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I have been trying to tell my parents I have AS for the past 8 months. I made it a goal to tell them before christmas. My mom knows a lot about autism and a good bit about aspergers. I don't want to make it sound too serious but I want to tell them the truth, that I found out I had it in April. How do I tell them?

If telling them in person is too much, maybe write a letter?
I've done that in the past. That way you say everything you mean to say, don't get distracted by your own nervousness, etc.

Writing a letter wouldn't really suit me. I'm just trying to figure out the right way to say it and word it.

Are you self-diagnosed? If so, I think it'd be better to discuss the matter with your knowledgable mother. See what she thinks.

Eventually get diagnosed. Many people mis-self-diagnosed. I'm not saying you are, but it might be the case.

If you are diagnosed, go tell her... "Hi mom, I got diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome."

As she's your mom, I think she will be suspicious of a self-diagnosis. And possibly rightfully so.

Oh, and another idea:

"Mom? Remember when I was like five and the only thing I ever did way build model airplanes/read washing labels/collect rocks/stamps/scissors every waking moment and wasn't so fond of other kids?"
"Uhm.. Yes?"
"I have AS."

Well, since your mom is already fimiliar with AS/Autism, I think it would be a good idea to just ask her a few questions about it, getting a conversation started. Maybe ask her what some of the traits are, then tell her that you've been doing some reading yourself, and that you suspect you might have it. It shouldn't come as much of a surprise to her, if she already know what AS is about.

Since you're actually diagnosed, just tell your mom. Maybe you could show her any documentation you may have gotten from your doctor. Since she already knows a lot about AS, there's a good chance she already suspected it.

I'm not sure how much my mom knows about AS but I know that she knows some of the symptoms of it.
I haven't been diagnosed with aspergers but I am absolutely sure I have it.

My parents don't know about this "asperger's syndrome" thing. They just knew I'm abnormal and autistic. I ain't planning to tell them though. But if they will ask me, I'll tell them.