Am I a complete loser?

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I have that feeling that not a lot of people want to be friends with me because I'm not a sports fanatic, video game freak, or even a political freak. The things I'm into are TV shows (mostly cartoons and sitcoms), movies (mostly family-friendly and animated ones) retro stuff, TV commercials, drawing, writing, reading books, and random computer/internet stuff. Whenever I talk about any of those things, they don't get a lot of hype, like for example, I'm surprised that not a lot of people where I live has heard of "Degrassi: The Next Generation". I don't want to abandon my hobbies, but I just want to meet someone with the same tastes as me.

I've seen commercials for Degrassi. Some high school show about stereotypes? Thats what it seemed like. But actually, I think your interests are pretty normal. You're probably just not into the exact same shows/tv series etc. that most are. For example, you said sports. If anyone here talks about sports it's about basketball or football, but I like baseball and boxing.

If you knew the people I know, you'd have a lot of friends hahaha.

No. Having different interests than other people doesn't make you a "complete" or partial loser. It makes you more unique and interesting.

I really don't understand how so many people can actually like all the same stuff. Take beer for instance. I don;t know anyone who liked their first drink of beer. But so many people forced themselves to like it (acquire a taste for it) because everyone else liked it.

Pursuing what you like because it's what you like instead of liking something because others like it makes you cooler in my opinion.

There should be a group on line that likes to talk about it.

Celebrate your differences! Real friends like you more when you be who you are.

You are definitely not a loser. I really enjoy reading your posts.

pursuing your own interests is better then just doing something u don't like just to follow the crowd.

A person is only a looser if they let others make them believe they are.

I think everyone needs to find poeple who are like minded and share their interests. You can look online for freinds on forums and sites like myspace. However if you are stuck in a situation with people you dont feel you relate to that you have to go to, like a job, or a class, that is hard. I personally have had lots of problems with this and have left jobs and churches as i felt bored and left out by everyone and just did not know what to talk about with them. I just used to sit there feeling bored and wishing i could go home and talk on the net about my interests or watch my dvds.

And it made me feel worse that there were groups of people i did relate to, like my group of friends at uni who liked seeing bands, or my group of friends who liked the same tv shows. Becasue of they werent there for me, or i felt they werent getting on with me, id feel desperate like, if they dont like me noone will!

I now have a couple of good friends who are very close and i feel happy with, and, i dont force myself to be with people who bore me, or feel i should. However i have figured out a few tricks for getting on with different people when i am forced to. I just smile, make eye contact, be friendly, and listen to their subjects first to see what they like to talk about. and then ask a few questions on what they like talking about to be polite. I find its good to think of "general" things to talk about, things that effect everyone, like I used to have friends at work who were into martial arts and self defence so we'd do things like make plans for if we were attacked outside work etc. Or with women i used ot chat to them about what it was like when they went clubbing and how men chatted them up, and they were always amused that i showed an interest in those things and liked telling me, or asking me how i chatted up my past girlfriends. NT women love to make friends with guys who talk like that, so they can ask them how men think. Also, if they like to do private jokes and banter, i try to join in and repeat their jokes to make them laugh, or just laugh myself and show them that i find them funny and can have fun. I do enjoy that when i make the effort, so its not like i have to force it or fake that im happy.

Having different intrests than people around you doesn't mean that you are a loser. I like writing and reading as well and I love to watch TV. Why don't you join a writers club there are plenty of them online with which you can share your stuff with.

I don't think that you're a loser. I think that you're a wonderful person.

You sound pretty cool to me.

really don't understand how so many people can actually like all the same stuff. Take beer for instance. I don;t know anyone who liked their first drink of beer. But so many people forced themselves to like it (acquire a taste for it) because everyone else like.

I did it around the age of 16 "pretending to be normal" in hindsight I'm glad I did it ,it's now become my #1 AS passion, so much so that I homebrew.