know.

Maybe we just have a different way of expressing our reactions to someone's death.

No, I don't. I get upset beforehand, if they're ill and near dying, but once they're dead, I don't really feel anything. The only time I tihnk I've shown considerable reaction was when I was younger (crying over some dead baby birds and my great grandmother on the same day (I cared more about the birds, but I rarely saw my great grandmother) and when one of my dogs was put down while I was at a friend's house) and when I found my grandfather "dead"; he wasn't really dead then, and I still didn't feel much; I just reacted physically, partly because it was expected of me.

But now... I don't feel anything for them. They're dead. It makes me ideal for planning the funerals.

No, never. Especially not people I know. Occasionally, I'll mourn the loss of a great mind or kind soul I hear about in the news, but it is just the permanent loss of their contributions that saddens me. I have three dead ex-boyfriends, one of whom died during the long-distance portion of our relationship, and it never rattled me. I regret their passing, but . . . no real upset.

I do get very upset when my pets die. They are my attachments.

I think if my parents died, especially my mother, I'd be crushed. I'm very afraid of it. I wish I could stop thinking about it. That I doubt I'd get over.

The simple answer, NO. My uncle passed away a few months back, and I never show any emotion what so ever. The same went for my 3 grandparents who passed away. I think the only person I will show any emotion to dying is my mom. I cannot imagine losing her.

I have the exact same problem. When my grandad died I kept going upstairs and putting water in my eyes so I'd look like I was crying because everyone else was upset and I felt like there was something wrong with me because I wasn't. If my pets die I'm devastated. I also dread the idea of something happening to my mum. I've spoke to a psychotherapist about it but it didn't help as they thought it was funny that I planned funerals and worried that if my mum wasn't cremated she might get burried alive. If anyone knows any ways to stop worrying about my mum dying I'd love to hear them as it stops me sleeping at night.